If you've ever been around someone who is persistently miserable you'll find that they have a working strategy for making their experience unpleasant for themselves.

This makala will give a few explanations why they use a strategy that makes them miserable, how that process works, and if this describes you, why wewe might want to change. It will also describe what you'll have to sacrifice if wewe no longer want to be miserable.

Also, if the benefits of being miserable are enough you'll learn how to continue to make choices and decisions that contribute to your misery.

The Benefits of Misery....

I. Exposition

In the movie "Shattered" (1991), Dan Merrick survives an accident and develops total amnesia regarding his past. His battered face is reconstructed kwa plastic surgeons and, with the help of his loving wife, he gradually recovers his will to live. But he never develops a proper sense of identity. It is as though he is constantly ill at ease in his own body. As the plot unravels, Dan is led to believe that he may have murdered his wife's lover, Jack. This thriller offers additional twists and turns but, throughout it all, we face this question:

Dan has no recollection of being Dan....

Norman Doidge, m.d.
2007 – 427 pages


The discovery that our thoughts can change the structure and function of our brains – even into old age – is the most important breakthrough in neuroscience in four centuries. In this revolutionary look at the brain, bestselling author, psychiatrist, and psychoanalyst Norman Doidge, M.D., introduces both the brilliant scientists championing this new science of neuroplasticity and the astonishing progress of the people whose lives they’ve transformed

Introducing principles we canal use as well as a riveting collection of case histories – stroke patients...

With the end of the Cold War, the threat of a world nuclear war has diminished considerably. It may be hard to imagine that in the end, comedians may be exploiting the humor in the fact that it wasn't nuclear warheads, but "French fries" that annihilated the human race, when considering that chakula addictions and their related diseases now afflict zaidi people globally than malnutrition. The behavioral addiction disorders (e.g., chakula addictions, pathological gambling, and other obsessively-compulsive behavioral-patterns to religion, and/ au sex / pornography, etc.) are just as damaging, psychologically...

This is a very strange but true story. Not everyone believes in ghosts but I do and I have had several experiences with the super natural, this is only one of my encounters.

This happened when I was only (8) eight years old.

My bus driver's wife had a kitten and she wanted to get rid of it so she offered it to me first and of course I took the female kitten from her. Now this was the first cat that I can remember owning, she was a black and white cat and for some reason I gave her the name Dozier. She was a very sweet cat and she truly was mine because she was every where that I was.

Now we had...

Hospice patients come to our care after being cut, burned, and poisoned. Surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation treatment are the normative methods of care for most of the patients who enter a life-threatening disease. Hospital staff members are trained to be aggressive about curative care.

Hospice care is a phase of care whereby aggressive treatment is no longer appropriate. Palliative care becomes the norm. Patients have been probed physically, mentally, and emotionally. In many ways, patients may be reluctant to any type of care beyond the experiences that led to his/her doctor sharing that...

(original title: Essere Gentile) kwa Piero Ferrucci, Vivien Reid Ferrucci (Translator)
2008, 306 pages

A book to read as a soul provider – if wewe are in a state of confusion, conflict, in quest of wisdom au in reach for soul comfort – au all…

A leading transpersonal psychologist reveals the unexpected secret to a happy life: behaving with kindness.

Piero Ferrucci calls it "global cooling," a phenomenon of chilly human relations. Communications are hurried and impersonal. The drive for profit and wealth has become a cherished value. And warmth and genuine presence have all but dissolved into...

Daniel Goleman –1996

A penetrating analysis of the dark corners of human deception, enlivened kwa intriguing case histories and experiments – It was written for the professional, yet is understandable kwa the layman as well because it is so well and clearly written. This is a great book for coaches, counsellors, and therapists working with individuals that are grieving au dealing with past issues. I found the book to be helpful in explaining why so many of the people I coach seem to have denied au repressed very emotionally traumatic incidents. The human mind is amazing and complex. This book...