Give me wewe advice

About a mwaka ago, my best friend since first grade dropped me like I was a hot potato. I stood up for her several times because she was being called ugly and nerdy kwa girls who were supposedly her friends- nowadays those are the people she hangs out with. I was so miserable because I felt like it was my fault and that I did something wrong. I tried asking if she was angry with me, but she always replied with, "No, why would wewe think that?" After a couple months, we didn't even make eye contact with each other. She turned her back on me and I was absolutely crushed- I even lashed out at my mother, who had done nothing, because she brought her up. The best thing anyone can do in a situation like that is songesha on, which is exactly what you're trying to do. Making Marafiki isn't easy- it takes time and dedication. What wewe need to do is listen to conversations around you. If the people involved are talking about something you're interested in, wewe jiunge the conversation without a sekunde thought. It can be hard, but it works out in the long run. Even if they completely reject you, it's better to have tried and failed than to not try at all. The biggest thing about making Marafiki is persistence- keep trying to find someone wewe have common interests with, but don't be annoying. I always make Marafiki kwa making terrible puns; it almost always works. But wewe need to remember to be yourself, and keep your values in mind. Let's say wewe value not smoking, and your potential Marafiki are trying to offer wewe a cigarette. Friendship is all about being able to be yourself with people who are close to you. If wewe have to put on a mask in order to hang out with your 'friends' then wewe need to rethink your priorities, and remember who wewe want to be, not who your Marafiki want wewe to be.

To sum it up:

1. Persistence is key- there's absolutely no guarantee that someone is going to immediately ask wewe to be their BFF. In fact, the first time wewe try joining a conversation, they'll probably completely ignore you. But that doesn't mean wewe should give up.

2. Be yourself, and no one else- Real Marafiki will upendo wewe no matter what wewe do au believe in. It's so incredibly important that wewe remember what wewe as an individual want. If being Marafiki with someone keeps wewe from being truly happy and shining as bright as wewe should, you're in a poisonous relationship.

3. Remember that Marafiki will come and go- Nothing lasts forever, I've learned that the hard way. What matters most is that wewe keep all the memories =, not just the good ones, and learn from your past relationships and mistakes. It might take some time, but sooner au later, you'll look back and thank that person for inaonyesha their true colors- if they hadn't, wewe probably would have ended up hurt even more.