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How do wewe relieve shyness

I really need help with this. I'm incredibly shy around certain people and I'm trying to talk to this guy but I just can't. Every time I get close to him my stomach gets wiggly and I feel sick. PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME :(
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cutiepie0310 said:
I have the same problem,but I can give wewe some suggestions.

1.breath deeply a couple times before talking to the person

2.Imagine the person as someone wewe are comfortable talking to(like a sister,mom,or friend)

3.Make sure wewe DONT get so nervous, wewe end up uigizaji like your a crazy person.

4.Have zaidi of a layed back attitude.

and the last part might not help about what your talking about,but I'm not sure

Best advice is to let loose and allow your imperfections to shine through.

Often, we tend to hesitate and hold ourselves back because we fear that our efforts will not be perfect. We hate to allow others to think we are weak.

But wewe are not weak kwa inaonyesha your flaws. Heck, wewe are
stronger than most!

Allowing your flaws to be seen simply means that wewe are asserting a belief in your strengths.

hope this helps :)
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i like this :)
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prophet69 said:
Shyness decreases over time as wewe are zaidi social and be zaidi social around people. Face your fears and try to say something to people to decrease your shyness, it would eventually disappear as youget older. Also, try to smile zaidi often, people will thinkyour confident and will likely talk to you. The zaidi social wewe are, the zaidi your shyness will go away.
I
used to be very shy when I was 13. Have mostly gotten over it :)
This helped me a lot now I am crazy in public
1.Start kwa talking zaidi to your family until wewe aren't shy around them
2. then do that with friends
3. in small groups in public
that worked for me.
Help lot of deserving people. Try to help those who are depressed, suppressed and oppressed in life. Thus wewe will gain over a period of time lot of experience and knowledge and finally one siku wewe will be fully conversant and familiar.
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I do all of those things but they don't help :(
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KaulitZfan said:
i have no cule i have the seme problem
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adultswimperson said:
wewe have to stand out and stop being afraid of being shy and speak up if wewe want to be heard.
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Makeupdiva said:
I have the same problem. I would really like to know how to get rid of it. It's the one thing in my life that is stopping me from getting what I want.
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cherry_Dropzx said:
i have this issue to but i guess wewe just need to get used to talking to this guy, um if wewe have other people around wewe lke your Marafiki maybe that will help coz when i liked this guy i found it easier when my bestie was near me i dunno.....good luck :D
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coriann said:
i don't know if to call it self confidence au apathy, but lately i've found myself a lot less shy than in awali situations, maybe it was because i took a break from school for a while idk....

i think the only way sometimes to get rid of your fears is to face them sorry :( i think cutiepie has some good points, wewe should learn to accept yourself for wewe wewe are, stop short changing yourself, lol, it's a process and something that doesn't happen over night, im sorry but i don't know if wewe will be able to get rid of your shyness fast enough to get with this boy (you might) if wewe just hold your breath and have a go at it XD, that works for a lot of people

the first thing wewe need to do is self acceptance acknowledge you're shy, and that's okay, lots of people are shy, maybe wewe can even use that so your advantage in some weird way :P

and then wewe go on accepting yourself and your flaws and maybe even pointing out some good stuff about yourself, until wewe start to realize what a special and awesome person wewe are

then step two, which wewe can do while wewe are doing step one is GO OUT! face your fears :) wewe don't have to do anything drastic that wewe think wewe r not ready for, but just go out more, and then be around people more, open up to your friends, when wewe open up to people wewe start to realize the deep dark things that wewe thought were so horrible about wewe aren't really that bad

then, when wewe are confident about who wewe are as a person wewe would be zaidi confident that people will like that person :) thus making wewe zaidi confident about yourself so that wewe can make that inayofuata move, even if your nerves still kill wewe sometimes, lol

hey, at least this is my theory, but i'm a quack, my plans never work, so be careful if wewe wanna listen to me :P
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thank wewe everybody for your help I really appreciate the helpfulness and I'll get back to wewe on my shyness status :)
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