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So... there's this issue...

And it's about me being completely jealous of my boyfriend's best friend! I feel so awful about it because she's suicidal and she and I are pretty good friends, but it seems like whenever my bf sees her, he runs to talk to her, just kinda leaving me standing there. I think it's mostly because she's so beautiful, she can sing, all of the teachers upendo her, she's athletic, she has amazing grades and is accepted into any group she chooses. I hate feeling so jealous!!! It makes me feel like I want to ngumi, punch a ukuta while screaming and break down into tears all at the same time. I've asked him about it and told him how I feel and he god mad at me. he said, "She's like my sister! And wewe feel jealous? Even after I told wewe that she was suicidal?!" That was when I walked away. The inayofuata siku i still felt like a complete jerk and I felt worse.

I've actually become closer to her and we can talk casually about stuff with school and life, (mine not her's) and I feel just awful about it! My boyfriend and I have gotten closer in the two months that we've been dating (whoop whoop!), but i still feel so alone whenever she's around, because I'm kinda excluded from the conversation. I just kinda stop walking and go sit off on my own. Of corse, my guy Marafiki get pissed with him when they see me all sad because of it, so I smile and joke around and swear loudly to distract myself from what I'm feeling. He told me yesterday that she might be staying over at his house for Xmas break to keep her from possibly killing her self. I'm extremely uncomfortable with it, but I haven't told him that. I just put on a smile, alisema okay, and changed the topic quickly. He didn't seem to notice my change of mood.

I upendo my boyfriend. He's the only person who should truly understand my mood and what I'm feeling. But, when he's with her, he just kinda... tunes me out.

So, now on to what I really need advise on:
1) Is there a way I can tell him how I'm feeling without him getting mad?
 So... there's this issue...
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Thank wewe everyone for helping me out. ^-^ I really appreciate it.
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joe2001rocks said:
yeeah just tell him how u feel but as a request and maybe a bit politely
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dustydeer said:
i think wewe should handle this really carefully, because if your boyfriend has a fear that she'll hurt herself when she's alone then wewe don't want to mess up!!

if your friend's suicidal the best thing i can say is talk to her and make sure you're there for her, what she probably wants is to have two great Marafiki behind her supporting her. help her out with any of her situations, and even if wewe can't then onyesha wewe upendo her!

also if she's your good friend and you're sure wewe have a loyal boyfriend then don't feel paranoid about the two of them socializing with out you! of course it's understandable but i'm sure your boyfriend knows the difference between friendships and relationships and won't put her before you, he's trying to help your friend out because it is a scary thing!

i know he's your boyfriend so wewe want him around, but she's in need of attention and he's probably trying his best to give attention to the two of you! :)

i hope this gets sorted out fast though! because as cruel as it is, having a friend who needs people around her can make wewe feel a little lonely and fear you're losing friends, but it'll all get better!
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sieluvzsoul said:
u know theres 1 good way wewe can tell him. just tell him wewe feel excluded from him when shes around. but its ok 2 feel like this. have u ever thought of the possibility that hes hanging out with her zaidi so he can get her feelings away from suicide, to joy and laughter, if not. u might want to reconsider that possibility
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