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I'm 16 and 6 zaidi months to go in school, but I feel like I won't be able to mentally/emotionally last that long because...? (Read description)

I go to a small school, and there are 3 particular people around my mwaka group who seem to hate me. They get a kick out of insulting me WHENEVER I come into contact with them. And for no reason at all. It's making my last mwaka at school very repetative and unpleasant.

There's nothing wrong with me apart from my shyness and lower social confidence. I know that. I'm not ugly au overweight, I'm not completely stupid (maybe at maths but I'm OK at other things), I try to be tolerent and nice to most people I meet. Not to sound vain, but there isn't really a reason for me to deserve half the shit I get from those dicks.

The only thing is my sensitivity. They've picked up on things I've muttered about myself within the past mwaka when I've had 'less confident' days and sic it on me. I'm insecure about certain things and they draw attention to it to get a reaction. It makes me feel like shit, even if what they consider "banter" means nothing. The two boys in my class are the main ones doing this. They're the class-clowns and their version of "having a sense of humor" is uigizaji like complete idiots. I thought they were funny at first, but I now I just fucking hate them. They've even turned my childhood friend on me; he jeers on the insults now.

There's also this tomboy-ish girl who will occasionally drop in her penny-worth, too. She's strange. Like, alone she seems fine, but she will act like a bitch, kahaba in front of zaidi than two people other than me. Especially the two boys I'm talking about. Really nasty, crude maoni as well. I have a feeling it's because she's jealous of me... I don't know.

I'm trying my best to have come-backs, but I'm crap at coming up with them at the right times. I just cuss them out all the time now. I'm not severely bullied au anything, but it is really pissing me off.

I've visited the college I'm going to and it seems great. So... will waiting it out, getting my GCSEs (exams) done and finishing the whole mwaka be worth it?
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DontUWorryChild said:
People in college are a lot zaidi intelligent then people in high school...Maybe things will change. But wewe shouldn't let these jerks get in the way of your dreams of being in college. Your career and education is 50x zaidi important then some idiotic bullies who think their so cool just because they hurt other people's feelings.
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Thank you. :)
Martyrockz12 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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Don't mention it. ^^
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Squirrel501 said:
Stand up to them and tell them that u dont care about wat they say and if they keep doing it go tell the teachers au pricipal







To the world wewe may be one person, but to one person wewe may be the world
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wewe are right dont let them push wewe around
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ConnerandTravis said:
Well, f*ck them. They don't decide about your education au what wewe live by. It may be tough now, but think about how bright your future will be. Hey, everywhere wewe go there is always someone that will bring wewe down. Ignore them. They're just jealous and take their anger toward the source. Some people are different around other people. Talk to your childhood friend alone. Tell him how much it hurts you. If he still hurts you, he was never your friend. Hope this helps
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XxKeithHarkinxX said:
The zaidi wewe fight back the worse it will get, I know it's hard but try and ignore them?

But seriously fighting back and letting it bother wewe give the bullies the satisfaction they crave.

And maybe try avoiding them?

idk I suck at this.
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also try to just focus on your school?.
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Moosick said:
I went through the same thing 2 years back. At first my peers were just insulting me kwa calling me petty names like retard, idiot, gay, fag, etc.. But then they started making racial slurs against me which soon turned into physical bullying (I was dragged into the girls bathroom and got a 'make-over' as they put it. My long hair was cut into a short pixie cut.) I was so depressed (I stopped eating, couldn't sleep, refused to go to school, etc) so finally my parents pulled me out of my personal hell and decided to nyumbani school me. I stayed in nyumbani schooling for a mwaka and finally got to being my old-self, a person who could care less about what people think of me.

Unfortunately I had to return to public school (due to personal issues). The kids that bullied me were glad to have me back. Everytime they tried to start stuff with me I just smiled at them and complemented them (even if I didn't mean it). Eventually they stopped messing with me because they knew I wasn't going to give in and cry/whine/put myself down. I refused to stoop down to their level.

It is a BIG mistake to let your bullies know they are getting to you. I know it's hard but just ignore them and kill them with kindness. :) And sorry I'm not trying to make this about me and my sob story au anything. Just sharing a personal experience. But yeah, waiting it out is SO worth it.
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johnlemon said:
I suck at this advice but, try to ignore them. Retaliate and they get a kick out of it. I would feel the same way, I'm a pretty sensitive person to people being assholes. Unless their opinion doesn't matter. Even then, it still bothers me sometimes. Sorry, I'm rambling. Good luck!
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Elle-C said:
Ugh -- I LOATHE bullying!!! I say, ripoti those tyrannical terrorists in training! In the U.S., there are statutes to deter such heinous behavior:

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wewe should see if there exists an equivalent system in England. Do this and it's bound to get their parents attention. And, as most parents wouldn't want their kids to have a record of wrongdoing, they'll be inclined to keep their bloody brats in line!

Good luck to you, sweetie! I wish wewe the best, huge success and a sweet, happy life. :o)
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ravissa said:
I totally understant u.
when I was in school there was a bitch, kahaba that was always bothering me, everytime I saw her she would push me au sometimes even insult me and she even got some of her Marafiki to jiunge her. on fanpop I am always honest and Bold, but in the real world I am abit shy arround people (mostly people that I don't know)

the bitch, kahaba was very ugly and jealous of me because I could speek two languages (almost 4 now), I was also way hotter then her, lots of boys liked me, my friend where very maarufu and I didn't have any ennemies (exept for her) . I didn't know what to do about her, And one time her and her gang of idiot bitch, kahaba girls even put glue on my chair. It was getting worse and worse


But once in english class I helped her (she could only speek french), and in art class I helped her again and I was always smiling at her (all my smiles where fake though) and then she just stoped being bad
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 I totally understant u. when I was in school there was a bitch, kahaba that was always bothering me, everytime I saw her she would push me au sometimes even insult me and she even got some of her Marafiki to jiunge her. on fanpop I am always honest and Bold, but in the real world I am abit shy arround people (mostly people that I don't know) the bitch, kahaba was very ugly and jealous of me because I could speek two languages (almost 4 now), I was also way hotter then her, lots of boys liked me, my friend where very maarufu and I didn't have any ennemies (exept for her) . I didn't know what to do about her, And one time her and her gang of idiot bitch, kahaba girls even put glue on my chair. It was getting worse and worse But once in english class I helped her (she could only speek french), and in art class I helped her again and I was always smiling at her (all my smiles where fake though) and then she just stoped being bad
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Bluekait said:
Why didn't wewe reported this in the first place? wewe know it's going to continue to happen unless wewe do something other than being one yourself. You're old enough to know this.
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 Why didn't wewe reported this in the first place? wewe know it's going to continue to happen unless wewe do something other than being one yourself. You're old enough to know this.
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seffro said:
People seem to dislike me as well...
I can't figure out why
I just pay them no mind
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 People seem to dislike me as well... I can't figure out why I just pay them no mind
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boytoy_84 said:
Kids can be cruel! I'd try to ignore them. I had the same problem when I was in middle school a few boys teased me because I was quiet, but I don't care at least I pay attention. They're like assholes to me!! So try to ignore and sit away from them and don't walk so close to them with out listening to them ether. Far as the girl she is probably jealous of wewe for being prettier, so sad for her. the boys are assholes and probably bored so they have nothing else to do but tease innocent sweet kids. But don't worry!Kama will get them!!
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Skyadami said:
I'm going through the same exact thing as wewe are right now.These two boys won't leave me alone everytime there around me they always have some bullsh*t to say and I curse them out au sometimes don't say anything.My best advice to wewe is ingore them au if this is getting too much talk to the principal I'm pretty sure they will get suspended.Keep your head up high people generally pick on other people because they feel about themselves,something is going on in there nyumbani au get pick on and feel like bullying other people will solve their problems.
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lovecole said:
dont worry there are mean ppl in the world there words dont madder only the nice ppl in the world words matter
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CrystalNeons said:
Ask them this:

Once were all done with school, will wewe even remember me? Will wewe even remember the girl wewe teased? Insulted? Will it matter what I looked like, what I acted like? Will it matter to wewe that I was bullied kwa wewe every single day, called names, laughed at? Something your kids will do? Will wewe really be happy, will wewe have finally accomplished that one thing that wewe always wanted to do? I hope it does.
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