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Please help me! Teenage crisis going on!

Okay, so wewe guys remember like back in kindergarden how there was always this kid alisema to have cooties? Well keep that in mind, he's coming later in the story....
So in elementary school, all my Marafiki turned on me for no reason at all! (Okay, there was a reason, but its VERY complicated) So I spent months being picked on. One siku at recess, they all pushed me on the floor and threw nyasi at me.
That's when the shy, quiet, 'cootie' boy came to my rescue. He tottally snapped! He yelled at them all for me! From that siku on, we were the best of friends! Until he moved.
So in middle school, I saw him again! Yes! That shy little cootie boy was now the nyota of the mpira wa kikapu team. So after a few months of talking and hanging out, we started dating. Things were going great exept that I couldn't see him out of school. So after a week, he broke up with me. The inayofuata day, he took a girl out to the movies. I really still like him, but I'm scared to tell him. I know that might not make us go out again, but I am just tired of keeping it to myself and crying in my pillow. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

 Annie-6-14 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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BabyBlud said:
First of all stop crying. Tears will get wewe no where and no where is not where wewe want to be right now. I'm sorry this boy betrayed wewe so quickly, obviously he has the patience of a small child and probably the brain to match to miss out on a chance like you.
Don't be too down-hearted, he'll soon realise what he's missing. It's a shame it came and went so quickly that it seemed over before it began but that's life for wewe honey, nothing ever works out the way wewe want it to until wewe grab the ng'ombe kwa the horns so to speak.

If wewe two are still Marafiki then i suggest wewe go talk to him, take him out on a bike-ride, to get something to eat au a simple movie night at nyumbani where wewe can be alone and talk about things in privacy. Tell him wewe still have feelings for him, but wewe don't want those feelings to get in the way of the friendship wewe have now. wewe must ask him why he turned away so quickly as there has to be a reason but don't push this too hard as most boys will be uncomfortable about admitting things like this. If he doesn't want to say, there's no harm in pushing a little but not too far as that could destroy the friendship like he destroyed the relationship. If he says the reason was because wewe couldn't see him out of school explain things to him, tell him why and see if he understands. If he doesn't, i must admit, he's not worth thinking about.

In fact, and i'm sorry if my words hurt you, but if this boy is callous enough to go out with wewe for a week, break up with wewe for no reason and then THE VERY inayofuata siku take a girl out to the movies, then he was never truly interested in the first place and i think that's not just a terrible shame but a moronic thing to do. His actions have now caused riffs in your friendship and hurt your feelings, and in my eyes, no boy is worth that much pain.

However think about this - was that girl worth anything to him? She could have been a normal friend such as wewe are to him, she also could have been a cousin, an ex-girlfriend he's Marafiki with, maybe even a class mate etc.
Get your facts right before wewe go guns blazing as if wewe don't and wewe confront him with it wewe could look foolish.

However if things don't go according to plan and he's not interested in being your boyfriend au wewe friend any longer - forget him and get on with your life. Boys will come and go in your life and someday you'll find Mr. Right anyway, so don't be too tied to this boy.
His actions are horrendous and i have an immediate dislike to him even though i have never met him and probably never will. But boys who act like that are no good to anyone in my opinion. You'll just end up getting hurt i think.

but try anyway, see how it goes, and if not...it's his loss, not yours honey.

Good luck.


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Omg! Very well spoken! That's made me think a lot. Thank you. :)
Annie-6-14 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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wewe probably dont want to asume things. i know what your going through im in sorta the same situation... but even if wewe still like him maybe the best thing to do is to just be his friend. think about it
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purplesherlock said:
im guessing the best thing to do is tell him au one of ur bestfiends
u guys are Marafiki right??
but its kinda mean that u guys only dated 4 a week and took a girl eo da sinema after u guys broke up
and if things dont wotk out between u and him then 4get about him and stop ctying over him cuz its only gonna make things worse

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Yeah, I guess. Anyways I can't see him. He's going to a new school. He doesn't even make an effort to talk to me annyway, so yeah. I guess your right.
Annie-6-14 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
Monrose said:
Well, he has obviously moved on, so I think wewe should respect that. Telling him what wewe feel might make it harder for him.
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catsrule465 said:
Personally, I think wewe should tell him and let him no how wewe feel. If wewe dont there will be a ton of 'What Ifs' that you'll be stuck wondering about. wewe alisema he was the nyota of the mpira wa kikapu team.. sounds like he's come a long way form 'cootie boy' to 'cool guy who plays b-ball'. Has he changed? Theres a big jump from Elementary School to Middle School... But wewe should definitely tell him (in my opinion)..
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Hooly228 said:
stop crying this boy of yours has liked wewe but now he doesnt so get your head out of ndoto land and forget about him
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