hujambo guys, there are some really inspiration stories of feminism and liberation floating around the web, so i thought i'd tell wewe how i developed my feminism....At the age of 6.
I grew up in a partiarchal family. My father suffered from grand overt narcissism, biapolar, sadomasochism and manic depressive dissorder and would beat my mother constantly. It was horrific, me and my sister watching him drink all night and then he'd come nyumbani and berate my mother. If the house wasnt tidy enough, he'd smash her personal pocessions and throw things at her, screaming at her and unloading buckets of freezing water onto her head. If the house was clean he'd reward her kwa letting her watch an saa of TV. I recognised this as opressive partiarchy from the age of 6 and on, and identified as a feminist. I tried to stick up for my mother and older sister when i could, but usually i got a black eye au locked in a bathroom for hours when i did. Its hard to discribe how scared and angry and confused i felt, but it only made me bolder and zaidi determined to voice my veiws. I promised myself never to stay in a abusive relationship when i grow up, nor to let myself be opressed in such a heart-wrenching way.
A few years zamani my sister was raped kwa a stranger and consequently got pregnant. She aborted the baby, but the rapist only got a 2 mwaka prison sentence, a restraining order and 100 hundred hours of community service. Thats low. Thats really, really low.
And of course, my mum telling me she was sorry for her past marriage (shes divorced the bastard now, who is currently in rehab), as she knows its what "put me off men and turned me in a lesbian."
The annoying thing was that firstly, i'm bisexual leaning towards lesbian, NOT LESBIAN and secondly because she acted like being a lesbian was a dirty thing and told me it's not real sex because there's no penis involved. (?!?)
In full, my nyumbani life really fucked me up inside.
Years on, i am now in a sports college and getting all A*s, I'm headed to become a PE teacher in the future and I'm really excited for my life to come as a eco-feminist. I have the most wonderful fiancee, a eco-feminist hippy boy of 7 months (but we've been Marafiki still childhood), and i shall keep fighting for woman's rights not to be abused and opressed. For us to do what we want and say what we want when we want to and who we want to.
Deal with it. <3
(PS- if wewe have a feminist story of your own, i'll upendo to hear it!)
I grew up in a partiarchal family. My father suffered from grand overt narcissism, biapolar, sadomasochism and manic depressive dissorder and would beat my mother constantly. It was horrific, me and my sister watching him drink all night and then he'd come nyumbani and berate my mother. If the house wasnt tidy enough, he'd smash her personal pocessions and throw things at her, screaming at her and unloading buckets of freezing water onto her head. If the house was clean he'd reward her kwa letting her watch an saa of TV. I recognised this as opressive partiarchy from the age of 6 and on, and identified as a feminist. I tried to stick up for my mother and older sister when i could, but usually i got a black eye au locked in a bathroom for hours when i did. Its hard to discribe how scared and angry and confused i felt, but it only made me bolder and zaidi determined to voice my veiws. I promised myself never to stay in a abusive relationship when i grow up, nor to let myself be opressed in such a heart-wrenching way.
A few years zamani my sister was raped kwa a stranger and consequently got pregnant. She aborted the baby, but the rapist only got a 2 mwaka prison sentence, a restraining order and 100 hundred hours of community service. Thats low. Thats really, really low.
And of course, my mum telling me she was sorry for her past marriage (shes divorced the bastard now, who is currently in rehab), as she knows its what "put me off men and turned me in a lesbian."
The annoying thing was that firstly, i'm bisexual leaning towards lesbian, NOT LESBIAN and secondly because she acted like being a lesbian was a dirty thing and told me it's not real sex because there's no penis involved. (?!?)
In full, my nyumbani life really fucked me up inside.
Years on, i am now in a sports college and getting all A*s, I'm headed to become a PE teacher in the future and I'm really excited for my life to come as a eco-feminist. I have the most wonderful fiancee, a eco-feminist hippy boy of 7 months (but we've been Marafiki still childhood), and i shall keep fighting for woman's rights not to be abused and opressed. For us to do what we want and say what we want when we want to and who we want to.
Deal with it. <3
(PS- if wewe have a feminist story of your own, i'll upendo to hear it!)
