i can totally understand how some people may not think so and probably feel like it just adds to the stigma of "she was asking for it", but i think it's okay when acted in a healthy way. i don't think it means she ever actually WANTS to be raped at all. i sometimes fantasize about it but i would only ever want those fantasies acted out with someone i TRUST and know respects me and who will stop and listen if i use our safeword. that's when i think it's okay. and i know theres a lot of women (some feminist) who enjoy that stuff too. but ofc it would never ever mean a woman is asking to be raped or wants it to happen.

I mean, sure, you can, but you can also fantasize about doing something very racist or kicking a dog off a bridge or blowing up your school or any number of deeply troubling things thay signify a deeper need for professional help. You could, but why on earth would you want to?

And no kidding it doesn't mean she's asking for it. Also, a dom kink is NOT having a rape fantasy (and even then the former is still side eye worthy imo because too many men have used that as a way to be sexually aroused by hurting women in a legal way).