Well shit. Actually no, I doubt wewe are actually here suddenly in a rush because wewe just encountered this situation a few dakika zamani and thought the best place was to check my club for whatever reason. If that is the case, please, wewe made a bad decision, call a suicide hotline, tafuta a zaidi valid source, and focus on your friend and make sure they survive the situation. This makala won't help wewe zaidi than anything there will especially since this is zaidi of a tip makala from someone who has had a lot of experience with this.

So lets talk.

First thing we want to establish. Are they actively suicidal au passively suicidal? As in are they actively planning on killing themselves now au soon and/or have they come up with a plan to do so. If so, that is someone who is actively suicidal. If they are stating they want to die, they want to kill themselves, and similar lines but are not actually planning to and/or have yet to get to the point of planning it, then it is passively suicidal. The difference is important as one calls for zaidi immediate strict attention while the other one usually is best handled in a much zaidi softer manner, but still also is important and needs attention.

But first, lets talk about the passively suicidal type.

For this type, Im sure a lot of us have probably come across a part in our life where we had passive suicidal ideation and, in this case, most people can relate and understand it. For this, its not as complex of an explanation as there really isnt much wewe can do, but it is concerning as a friend to hear someone suffering like this, so here are a few things wewe can do that tends to help them.

1) Try to talk to them and let them know wewe are willing to listen. This is important. Many people who do this do not feel like saying this actually helps too much since there are no immediate results, but often people who are that depressed take solace in the fact that there is someone who at least seems to care, whether they like it au not. Also, this could possibly lead to them contacting wewe in the case passive becomes active which could lead to the possibility that wewe could possibly help them a lot. Make sure they know they are loved and cared for, if not kwa anyone else, kwa you.

2) DO NOT push them to talk, but DO keep an eye out for them. Often pushing for information au whats bothering them can simply make the situation worse and/or cause them to push wewe away. wewe want to seem like an opening and caring friend, not a mother au a therapist. However, while they may not want wewe prying, keep an eye out for really concerning signs that might be of someone actually planning to kill themselves au that their depression is getting significantly worse. In the case wewe see this, lightly and gently bring it up and see if they will talk au give wewe information, but again. Do. Not. Push.

3) Give tips / help if possible. However cliche lines can make things worse. Rather than talking specifically about the depression and how it will get better (since those tend to spawn cliche lines), try to talk about the causes of the depression if wewe can figure it out without pushing them zaidi than they are willing to share. Depression is often a side effect of another issue. Anxiety? Family issues? Jobs? Relationships?

4) Try to get them professional help if possible. wewe arent a professional, dont take up too much on your own. This one is one I took a while to learn myself. As good as wewe may be at this, wewe shouldnt take too much burden of someone’s issues on your own. It can easily become unhealthy for both wewe and them. If possible, suggest them to a professional if they can.

5) Relax and understand that their mental health is not something wewe can control. Again, as stated above, having a friend who is in a bad mental state is a stressful thing to have. Under all circumstances, try not to believe its your duty to fix it and do not take responsibility for it. wewe dont have control of it and its best just to relax. The last thing someone who is suicidal wants to see is that their suicidality is causing their friend trouble and the last thing wewe want is for yourself to break under the pressure and stress.

For the most part, that is all that I can really say about that type. Now the big one.

wewe came to your computer to see a text message au an barua pepe holding a wonderful suicide note from your friend and wewe are just in time to talk to them while they are in the process au going on to do it. au perhaps wewe came nyumbani and walked in on it. If so, Im sorry for what wewe are going through right here and now. It will be a stressful inayofuata few hours. Lets go through what seems to work the best from my experience.

1) Brace yourself. wewe must not start panicking. Panicking is one of the things wewe really do not want to do but also one of the hardest things to not do at the same time. If wewe freak out, it adds to the chaos that is already there so, as best as wewe can, stay calm and if wewe cant, bottle up and hide your panic. What is going to go down will likely be tiring, stressful, and emotional and what is most important is that wewe can stay calm and level to guide the situation in the right direction. Currently, your friend is likely nowhere in the right mind so to make this go as smoothly as possible, wewe have to be the one with the cool and calm head. Do not yell. Do not panic. Do not get mad at them.

2) If the act has already been done, call 911 immediately. If they have stomached a bottle of pills, slit one of their arms, etc already, before wewe do absolutely anything call 911 and get emergency people here immediately. If wewe cant since wewe dont know the address, repeatedly try to convince them to get the help themselves. If its the case of overdose, specifically a type of pills, get them to puke it out. While the pills may have been consumed, if wewe can get them to puke it out as fast as wewe can, they can probably make it out with only minor stomach damage.

3) If wewe are unsure of your ability to handle this, get try to get them to call the suicide hotline au call them yourself. Use your best judgement for this.

4) If wewe can not do #2 au #3 au are in the process of waiting for one of the two, keep them talking. If anything, keep them talking. The simple rule goes to say that if they are talking and texting, they arent dead au killing themselves. For the most part, even if people are at the point of planning to commit suicide even in the inayofuata few dakika au days, they are likely still holding onto something if they sent something to you. In that case, talk to them and talk to them and talk to them like that is the only point to the world. If wewe can talk to them enough, wewe could possibly buy them time for them to calm down and back out of the idea even if its only for a few days and, if wewe are good at it, wewe might even find the core reason au the thing that pushed them to be in such a far state of wanting to die. If wewe can figure out specifically what triggered it, then wewe could possibly try to add a little bit of hope to the situation that caused it to get better and during a time like this, all they need is that bit of hope to just buy a few days.

5) If wewe can, I would suggest also letting someone close to them know, whether the suicidal person likes it au not. Unless wewe know the situation with their closest family and Marafiki are bad, it is always good to let someone else who can watch over them closely know. If its the case that the suicidal person does not want wewe telling others, I would suggest telling them on the down low and mentioning to keep it a secret that they know so that the suicidal person doesnt feel betrayed, but they also have another person keeping an eye out for them.

But anyways, I think thats all I can think of right now off the juu of my head. If wewe have anymore tips wewe got from experience, wewe can add them as well.

Also, for those that don’t know, Ive gotten into both of these situations way zaidi often than Id like to admit.