That's the main one some others; - Don't touch my stuff - Don't blatantly insult my uandishi (criticism is fine, being a dick isn't) - Don't make sexual advances - If I'm telling wewe about a problem don't dismiss it and don't write it off as 'not a big deal'. This drives me up the fucking ukuta and is 100% I don't talk to my parents about anything anymore because it's always, 'oh wewe think wewe have it bad, I had to deal with...'
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The last one: I definitely agree with you, not that I don't agree with the others. Nobody thinks it's a big deal until they feel it.
@Classic Even if it isn't a big deal, it could seem like one at the time (especially if there are a bunch of minor things along side it--they add up!) and that's what matters. Also someone having a 'bigger' problem doesn't mean another person isn't having a problem. That'd be like me telling Sword telling me she had a good time in Japan and me being like, 'oh yeah well I'm happier than wewe becoz wt tamasha tickets!' That just sounds really dumb lmao. Unfortunately there's plenty of sad to go around. @Riku I used to be taken seriously but tbh depression runs in the family and I'm 90% in that one instance I had in mind while typing this my mom only pulled that shit because I tried talking to her when she was in balls deep herself and we kind of just made each other worse. Whoops.
1) Physical contact. I'm very weird about it and sometimes I'm zaidi comfortable with it than others so it'd usually better to just ask au stray away. If I don't initiate it au I haven't alisema it's okay for wewe it's a bad idea. My dad completely ignores it and goes out of his way to try to hug me with out permission and it's aliyopewa me panic attacks on a few extreme occasions.
2) Talking about my being trans. If it's a swali that's okay but just randomly outting me au having me be the trans person wewe know au whatever I don't like. My friend does this sometimes and I have to ask them to stop because it's kind of a constant reminder that I'm never going to be cis. My dad (yeah we don't like this guy) also outted me to an entire community of people I didn't even know one time. Fun.
1: Physical contact. I’m naturally not a very physical, intimate person. I don’t like being expected to just give out physical contact when meeting new people. For example: handshakes. OK, I get that’s a common thing here in America, but not everyone wants to shake the hand of a stranger they literally just fucking met. For me, it’s rude AF for strangers to want physical contact from me. Especially when I don’t even know them. I don’t know where their hands have been, and I don’t want them touching mine. And that’s why I’m making it a habit to wear gloves when my job coach introduces me to people, and pressures me to give them physical contact.
For hugs, I almost never do this. Even with people I’m closest to. However, I do give out hugs once I feel comfortable around them. But not until then. The thing with me is: Physical contact from me is something people must earn, I’m not just going let wewe touch me.
But in most cases, tho, physical contact just makes me cringe almost 24/7. And I make sure they understand where I draw the line.
2: Sexual remarks are a “no” from me. I don’t see them as a compliment, rather an insult. I don’t like being seen as just an attractive thing that someone wants to bang. If wewe want to compliment on how I look, that’s absolutely fine. But DO NOT kuvuka, msalaba into sexual remarks au compliments on specific areas on my body. Doing so will get wewe smacked.
This is all I could think of at the moment, I’ll add more.
People sexually harassing me au touching me. I've heard too many stories where girls are sexually harassed, asked inappropriate maswali and touched but do nothing about it because they are afraid of either the person getting mad at them au because they are too shy, I don't care if the person gets mad at me, no man puts their hands on me au sexually harasses me au even asks inappropriate questions. I will let the person know they've crossed the line if they do any of that.
1. Talking shit about, messing with au lying on ANY member of my family: biological au non-biological.
2. Stealing something valuable (or something I work for) from me. I may have a lotta stuff, but I have a set of blades. Make my God-damn, motherfucking day.
3. Messing with my Marafiki on a constant.
That's just like doing #1.
Common ground: they're ALL unforgivable. I may've been raised a Christian, but I don't forgive those things at all.
As for people that I hate, they can do the smallest, and I'll still try to impale them.
