Eclipse is my least favourite, which means I'm only mildly obsessed with it.
I agree that Jacob needs to imprint and find his own girl (or if he chooses, his own guy). I still like Jacob, he just has big problems.
I think Bella does upendo Edward more. (A lot more.) Although since her upendo of Edward is possibly the truest of true loves, that doesn't mean she doesn't upendo Jacob with enough power to light up all of Washington. It just means it isn't enough to overpower her upendo of Edward, which (since I already used the electricity metaphor) could light up all of Earth and then some.