((Turns out I made it long enough to be an makala rather than a post on the Mental Health foramu XD Anyways this is zaidi so a few quick points off the juu of my head that might be helpful to some people, enjoy))
Anyways, Ive been asked before how the fuck I handle my mental health what with have as many disorders as I do and as shitty of a mental state and how warped my view was of the world because of it especially when I was younger. I am kind of coming to realize a lot of my recovery utilized the abnormal 'skill' of dissociating like no one else's business, but I personally believe that only reordered the way and order I had to handle it.
Even with that in mind, there are a few quick points that can be taken into consideration for the majority of people - dissociation present au not.
Also, these are tips other than the typical "see a therapist" and "take medication" and similar things. These are zaidi so self care tips and how to set yourself up for success in recovery with au without a therapist.
1) Commit to yourself and commit to recovery.
If wewe want to recover, it will not be an easy task. Mental health is hell and the worse your mental health is, the zaidi difficult it will be. There will be a lot of moments when wewe doubt au consider turning around au giving up. There will be a lot of moments when wewe have to make a tough decision between something wewe want au a person wewe care about au your mental health and recovery. It is vital that wewe understand wewe need to take care of yourself and commit to staying kwa your own side through everything. If it comes between what wewe need and what wewe want, do what wewe need. If it comes between what wewe need and what wewe want to give someone else, give yourself what wewe need. Weigh out and minimize the cost of taking care of yourself, but wewe can't do anything if wewe aren't alive. Your mental health and life is one of the most valuable things wewe own whether au not wewe recognize it currently.
wewe can assist further into doing this if wewe pause, take a step back, and look at how your mental health is affecting your life. Do not panic when wewe do it, just reflect on where wewe are and what dysfunction it might be causing you. It might look bad, but everything is fixable. Look at where wewe are now, and create an image - a goal - an understanding of what it could be like if wewe didn't have this weighing wewe down.
2) Try to be as honest with yourself as possible, but accept all that wewe find.
This one is a lot easier alisema then done but it is vital to healing yourself. Be honest with yourself. Regularly look back upon your emotions, your thoughts, wewe mental state, your behavior, and see where wewe are and if this is really what wewe want and if this is really what wewe think is genuinely the healthiest thing wewe can be doing. Are wewe being toxic to yourself au someone else? Are wewe working against your own cause? Are wewe a lot zaidi depressed than you've been telling yourself? If wewe find something wrong about the way wewe are living and your mental health, don't panic! Take a moment to process it and digest it, but relax. You've been doing this for a while, nothing immediate bad will happen because wewe have been living this way. wewe can fix this as well, but understand what wewe are / have been doing and realize that it is an issue that wewe need to work on. It might not be easy au an immediate fix, but understand that it is something wewe can work on and add it to the orodha of things to keep track of and to research into fixing.
Mental health is one step at a time. Nothing has to be done immediately. It may be fixed tomorrow and that would be great, but it could take a month, a year, wewe have a life time to fix it. If whatever it is makes wewe depressed au suicidal, understand that as long as wewe don't kill yourself, wewe have endless zaidi time to fix it than wewe would if wewe were to kill yourself. Relax, wewe have time. Nothing has to happen fast.
3) Don't rush recovery.
This has been mentioned a few times already, but mental health doesnt recover over night. It is a slow and painstaking process. Don't pressure yourself to suddenly get better and take it at a pace that is comfortable and okay for you. Yes, wewe might be doing some unhealthy things, but the zaidi wewe get mad at yourself and the zaidi wewe punish yourself and the zaidi pressure wewe put on yourself, the zaidi harm wewe are doing to yourself. I'm sure wewe upendo when people are patient enough to listen to wewe and understand your issues - au at the very least, wewe know others appreciate when wewe are patient enough to understand theirs. Be your own friend and just slow down and be patient in your recovery. It is frustrating, but it will come eventually.
4) Research into different therapy methods and borrow practices, exercises and tricks from them.
I summarized a few smaller points into this. Therapy isn't just arm chair talking about your childhood and the dreams wewe have. There are a lot of studied, researched methods to help combat depression, trauma, anxiety, personality disorders, impulsive behavior, phobias, intrusive thoughts, dissociation, and so on and so on. There is a lot of information out there for wewe to try to help wewe use on yourself, ESPECIALLY if wewe can not go to therapy / see a professional yourself. A few of my vipendwa borrow from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Exposure Therapy.
One CBT thing comes from understanding your thoughts and behaviors and dishing them down to core beliefs that your mind has wired itself to be automatically true that strongly influence how wewe perceive the world and handle self talk and self dialogue. When wewe come to an extremely negative / self depricating statement, thought, au belief, pause for a sekunde and ask yourself "Why" "Why" "Why" until wewe get to a general statement about the world, yourself, au others that wewe feel is true, then put it on trial. Make a orodha either mentally au physically and find all the evidence that wewe could for the statement being true and the statement being false and see if what wewe believe is actually the most likely case in reality.
As for Exposure Therapy, it generalizes into one of my key mottos for recovery. If there is something wewe want to be able to do / think wewe should be able to do / need to change but are extremely uncomfortable with it, take small steps into the uncomfortable territory. Don't push yourself immediately into it as that will only cause harm, but slowly get zaidi and zaidi into it. Get used to the uncomfortable feeling and slowly open yourself back up to whatever was holding yourself back. Are wewe socially anxious? Do wewe feel like no one cares? Do wewe feel that if wewe open up to someone, wewe are going to get cruelly hurt? Slowly start trying to fight against it. Slowly change your behavior and see how that goes as often times it isn't as bad as your thoughts make wewe believe. Slowly wewe will compound evidence that it isnt and slowly the scary and extremely uncomfortable situation will get less uncomfortable
5) Reach out for help; au at least journal.
In the end, it is very important to try to get help and support from others, may it be friends, a professional, your family, etc. It helps wewe keep track of yourself and it helps wewe understand your emotions better. It gives wewe people who can reflect upon you, support you, and help wewe immensely through the difficult journey.
If wewe can not get yourself to currently do this, then at least let yourself express, vent, and let out your issues to yourself either through a journal au a video au art au something that lets wewe express the emotions wewe are going through at the current moment. Let yourself be yourself and let it out.