It would be cruel of me to chose the one who loved me, yet the one whom I did not upendo in return.
I could never return their love, and to put anyone through that would be quite nefarious.
If I chose the one whom I loved, yet could never upendo me in return, I would be deciding my own fate.
I would tie myself to unrequited upendo rather than tethering someone else. It would only be cruel to myself, and that's much better than hurting another.
The one who I love. I could live with being eaten up inside because the person I upendo doesn't share those feelings. Its too mean to choose the one who loves me, since I would never be able to appreciate them like they appreciate me. I wouldn't be able to look at them quite the same. I don't care for my feelings so I'd have no problem with it.