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Friend au foe?

..I cry, she gets mad and tells me to stop begging for attention and feeling sorry for myself.
I onyesha anger au dissatisfaction, she calls me a hysterical mess.
I tell her I have horrible self-esteem issues and that I want to see my therapist again in order to improve/get better, she responds kwa saying I'm too dependent. Then she compares me to herself. Me, a 15 mwaka old kid, to herself, a 51 mwaka old woman.
When I eventually see my therapist, he says there's no such thing as "self-esteem" and that I'm making all my problems up. She sides with him.

I'm very confused as to why my mother isn't supporting me. I'm not a bad kid. Though sometimes I do feel ashamed of myself for feeling this way and wonder if I'm as weak as she tells me I am. If I'm just a spoiled, whiny brat.

Is there anything that I can say/do??
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brandonaz said:
Get a different therapist if that's what wewe want and go to your friends. My parents were never understanding either and I hated therapy (but wewe should definitely go if it helps you) so I found comfort in Marafiki and music. If muziki doesn't mean as much to wewe as it means to me, stick with the Marafiki thing, don't worry about your mom, if she's not being understanding don't waste your time. It may be hard to talk to your Marafiki at first especially if wewe haven't been Marafiki on that level before but wewe might be surprised how much they care and how much they can help you. I'd be absolutely Lost without my Marafiki and we've gotten each other through so many bad times. It means the world to me that I have them supporting me, and I like to know I'm supporting them as well. wewe could really find some help with them.

Having problems isn't anything to be ashamed of though, okay? It doesn't mean you're weak, it just means life's thrown some curveballs to wewe and wewe need ways to cope. Chin up, you'll be okay. <3

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hgfan5602 said:
A friend. But still that is being pretty harsh on you. they try to help wewe i think, but obviously that just does nothing. they have to see that being mean will do nothing...
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laura199627 said:
Your friend.
A friend is the person that tells wewe what wewe don't want to hear. She is not your enemy, she just wants to help you. The things that she is saying to wewe are to encourage you.
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