I've Lost my best friend.

well I can't really help wewe that much execpt telling wewe 2 things.
1) everyone gets kicked out of the group eventualy. Just take it as a time to meet new people. most likly they will be your Marafiki again after a mwezi at most.

2)It is prooven that the "loners" au "misfits" in a school do better in their adult years then populars. So this may be good for your future.

sorry that that is all I can tell you. Hope it helps! :D

p.s. with the boyfriend thing I got no clue. just follow your heart. If wewe do that you'll never be wrong.

First off, I know what wewe are going through- friendship can be moyo breaking at times and it's hard to trust Marafiki when they don't know everything about wewe au unless they trust wewe with everything wewe tell them. The best thing to do about your old Marafiki au this friend is to just stay away from them and start meeting new people. I know meeting new people and making new Marafiki is tough but eventually wewe feel a lot better. As for your dating situatuions, that is for wewe to decide- if this other guy your dating currently is looking at other girls, then it's best to tell him through and tell him that it can't work out that well (even though it will be diffcult and moyo breaking to explain it all). This other guy wewe should try to get to knowing him, but be carefull- wewe never know what can happen next.

well, this is only MY opinion but i think i, if i were u, that maybe if u still miss both of ur old Marafiki maybe u can talk 2 them and work thigs out with them. u can also ask out ur crush, i mean u have nothing 2 loose if he says no so wat songesha but if he says yes then go for it. and about the other guy that u think he likes u and u KINDA like him back well, u can try being Marafiki with him.

1) If she was ever a true friend, she wouldn't just suddenly drop you. My 'friend' did that once. She just decided that she didn't like me anymore, then the inayofuata siku decided that nothing had ever happened. I confronted her, and she admitted that it was all just stupid, and could we just forget it. I like her I guess, we have a laugh together, but I know that she's not the sort of friend that I could trust. We get on, she's fun to hang out with, but that's all our friendship is. It doesn't get to the point when I feel that I could text her in the middle of the night and hear that she still wants to talk to me. I don't know, but I kind of get the feeling that that's what the friendship is between wewe and your best friend was. Maybe, maybe not, I'm not you. But just kubeba in mind that a true friend will stick kwa wewe no matter what, and maybe wewe should think about who your best Marafiki really are.
Friendship is hard. But give things a bit longer and see how things progress. wewe may find that these other Marafiki will end up being way zaidi trustworthy than your ex-friend ever was. It takes a while to feel like you're officially part of a group, but that's only natural. You'll get to know them, and they'll get to know you; and you'll possibly find that they're kind of Marafiki that wewe always wanted, wewe just didn't realize it till it came. In time things will work out, really. Friendship groups are always changing, everywhere, and sometimes it's for the best. Good luck.

2) I can't really give wewe much advice on this one, just follow your heart.

Don't worry.

A best "friend" told me she didn't want to be Marafiki with me anymore, also.
Surprisingly, I felt no sense of loss au hurt, because I realized that she couldn't be a true friend if she wanted to stop being friends. You'll find someone out there who understands and likes wewe as a person :)

About your crush.
"Crush" is the key word here. Depending on how old wewe are, it's highly doubtful that the dating thing will last through college au even high school. Besides, the crush will wear off way before that, trust me.
I would suggest asking the other guy out. Your crush will see that you've (possibly) moved on, and might let go of the other girl and go to you. If he doesn't, he ain't worth it, sweetheart.
Good luck,
--Rapunzel

Oh hun you're in a bad situ.. </3 I was in one like that a while zamani so i get how confused and worried wewe feel. Its a hard situation cos of the bff thing then the crush thing. I'll start with the bff thing- I have two 'best friends' -_- that sometimes go off with eachother and leave me out too, and the only other half Marafiki i have i feel awkward with too.
firstly, wewe should tell your problems to your mom, she's probably been there herself. wewe should also talk to your so called best Marafiki and find out why they alisema that to you.. altho i think i already know- most girls don't get on in friendships of 3, so 2 of them group together so both of them are safe, and leave out the third. personally i find that pathetic, but thats what most girls are like. wewe should tell them that wewe have other worries too and would appreciate their support, and offer your if ever they have any problems too. let them know wewe value their friendship, but don't be a doormat. they don't sound like good Marafiki to me, so if the talk is unsuccessful, then just use them like they used you. just use them to talk to in school so wewe dont have to hang out with awkward people. -If wewe dont want to do that and still value their friendship, then try talking to your favourite female teacher about it. there's normally always one nice teacher that likes wewe and understands everything. wewe should get that sorted out, but not so that the other 2 girls get told off, because that will make them dislike wewe more.


About the boy situation, wewe should definitely look into that. first to say, i'm not sure about either of those two boys wewe mention. i am disappointed for wewe that the boy wewe like doesnt SEEM to like you, because i've been there and its the worst gutting feeling of all. especially when he likes someone else instead, that really kills. There are a few options of what wewe can do about him. they will depend on what your frame of mind is like. If wewe are feeling strong, ready for a risk and not ready to let your problems overtake you, then wait until wewe are on your own with him and hint that wewe like him. then, drop into a conversation the swali of if there happens to anyone he likes. he probably wouldn't say 'yeah, you.' even if he did like you, so be prepared for that. boys just arent like that unfortuantely for us :(
but before wewe talk to him, do your homework kwa finding out as much information as wewe can. get talking to his Marafiki and yours, but don't make it too obvious wewe like him.. this could have disastrous effect on wewe if it all goes wrong and it turns out ha has no feelings for wewe whatsoever. (i think he probably has a little bit, cos otherwise wewe wouldnt have liked him in the first place.)
also, get talking to the girl he supposedly likes and find out if its true and if she likes him too. again, don't be obvious.

(please see maoni below for the rest)

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