How do I make friends?

I'm not an expert at this, but my opinion is that first wewe need to be face front with these childish girls who are spreading false rumors about you. I'd tell them what I think if they alisema those things in front of me au in the same room. wewe should too. If wewe do that, wewe got to at least say it confidently with a bada** attitude. Like a "You did not just say that." I guess wewe could ignore them too,but I think they'll just keep telling lies and zaidi lies. Note: Everything is about confidence. If wewe shy away from what they are saying about you, they know that they are winning and getting the best of you.

And sekunde of all, if wewe really think that Kat girl is okay, I think wewe should be Marafiki with her. Just ignore her mean friends. Sara is just immature. And if Sara stopped calling wewe those, maybe she got over it and grew up. I don;t know for sure.

To getting to be Marafiki with Kat: I would compliment her a lot. For example I'd say "Hey, I like your shirt." She'd say "Thanks." I'd say "Where did wewe get it at?" and the conversation goes on from there. Ask her about what type of muziki she likes au a would wewe rather question. I don't know. Just say something to get conversations going. Once wewe know each other pretty well, i'd ask if she'd ever want to hang out.


I'd say more,but I got to go now. I have to study for the state test we have for science class. I didn't study at all this weekend. LOL. Gonna fail.

And I also note not to take things to seriously and take a chill pill. Just go with the flow and don't think about things too much(lol I sound like a hippie). wewe don't need to have friends. It's nice to have them, but it's better to have no Marafiki than bad friends.

hope this helps :)

She's going to puberty au some other crisis.
Either way, great job ditching her.
Don't worry too much about friends. They will come...and go. Thats how most friendships are. The best way to make Marafiki is to go jiunge a club. You're practically forced to go do activities with them. A lot of girls do that. Find girls that don't. A lot of people are like this, you're not that different from other people. wewe can pull wonders if wewe force yourself to do so.

There are many things wewe can do:
1. Find out why the other girls keep calling wewe names. It could be that they too also have a crush on someone that has a crush on you, and they are jealous. It could be because one person had spread the rumour and they are afraid that wewe are only out to take their crush.
2. Try not to get offended if someone gives wewe constructive criticism. If they say wewe seem to be flirting with everyone's crush - examine what wewe are doing. No one likes it when their Marafiki hit on their crush. (Please note I am not saying wewe have been doing these things, but in 1. wewe asked them why they are calling the names.)
3. Get to the bottom of any rumours that are false. If a guy has been going around telling his girlfriend that wewe have been hitting on him, and wewe have not - then talk to both of them together.
4. If your research on the name calling isn't getting anywhere, and wewe feel that they are just being childish bullies, then songesha on - they may grow up, au they may not ever grow up.
5. To get new friends, do some zaidi research. Especially if wewe are at a big school. Find out some of the groups, after school activities, etc. that are sponsored kwa the school. (Remember though wewe are in school to learn, and not just to make friends. Any activity that wewe decide on would have to wait if your grades are not good, au drop after starting the activity.)
6. Try starting a conversation with the 2 girls that wewe think are decent. wewe could talk about some of the klabu that wewe are in on fanpop. If they are not fanpopping already, wewe could introduce them to the site.
7. If your parents are willing to help - wewe could suggest studying together after school at your place - mom's making _____ for chakula cha jioni, karamu - your parents can drive them nyumbani after supper.
8. All wewe can do is try - don't be confrontational, but at the same time try to be yourself. If all the suggestions wewe get from us and your family don't work - don't let it get wewe down. Remember wewe will be going to another school soon and will be making a whole new set of friends.

First of all, one huge hug. :)
From what I've read about your ex-BFF she sounds like a really mean girl and definitely not worth your time. I realise having a "friend" who talks trash about you(behind your back au to your face) is really not worth hanging around. Those girls who used to call wewe mean names is worth forgetting. Believe me, I've had my own share of nightmares involving mean girls who think they have the right to make others feel insecure. Two words: Ignore them.
Actually I've learned my leesson that as long as I stop trying be like somebody else people are interested in getting to know me, the real me.
These girls(Lucy and Kat),from what I've read, have the potential to be close friend material. Trust me, I've thought that making Marafiki was hard too. At some point wewe have to stop trying so hard, and let it be. I think there's no point in waiting until for high school. Come on, give it a shot. If they are lucky enough to see your awesomeness, wewe may end up close friends. If not wewe gave it your best shot.
I hope it all works out for you.:)
And please keep us ilitumwa on developments, will ya?:)

Just be yourself.