PLEASE HELP ME

i have a problem my father have been away to work in another country its been 2 mwaka without seeing my father my mom is the most damage person she feel very sad i dont know why but my father start ignoring my mother and get upset every time mom call him my mom cry every siku so she want us to go to him i though its was just a visit but she told me that we will stay with him at lest 2or3 years i refuse i hate that country and it will be in the middle of the school and i will leave my friend my teacher and also my family and the study there is very low that wewe could got full mark without studying and i want to study English language and literature so i refused of course and i can stay at my grand mother house BUT i will have to leave my mom 2sister and 2 brother the worst thing that i should leave my little brother he is still young so he could forget me and i cant live without him
im sorry i don't know what to do what should i choose