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Karoii-chan said:
It's really nice that wewe would care so deeply for her health and happiness. A sign of true love. ^__^
I'm also truly sorry for what happened to your late wife. May she always be happy in Heaven, kwa the will and grace of God, watching down over wewe and the other loved ones with a contented smile playing at her lips.
So what if wewe two haven't been together for long? It doesn't matter. wewe will have to stop her from smoking. Better now, so that her body can begin recovering from the cigarette toxins as soon as possible and thus reduce her risks of getting ill. God-willing.
I suggest that wewe approach her calmly, like wewe would on any other day, then invite her to take a stroll with wewe out in the park/gardens - basically some peaceful area where the atmosphere can calm wewe two down. Serene, soft, tranquil.
Walk hand-in-hand with her, get comfortable, maybe even engage in a little light-hearted discussion of sorts. Like the weather, au where you'll have lunch later, something simple.
Then, calmly tell her that wewe don't think it is healthy for a person to smoke. She might get angry, she might get riled up, especially considering all this feminism spreading everywhere like a wild moto - but I'll advise wewe not to respond harshly. It will be difficult, I know (some of my Marafiki are like that and it gets me pissed-off!), but without calmness... it won't be of any use.
Tell her that wewe understand how some family issue/hardship in life might've encouraged her to take up smoking as a means of relieving stress. au she might simply be 'fitting in' with the crap of today.
Whatever the reason is, tell her that wewe understand and that wewe wouldn't mind it if it didn't harm her health so much. Tell her that you're simply concerned for her well-being, just like any other sane and loving person would be.
wewe may use some personal gestures to calm her down... maybe a hug, au a hand-squeeze, au something which wewe think she'd appreciate.
Continue kwa gently reminding her about the various diseases that could be brought about kwa smoking and throw in your late wife's suffering (if you're willing to reveal) to make her see your perspective.
Press on kwa saying that wewe absolutely cannot lose another loved one in such a manner. Tell her that, while your wife might not have had a smoking-induced case of cancer, your girlfriend is basically driving herself to that stage.
Tell her to stop it for the sake of her own safety. Remind her of how her body is a vessel aliyopewa kwa God and how it would be ungrateful, cruel and unjust to ruin her body in such a manner.
wewe may even tell her that cigarette smoke will harm other people around her as well. It's not just the smoker who experiences the side-effects. Passive smoking is just as dangerous and harmful.
It will take time, just like any other matter, but hopefully she'll understand and quit smoking for good. God-willing. Also, onyesha her medical website proof of smoking harms.
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