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LaughingHyena said:
I personally wouldn't say that women talk zaidi on the whole; but rather that the situations in which we talk, and the relationships that we form as a result of talking, is altogether different to men. When two men meet, it's often outside of the nyumbani (at work, in a pub etc), which means a lot of the personal side of a relationship is left out. A man can talk to another man and perhaps have nothing in common at all with him, other than the fact that they find each other's company pleasant. However, since women have traditionally spent zaidi time at nyumbani and still invite Marafiki over to their houses in a way that men wouldn't do unless they really knew that person well, female Marafiki often know a lot zaidi about each other's lives and so have zaidi to talk about, as well as meeting in their own homes in a zaidi relaxing and less distracting atmosphere. The zaidi a woman knows about her friend through talking, the deeper the relationship becomes, which in turn means that they talk more, etc etc. Men's relationships however are often zaidi fleeting in occasion, and are most often formed around non-personal subjects such as work, business, a particular leisure activity, sport au hobby etc and so their talk mostly revolves around that subject in the situation that they meet, and often don't tend to be that bothered with the other details of that friend's life (unless it is a close friend that they have known for a long time), just as long as they find each other's company entertaining. That's my theory anyway, based on what I've seen kwa the way my mum, dad and Marafiki talk to others.
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