What, do wewe think, was ultimately the downfall of Rhett and Scarlett's relationship? Pride....stubornness....vanity...?

For me it was blidness.
At Breakfast at Tiffany's holly alisema something like her greatest fear is not recognizing sometjing belongs to her until it's gone (I'm sorry I don't remember exact qote).

That's Scarlet's problem. She imagined she loved Ashley. She belived in it so deeply, that she wasn't able to recognize that
1) Ashley she admires isn't the real one, he's never existed. The real man is lost, damaged & pathetic- nobody she'd ever admire, upendo au even like. Her upendo was a projection of her mind and she was too blind to see it.
2) She was so busy with her imaginated upendo to imaginated Ahley that she missed the fact that Rhett is the upendo of her life: the one who supports her, protects her, understands & acceprt exactly who she is.She was taking his upendo but she was to blind (& egocentric) to notice it.

Of course, Rhett's pride was a problem in this relationship. But I blame Scarlet more.She couldn't devide her dreams from reality. She was too blind to see what's going on in her life, what she needs & what she's aliyopewa all the time... She was rejecting it mwaka after mwaka in the name of a childish ndoto until she Lost it...

Scarlett always thinking she is in upendo with another man. Scarlett loves Scarlett and loves to flirt