Disney Princess Encouraging Words

SarahCorine posted on May 10, 2017 at 05:15PM
In light of recent events to a user here, I've decided to create this forum. It's exactly as it says it is. Here, you can vent about anything you'd like. Personal, relationship, family, friends, work. . .etc. And others can post encouraging words or advice. Anything that can help. I also want to bring attention to this horrible site called Kiwi Farms. I didn't know such a site existed until just a few days ago and I'm so sick at the purpose of this site. Listen to this. . .

In the "About us" section of Kiwi Farms, it states
"Founded as the CWCki Forums, and originally dedicated to Christian Weston Chandler, the Kiwi Farms is about eccentrics on the Internet. These people are commonly referred to as Lolcows and are fascinating for reasons distinct to each spectator. We document the phenomenon, with every member bringing different perspectives and opinions to discussion. It is this diversity which has caused our peculiar community to thrive."

According to the site, Lolcows are "Lolcows are people and groups whose eccentric or foolish behavior can be "milked" for amusement and laughs."

When I looked into removing content from this site, I came across their rules for removing content. Follow the link below to understand their reasoning.
https://kiwifarms.net/help/removing-conte­nt/­

Here's my story.
My cousin passed away in 2013. I shared my sorrow here on Fanpop and I was amazed at the response I received. So many users reached out to me to tell me how sorry they were. I know it doesn't seem like much but it really was. To this day, I still remember the kindness and I'm forever grateful. I've also been posting on the wall lately about my boyfriend's parents and how they have been bullies to us. Well that is actually getting better now. My point is Fanpop is all about fandoms. Even before I joined his site, I knew that fandoms were like little families and communities.

That's why I've decided to create this forum. Kiwi Farms is all about cyber bullies. The users on that site intentionally mock and make fun of people who have a passion for what they're fans of. On the other hand, Fanpop is all about passion. We have a passion for Disney Princesses on this page. That's why we can literally spend hours on here, analyzing The Little Mermaid, Jasmine, Mulan and Shang, Gaston. . .etc. And it's fun for us. It's stepping out of our own reality and finding these worlds and characters and music and embracing it as a reality just as real as our own because it's fun.

So the rules for this forum is just be kind. Post about your sorrow and grievances and others will post anything kind. Kind words, phrases, lyrics, bible verses. Anything to help you through. And you can come back later to post updates about what's bothering you. Is it getting better or can we help some more? I don't get on Fanpop too much anymore but I'll get on more often just to do what I can to help. I don't know if this is going to take off the way I hope it does, but if nothing else, vent to me and I'll do my best to help you through.

Listen in life, you have two choices. You can either be a Kiwi Farms person or a Fanpop person. The choice is yours.
 In light of hivi karibuni events to a user here, I've decided to create this forum. It's exactly as it says
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miezi 12 iliyopita disnerdtobe said…
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I think this is a good idea! Just to have place to talk about stuff with each other. Thanks for making this thread!
miezi 12 iliyopita SarahCorine said…
smile
Oh no problem. Feel free to vent about anything on here. I have to get on my computer everyday anyways to do my homework so I'll always have time to respond and offer any kind of kindness or advice I can.
miezi 10 iliyopita disnerdtobe said…
Today I've been kinda having a bad day. To make things worse, someone was rude with me. I don't really wanna talk about it. Idk I'm just here to vent and just kinda in a bad mood from it all.
wavesurf commented…
^I'm sorry to hear that. I've been feeling yucky for days.. I've had another "fight" with a user on Fanpop, which left me feeling like broken glass. I saw that wewe friended me, so I added wewe back. No sweat. I'm sorry, that you're feeling low. It's not a good thing to feel sad, but you're not alone. <3 miezi 10 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
Thanks for the encouraging words. I'm feeling a little better now. miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita wavesurf said…
I do not like the people on the internet in general. In particular, though I have been on Fanpop for five years, I don't appreciate those who attack me for defending Ariel. I don't have to defend Mulan hardly at all, but it's always Ariel that everyone around here goes after! This is part of why I don't like Fanpop very much--- it seems that this is where a great concentration of all of the cyber bullies who hate Ariel hang out. It makes it tough to be an Ariel fan, when all you'll ever hear about her is how her hair looks like tomato ketchup, how "stupid" she is, how "she doesn't deserve any fans," and "how she is terrible and the worst Disney princess."

One of my friends left Fanpop entirely because of all of the cyber bullying here! Thus when certain users "jump all over me" about my dislike of Tiana, Belle, Elsa, Merida, Melody, etc., or they post filth about my love of Ariel...I don't feel very good. It's a constant reminder to me that people can show you the worst of themselves. It's while I'm defending myself from the most hurtful of the comments, that I end up hating myself all the more.

You don't even need to go visit sites like Kiwi Farms. The hatred and nastiness is alive on Fanpop, and has been for years.
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disnerdtobe commented…
I'm sorry that wewe feel this way. It's tough and can feel discouraging when everyone seems to oppose something that wewe love. For the record though, if it makes wewe feel better, not all of us hate Ariel. I, for one, and KataraLover and PrueFever upendo Ariel and I'm sure there are others that actually like her. I haven't been here long enough but maybe it's just the vocal minority cause people like to rant about their least inayopendelewa princess? Like I rant about Tiana a lot cause she's my least inayopendelewa so I'm kinda guilty of that. It happens I guess. Yeah there's definitely a lot of underserved criticism of Ariel and I think she deserves zaidi credit than she gets. As for the bullying, I think the situation might be that it's one au a few people posing as multiple users and attacking other users as well, if wewe know what I mean. Don't hate yourself. You're a strong person, just like Ariel. Don't let the negativity get to you. miezi 10 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
Have no fear, these kind of people means nothing, NOTHING in life!!! miezi 10 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
^Thanks, Dee! miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita cruella said…
Honestly, I've been kind of afraid to post my opinion on Fanpop lately. I now that probably sounds silly, but during and right after the election when it got out that I voted for Trump I got brutally attacked by a bunch of trolls and some regular users (who will remain nameless). For months I would receive messages telling me that I should, go kill myself, or go fuck myself, or that they hoped Trump would rape me and many more. I honestly couldn't post anything without either my post getting attacked or receiving a lot of messages from them. A lot of the trolls even had usernames that were directer insults at me, like fuckcruella or cruellastrash. It got to the point that I felt like dying, every time I got another one of those awful messages. I'm not asking that everybody agree with me on who we should vote for, but can we just respect each other when we don't agree?
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wavesurf commented…
^I'd agree to that. It's the world at large...that doesn't. And I'm sorry that the last couple of months have been so horrible for you. These users, though, have shown wewe their true colors. futa their messages. Block the messages from such users ( there is a fanpop setting for this), and generally don't open fanpop mail wewe suspect is from bullies. You're entitled to preserve your own sanity. If it's any consolation, I've gotten a mountain of messages telling me to f-myself, kill myself, and I have received death threats from people on fanpop telling me that they will find out where I live and kill me . It's not unusual, sadly. Try not to open fanpop mail wewe think is from such people. If wewe don't want to post because wewe think it aggravates the situation, then wewe don't have to post anything.*hugs you* miezi 10 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
I'm so sorry and that's so horrible that wewe have to go through that! There are sooooo many rude people on the internet. This hasn't happened on fanpop, but when I ask a swali on another website, I just get a bunch of responses that make wild assumptions and accusations for who I am as a person. It's terrible! It's disgusting that someone would use politics to bully someone! The trolls just showed who they truly are kwa what they've done. They're the ones who should be ashamed of themselves, not you! And they just proved that the nasty ones are them! It's really lame, when wewe think about it, don't wewe think, that someone would go the full extent of making multiple accounts just to attack other users. Like wavesurf said, you're not alone. Other users have been attacked too and we seem to have a problem with, ahem, extraneous accounts around here. miezi 10 iliyopita
cruella commented…
Thank you. And yeah, I should probably keep my political maoni to myself. miezi 9 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita MalloMar said…
This forum is a beautiful idea. I have nothing to say as of now, but I have to say this will make a nice addition to the club. I knew this community was overall kindhearted, despite what it sometimes seems.
disnerdtobe commented…
I agree! miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
Okay, I dunno whether this is consider as a vent, but I might say it! I suspected that my previous Filipino maid is a con woman yesterday because she stole money from my purse last time and even con my mother with a LOT of money to which I will not disclose it here for privacy reasons. Glad she is no longer working for us!
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disnerdtobe commented…
That's terrible! Con people are the worst. It's great that wewe fired her! That maid had it coming! Ugh people like her are why I'm always anxious about which people to trust T_T So sorry that wewe had to experience such unprofessionalism. I can only imagine it must be frustrating! miezi 10 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
Actually, she decided not to come back to work. miezi 10 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
Oh that's great! :) miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita disnerdtobe said…
angry
Today I had a fight with my mom. I don't want to go into details, but if I have acted antsy today and taken it all out on Tiana, I apologize. I tend to take things out on Tiana tbh, because she makes me feel insufficient. Basically the argument from my mom was that I wasn't enough of a Tiana. Always never enough of a "Tiana". I wish I could be the perfect daughter, but I come back no matter how hard I try.
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Sparklefairy375 commented…
I understand your feelings dear :( miscommunication between parent and child is normal things happen. Try to make a good communication in good situation, too. Your last sentence reminds me with Mulan's song Reflection anyway. miezi 10 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
^I've fought with my mom all of my life. She and I don't have the same viewpoints nor the same goals. I'll never seek a spell to make her something else, though. I'd rather change myself and leave home, instead. And I know completely, that I will never be like Tiana...because that is just impossible. miezi 10 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
Thanks guys. Haha yeah I actually got that quote from Moana, who got it from Mulan I suppose. miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 10 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
Okay, it's about 2 psychopathic trolls that recently stalk me.
Sparklefairy375 commented…
Trolls...yeah this problem was never solved here. I often saw many troll accounts are attacking wewe in your wallpost. Do not reply any of their post, if wewe reply them angrily it just made them happier to made wewe angry. Just ignore and ripoti their accounts and comments. miezi 10 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
Wow. I'm sorry, Dee. Cruella is getting the same thing, too. fanpop is not always a lovely place. Just ripoti them to the fanpop mods. miezi 10 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
THANK wewe GUYS1! miezi 10 iliyopita
miezi 9 iliyopita mhs1025 said…
I haven't really talked about this much, but I feel like I need to say something now. I've been fighting demons for forever now. It's taken such a toll on my mental state to the point where I want to break apart. Every time I try to forget about a certain thing, I always get led back to a demon. I've tried so long to kick this, but now, I think it's just beginning to snap.
wavesurf commented…
^I don't want this to sound as if I'm prying into your life...but, have wewe been to see a psychatrist lately? I mean, back when I "snapped" and was close to "falling apart completely" I went to the college psychiatric office and got myself some therapy. Not trying to push wewe au anything, but my head wasn't in a good place back then, and that's what I did. miezi 9 iliyopita
cruella commented…
I have to agree with wavesurf. Have wewe tried counseling? Back when I was going through a big depression I went to a counselor and she helped me a lot. Anyway, I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time. miezi 9 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
^I'lll keep wewe in my prayers. *hugs you* miezi 9 iliyopita
miezi 9 iliyopita wavesurf said…
So... It's not like I'm not used to this. My mother has called me rebellious, a liar, not living in the real world, lazy, disrespectful, neurotic, etc. I also remember the mornings when she woke me out of deep sleep to continue arguments about how I was so disrespectful to her. I remember back when she said that I had "connectivity issues" --which basically meant that I had problems making friends and interacting with others.
Today, because my mother wants me to go back to school and get a better paying job, and because I voiced concern/worry over another clinical placement--- my mother suddenly told me that, " You're not going to like me saying this, but you are a control freak."

So now, I have another "label" added to the litany of labels my mother has "tossed" on top of me throughout my childhood and much of my adult life.

My brother moved out a year ago, and got away from her. When will I get my own chance to leave?
wavesurf commented…
This post is not to "drum up zaidi sympathy" for myself. I'm just angry at her, for shoving yet another LABEL into my face. miezi 9 iliyopita
mhs1025 commented…
^ Because it was HURTFUL. That WAS an insult, especially on a foramu that's supposed to be COMFORTING, no matter how many times wewe deny it. Yes, it's our jobs to keep our stories as private as possible, but wavesurf is, like I said, human, just like the rest of us. Besides, we're not insulting you. We're just trying to tell wewe it's not right to judge. Now, I suggest we all end this little spat right here, au it'll only be a matter of time before SarahCorine sees and actually TAKES this foramu DOWN. miezi 9 iliyopita
Sparklefairy375 commented…
BelleRose, to be honest with wewe alisema that she deserve the bad treatment from her mother and told that it's a karma that she deserve, it's very clearly a humiliation that really hurtful. I previously has same thinking with wewe when first time I saw this post, but honestly I can relate with her problem and feel sorry for her situation. I can understand why wewe didn't feel need to be sympathetic to her, but still like mhs1025 alisema it's not right to judge. Even just quiet and ignore this post is better than that. miezi 9 iliyopita
miezi 9 iliyopita Sparklefairy375 said…
This is literally same problem with @deedragongirl who post her problem above, but yeah there's a troll account that strongly attack me on a club just because I made a poll and defend specific character. The troll is already gone, but every time I read the troll's abusive comment then it hurts me :(
deedragongirl commented…
Same here! miezi 9 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
^ I'm sorry to hear this from both of you. I just had a string of private messages from a hater/troll last week, too. Unfortunately, the trolls are a re-occuring problem with fanpop in general. My advice is to just don't keep re-reading what they've alisema that hurts you. I know this from vast experience myself. miezi 9 iliyopita
Sparklefairy375 commented…
^Thanks a lot for both of wewe :D miezi 9 iliyopita
miezi 8 iliyopita mhs1025 said…
crying
Ever since I got some horrible news, I've been in this depression. I'd rather not talk about it now. In fact, I might confirm it on the actual wall later on. (Actually, you can kinda sorta tell by my new icon.) Anyway, I really need your help! If you can help, that would really be appreciated!
cruella commented…
I'm so sorry. I'll definitely pray for you. If wewe do want to talk to someone wewe can always message me. miezi 8 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
I'm sorry wewe are in so much distress. I'm praying for you. Like Cruella said, wewe can message us if wewe do want to talk. miezi 8 iliyopita
mhs1025 commented…
Thanks guys! I might message/inbox y'all in the inayofuata bit. miezi 8 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
So sorry to hear about this. Hope you're feeling better! miezi 8 iliyopita
miezi 8 iliyopita cruella said…
meh
There's this user who's been kinda trolling me, since I got on to her about being insensitive and disrespectful about the people who died on 9/11. I don't want to get into big details but here's a direct quote from one of her replies to me: "Bold statement from a motherfucker who is 28, has a jar jar icon, thinks Disney is the shit, and can't handle the word hell. I hope they make cribs in twin size" As you can tell she's a cyber bully, and I know I should ignore her, it's just hard.
deedragongirl commented…
That's a psychopath! miezi 8 iliyopita
cruella commented…
Yeah it is. miezi 8 iliyopita
cruella commented…
^Very true. Thanks for those encouraging words. miezi 8 iliyopita
miezi 8 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
sad
First and foremost, no hard feelings to haterlaxene, he (or she) is so obsessed with the Aladdin issue. Can't he (or she) just drop it already? It's getting really up to the point of being immature! I'm so sorry for my rant.
Sparklefairy375 commented…
Hatelarxene is basically sad and pathetic person ever with cannot accept anyone who has different opinion about him. miezi 8 iliyopita
Sparklefairy375 commented…
Maybe wewe can check this kura ya maoni to prove how pathethic he is: www.fanpop.com/clubs/random/picks/results/1649579/who-looks-more-like-man miezi 8 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
^^ I think he definitely needs anger management! miezi 8 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
I absolutely can't stand my mom sometimes, whenever I voiced out my problems to her. She has an annoying tendency to get moody and speak to me coldly and very rough. I suspect that she might be very negative.
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cruella commented…
I'm really sorry about that. I'll definitely pray about it. miezi 7 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
sorry about that. And wewe may be right. She's probably negative. miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita MaidofOrleans said…
I graduated college in June but haven't been able to find a "real" job. I know that I'm not working hard enough at job searching, but I can't figure out how to make myself focus. Today I made a schedule for myself and that seemed to help, so I'm going to keep doing that. I need to follow up with a place I applied at a couple weeks ago, but I have really bad anxiety about calling places on the phone. I keep putting it off, but I know the longer I wait the less likely it is I'll get the job. Everyone's expectations for me are so smothering, but at the same time I feel so guilty for not fulfilling those expectations because I really do think I can do it if I can just make myself work harder. I also just feel like the stereotypical graduate who's living out of their parents' house and not really doing anything. I feel like I'm mooching off of my parents even though I know they are happy to have me living with them. There are so many things that I want to do, and I plan on doing all of them, but I am so so terrified that I won't meet my own expectations for myself.
JungleQueen13 commented…
I graduated a couple of years ago, and it took me a few months to find a job. I remember feeling really down because everyone was constantly asking if I had a job yet and I felt like a failure when I alisema no. I guess the thing is that practically everyone does find a job eventually, it just takes some longer than others. Just take your time and pursue the ones that seem right for you, and it will all fall together eventually. I used to hate calling places too, but I think the zaidi wewe do it the less stressful it becomes. Good luck! :) miezi 7 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
I totally get what wewe mean with the guilt and and the way wewe feel is probably common. Yeah, the expectations can be suffocating and I don’t like the media’s stereotypes - it doesn’t help anyone. Maybe you’re just intimidated? I was told that sometimes job descriptions can seem intimidating and wewe might FEEL that you’re not qualified enough, but wewe should still apply anyway because sometimes, they’ll take whoever’s available, and wewe may actually be zaidi qualified than wewe give yourself credit for. I don’t know if this helps, but if your college has a career centre, they’re usually eager to help out new grads set foot into their career (after all, successful grads make them look good!). miezi 7 iliyopita
MaidofOrleans commented…
Thank wewe guys so much for the encouraging words! <3 I've been working harder at finding jobs over the past few days and I'm feeling better about things now. :) miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
The other day, I let my 2 dogs out and one of them scratched the glass at the main entrance which left some scratches on it. I already apologise to my mom and there was no reply from her. I was afraid that she might be upset, just you know that she's in Europe now.
disnerdtobe commented…
Maybe she's just too busy enjoying herself. au just stay silent (she's in Europe after all!), and maybe get the door fixed before she gets back. Then she won't notice and if she asks, just say it was a joke. miezi 7 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
^^ I already apologise to her, and she's alright. If she brings it out again, I will apologise to her again! miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita Sparklefairy375 said…
I just realize that I got most ridiculous message ever since I join Fanpop. Since when Arabs considered as Caucasian?
I feel bad for being bullied just because this ridiculous argument -_-

Recently everytime I open Fanpop I often see peoples who constantly though that Indian=Arab but it's not. They accuse others to be SJWs to be disagree with Naomi Scott as Jasmine but they don't realize they did whitewashing by consider Indian and Arab =Caucasian. I'm seriously tired with all this stuffs.
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 I just realize that I got most ridiculous message ever since I jiunge Fanpop. Since when Arabs consider
deedragongirl commented…
Just block him la, and tell him you're being ridiculous. miezi 7 iliyopita
Sparklefairy375 commented…
I futa that message, and I'll try to block that user. miezi 7 iliyopita
deedragongirl commented…
^^ wewe just ignore him/ her, at the end of the siku this person will come to realise her/his mistake and they will immediately stop. Just trust me! miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita disnerdtobe said…
hmmm
It just occurred to me that I have a hard time saying no. And when I do stand up for myself, I get insulted. I know other people's opinion of me shouldn't matter, but it still hurts.
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disnerdtobe commented…
I also hate it when people judge wewe for things. Like, just mind your own business. miezi 7 iliyopita
Sparklefairy375 commented…
The same thing happens with me, too. miezi 7 iliyopita
mhs1025 commented…
I have the same problem. Afew years ago, when I expressed my opinion on something, I got insulted for it. miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
Asteriamalfoy is such a whiny and immature fanpop user. I hope she grows up!!
Sparklefairy375 commented…
So true xD miezi 7 iliyopita
cruella commented…
Yup. :P miezi 7 iliyopita
miezi 7 iliyopita mhs1025 said…
Okay guys, I haven't really been vocal about this at all, but I've decided to speak about it now. My grandmother died a couple weeks ago. I'm still overwhelmed and I would really appreciate it if you would keep my family in your prayers.
wavesurf commented…
I'm so sorry. I'll keep wewe in my prayers. <3 miezi 7 iliyopita
disnerdtobe commented…
So sorry to hear about that. May she rest in peace. miezi 7 iliyopita
cruella commented…
I’m really sorry about that. I’ll definitely pray for wewe and your family. miezi 7 iliyopita
MaidofOrleans commented…
I'm so sorry. wewe and your family are in my thoughts! miezi 6 iliyopita
miezi 6 iliyopita cruella said…
crying
As you may already know, I’m the home health care worker for my Grandma so I have to go over to her house several times during the week and check on her. Well, when I went there this morning, I found her laying on the bathroom floor, in a puddle of her own waste, and she was barely conscious. She’s at the hospital right now, and according to the people at the ER they think she had a stroke. Please pray for and remember, her and the rest of our family.
disnerdtobe commented…
That’s awful and scary! I hope she recovers. miezi 6 iliyopita
MaidofOrleans commented…
Oh no! My best wishes to her and your family! miezi 6 iliyopita
cruella commented…
Thank wewe guys. She seems to be doing a little better today. miezi 6 iliyopita
mhs1025 commented…
I'm so sorry, cruella! Sending prayers your way! miezi 5 iliyopita
miezi 5 iliyopita deedragongirl said…
Once again, it's my mom, I can't stand her at all when she scold the maids, my mom is hot-tempered and she's unprofessional, she would call all sorts of names to the maid and my mom loves using harsh words. In other words, she's abrasive. That's the main reason why I disliked my mom sometimes.
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miezi 4 iliyopita Sparklefairy375 said…
I really like to join Fanpop and especially this club, but I feel like I was mocked to have not so good English with certain users :( English is not my native language and it feels difficult enough for me to learn it. It really bothers me and I'm afraid if some peoples here won't like me because of that.
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 I really like to jiunge fanpop and especially this club, but I feel like I was mocked to have not so go
MaidofOrleans commented…
I'm so sorry wewe feel this way! I think your English is great and I never have any trouble understanding wewe :) miezi 4 iliyopita
SarahCorine commented…
Your English is really good. Not just that, but you're pretty solid with your grammar. Good job. Don't worry what anyone says. Just do you. A couple years ago, I was kinda mocked au made fun of. I started this countdown was a lot of people alisema it was stupid and unnecessary. Ok because I've seen an makala for a countdown of the best DP knees. It ended with only one kura ya maoni wewe just have to ignore the people that put wewe down. And come to this foramu instead. =) miezi 4 iliyopita
UnholyNoise commented…
for whatever it's worth, i've never felt like i couldn't understand you. wewe make great points that anyone who knows how to read english should be able to understand. so, if anyone is giving wewe shit for it, it's their problem. i'm betting they don't know any other languages as well as wewe know english anyway :) miezi 3 iliyopita
miezi 3 iliyopita SarahCorine said…
rainy
Alright so I guess I'm gonna have to be ok with being homeless very soon. Our roommates just told me and my boyfriend that we have til March to get out. We've been here since September. Apparently, our roommate's parents are cosigners on the house we live in so they don't want them to have roommates. Ok they've had roommates before. Twice before us. Considering that we've been here for a few months now, why is it an issue all of a sudden. Oh and I don't have a job. I may be close to getting one in a week, but we're not for sure yet. Oh and to make it better, we have a dog and a cat that I just refuse to abandon. I've been homeless before for two months, like three years ago. Well by the definition of the word, I was homeless. In two months, I stayed with 5 different people, and lost some friends that way. Only one of those nights did I have no where to go. I was too scared to just sleep in the park. So I spent the night walking to the store I worked at, at the time since they opened at 5am. So at least I could go into the break room and chill for a bit. Guys, we are so scared. My boyfriend has a full time job at Walmart overnight. But we're also out of a car too since it's broken down. So yay to not knowing what the heck we're gonna do by March. I'm job searching and gonna keep going at it til I get a job. I honestly wasn't expecting this.
disnerdtobe commented…
That's so scary! I get paranoid about being homeless. This may seem like a really stupid swali and wewe probably have thought of this already, but do your au your bf have any family nearby wewe could stay with? au maybe wewe could apply for welfare? I know these things have a stigma but I heard that at times, they're great for helping people who are temporarily in a bad situation get off on their feet. Have wewe talked with your apartment's management to see if your roommates are allowed to just evict people like this? I mean perhaps your roommate can songesha out instead of you. Sorry I'm not much help with this kind of stuff. All I can say is good luck! miezi 3 iliyopita
SarahCorine commented…
It's a house actually. It's a couple and the girl's brother that live there. The couple bought the house but the parents cosigned on it. So it's their rules. We can't fight it. We do have family nearby. My boyfriend is considering asking his parents au uncle. I've been applying at jobs and see what I can do. I have to wait a week to see if Walmart will hire me again au is Party City will hire me at all. miezi 3 iliyopita
mhs1025 commented…
That's great! I hope wewe get it! Another thing, don't stress. I'm sure your boyfriend's family will welcome wewe both with open arms. Just keep God close and He'll get wewe through. miezi 3 iliyopita
miezi 3 iliyopita mhs1025 said…
I have a disorder that's (sorta) on the Autism spectrum, and because of this, when I get upset, I have really bad emotional breakdowns. Well, tonight, I think I had my worst one yet. If you want to know the story behind it, I'll inbox you because I think it's simply too long to type on here. For now, I need some tips on how I can prevent these breakdowns before they even start. They're one of the many things I hate about myself, and they're not pretty to see.
SarahCorine commented…
First, don't hate it about yourself. Emotions are normal and sometimes people just have breakdowns and it's ok. However, to deal with the anxiety and help yourself stay calm, find a creative outlet. Something to express your emotions in a healthy way. Don't ever feel ashamed. miezi 3 iliyopita
Urukyu commented…
I have the bypolar sindrome, when i'm on my depression state, it was really depressing, so i just wanna say i know how it feels to have bad emotional breakdown. In my case it usually without reason at all. I hope wewe will get better. I tried to think positive when i started to feel low, sometimes it doesn't work, but it's okay. I have this mindset to keep me positive : Somewhere, someone have it worse than i am. I will start counting every good things i still have. Like my family au my physical health. It help to calm bad thoughts. I hope you're okay.. miezi 3 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
I also read books( stand alone au series), bingewatch TV shows, au just watch TV that distracts me from the thoughts ( mystery shows are particularly good for banishing your own fear and frustration, because wewe get caught up in the plotline of guessing who-done-it ). wewe can also make yourself your inayopendelewa foods, au get them from the restaurant. These are all things that I do for myself, when I have a breakdown moment. These things usually relax me. I'd suggest them, as distractions from the breakdown thoughts. miezi 3 iliyopita
miezi 3 iliyopita MaidofOrleans said…
My dog died last week.
SarahCorine commented…
I can't even imagine. It's just as painful as losing a family member. I'm so sorry. What kind of dog did wewe have? miezi 3 iliyopita
wavesurf commented…
Aw. :( I'm so sorry, MaidofOrleans. That's especially tough, as it was a member of your family. miezi 3 iliyopita
MaidofOrleans commented…
Thank wewe guys so much! I appreciate all your kind thoughts. His name was Rocket, and he was a Silken Windhound (look them up, they're pretty cool!). He was 13, so a pretty old dog for his size. We were sad because it was very sudden. He was fine one day, and then got extremely sick the inayofuata and we had to immediately put him down so he wouldn't suffer. It's been hard, but we are adjusting to life without him. Thanks again everyone! miezi 3 iliyopita
mwezi moja 1 uliopita mhs1025 said…
I'm thinking about seeing a psychiatrist. After some thought, I'd like to give it a try. At the same time, though, the whole thing makes me feel like I'm a mentally insane person. I know I'd be getting the help I need, but I don't want to feel like I was born insane. (Also after talking to friends and relatives, I was wondering what you guys thought.)
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princesslullaby commented…
not at all. everyone sees a psychiatrist once in their life. we live in a society that sort of shames people for having depression/anxiety au other disorders and that shouldn't be the case. 1 in 4 people has anxiety. and you're not born insane. you're totally normal. everyone has different problems. mwezi moja 1 uliopita
wavesurf commented…
^Everything Princesslullaby alisema is 100% true. Believe me. I have gone and been to see a psychiatrist zaidi than once. Ignore the stigma and just go get the help wewe need. Your health is zaidi important than some lame societal input. mwezi moja 1 uliopita
disnerdtobe commented…
I don't think it's weird to go to a psychiatrist. I know tons of normal people who do it. wewe should be allowed to prioritize your health, including your mental health. If wewe think it would help, go for it. And if anyone judges wewe of call wewe insane, come back to us and we'll support you. mwezi moja 1 uliopita
mhs1025 commented…
Thanks guys! Your words really mean the world to me! mwezi moja 1 uliopita
mwezi moja 1 uliopita misscindyspice said…
Ok so I feel like getting something off my chest because it's been boiling for like 3 years now and reading this forum made me realize that I should say something. I'd like to apologize to wavesurf, and here's why- when I was 11, I joined fanpop, and when I was 12 i met this wonderful group of girls. they were my best friends (and they still are, I talk to them almost every day) but you and them never got along. they mostly all hated ariel and as a result they hated you, and the extent of it was quite frankly troubling. some of them, thankfully, have long since grown out of this, while others, as evidenced by bellerose's incredibly insensitive rant up above, have not. i don't know if i ever was an active contributor when they all ganged up on you, and if i ever was i am so sorry. but the thing i'd really like to apologize for is my complicity- i never stopped them from bullying and harassing you, and i even went along with it sometimes. i am seriously so sorry for that, and if any of my friends are reading this, i hope you guys apologize as well. anyway idk if this was the best place to write this but i did want to get this out there because if i never said anything i don't know if i could ever feel genuine on this site.
princesslullaby commented…
very mature of wewe to post this and I'm sure wavesurf will really appreciate it mwezi moja 1 uliopita
wavesurf commented…
@misscindyspice: Thanks. I know this took a whole lot of courage for wewe to do. Please know, that your apology is accepted. wewe weren't really involved in the bullying I endured. They alisema all of the awful stuff. wewe never went that far. I've always thought that wewe were zaidi mature than they were...and wewe showed some of that maturity kwa not going after me like they did. Again, I appreciate your apology. Thank wewe for being kind. :) mwezi moja 1 uliopita
mwezi moja 1 uliopita princesslullaby said…
Two years ago I was sexually assaulted by one of my closest friends, who I also had a crush on. Anyway lonnnnnnggggggggg story short, we talked about it, he ended up /sort of/ apologizing, we squashed it, and then we actually dated for sometime. We broke up back in August, but remained close friends. I was venting to him about this creepy guy at work (which I've posted about on the wall before) and suddenly my friend goes off about what happened two years ago, saying that I'm probably making it up about the guy at work, and says that I also made up what happened two years ago for attention. I cut him off and didn't talk to him for a full month. He then approached me after work one day and asked how I was and then told me he felt sorry about everything and that he thinks he is struggling with depression and that he gets into these moods that he looks back on later and realizes he overreacted. We talked after work and he apologized for everything- the mood swings, accusing me of making up the story, and for what happened two years ago. He even says he got away with it too easily and he should have been punished for what he did. I believe his apology was sincere and heartfelt, though it took some time to get him to understand, but I also kinda feel like I have put up with too much from him at this point and I deserve to treat myself better than that and stop giving him a chance. Idk.
disnerdtobe commented…
Sorry to hear that. And no, I don't think you're making this up for attention. Sexual harassment is very real and it's unfortunate. It should be addressed. mwezi moja 1 uliopita
princesslullaby commented…
^thank you. no, i don't think anyone is going to think I made up my sexual assault. Just, I feel like I shouldn't be Marafiki with him, and I feel like people look down on me for staying his friend, but sometimes it's just easier. mwezi moja 1 uliopita
princesslullaby commented…
@wavesurf--- it's okay, i aired my stuff on here so it's okay to comment. i made it your business. i definitely keep my coworker at arms length. wewe are probably right. i songesha to new york in august, 18 hours away from him, so i'll be far away soon. siku 29 zilizopita
siku 19 zilizopita deedragongirl said…
sad
Once again, it's about my mom, she claimed that she met our former part-time Indian gardener and that was when she rub salt into the wounds by dragging our former Indian driver into the conversation. I absolutely hated my mom for being so pessimistic and loves to upset everybody (especially me) in the house by talking about the past. I just hope she learns her lesson one day!
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wavesurf commented…
^Sorry to hear about your mom's pessimism, and her constant dredging up of the past. Some people...unfortunately...derive some kind of perverse pleasure in upsetting others. I know that it hurts and makes wewe uneasy. Be strong, Dee! We're here if wewe need us. siku 19 zilizopita
siku 8 zilizopita mhs1025 said…
I'm moving somewhere slightly north of Memphis in the next few weeks. I was all excited at first, but now, I feel like I'm going to a foreign land. I feel like I'm leaving the only place I've ever known. I'd like some advice on how I can handle the blues/stress. As far as the stress part goes, it's tearing me up emotionally and physically.
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deedragongirl commented…
It's cool, I also feel the same way when I was in Subang Jaya. It was different but I have relatives staying there! siku 6 zilizopita
wavesurf commented…
Do wewe have any relatives au Marafiki living north of Memphis? Sometimes staying around a small cluster of people wewe know helps to ease the "transition to a new place." If not, just let yourself feel blue/stressed out. Don't invalidate your own feelings. And give yourself lots and lots of time to adjust. Even then, it's still okay to hate a place even if you've lived there for quite some time. siku 6 zilizopita
mhs1025 commented…
Thank wewe for your words, wavesurf! And to answer your question, my mom has some relatives who live in the town I'm moving to. In fact, one of them just alisema if I need them for anything, they're always there, in which made me feel alittle bit better. The fact I've got people from my mom's side of the family should make me feel at ease. Plus, when we songesha to the town we're moving to, we'll be sitting right inayofuata to the city limits. Sometimes I have to tell myself to stop overreacting because I'm not really leaving Memphis, just alittle north from there. siku 6 zilizopita
wavesurf commented…
^ Oh, good! Glad to hear that wewe have some people who know you, and that wewe can reach out to for comfort. ;) siku 4 zilizopita