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Is there a chance my ex and I will reconcile our relationship?

My ex girlfriend and I have been best Marafiki since we were small children (we're both ladies and both now 24) and decided to make our bond official after mutual feelings were brought to light 3 au 4 years ago. Our relationship, like any, had its ups and downs and ultimately, back in April, we got into it over something stupid and broke up. In the beginning, she vehemently declared she was "over" me in that way and would likely NEVER want to get back together with me, but still wanted to go on being my best friend as always; her entire demeanor changed from the sweet girl I knew and loved to someone cold and cruel. I, on the other hand, have suffered immensely and have foolishly kept the faith we might get back together later on down the road.

Currently, 2 months later, she and I are on pretty friendly terms having talked all the way through the break up, and she still spends the night with me but as platonic as possible until the last couple of times she's stayed. These times, she's made an extra effort to touch me/be close to me, not sexually per se, but in a manner that to me might suggest a need coming from her to have some sort of physical connection there. She's much zaidi consoling to me in hivi karibuni weeks as well, going zaidi out of her way to talk to me about my daily problems and help me deal with them and share hers just like we used to with one another instead of being the reserved person she'd became with me. And I feel like things MIGHT be looking up and our chances of getting back together at some point at least might be strengthening but I'd really appreciate a sekunde opinion.

What do wewe think?
 ladyshela posted miezi 5 iliyopita
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Zeppie said:
Tbh I'm not much of a believer in getting back with your ex ever working out. It can happen, but it's a rocky foundation to try rebuild. I view ex partners as learning experiences to grow and songesha on from, rather than taking steps back to fall into the same problems.

It's good that you're on friendly terms now. I think she may be putting in the extra effort to be close to wewe because she probably appreciates wewe as a person and wants wewe in her life, although this might not be in a sexual sense as wewe might hope for. After your argument this could just be signs of relief that the negative air is gone and that she feels at peace because she has her best friend back.

But I mean hey, just keep being there for your friend, don't ever force the relationship back if she's not interested and try to understand her if she wants to just remain friends. If wewe truly are close friends, wewe should both be there for each other and openly talk about what's going on in each others mind about this all.

Just let things progress naturally and try pick up on any body language hints to see where wewe stand with her.
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