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Me & my best guy friend...well..i need help...

i like...love him right? but we are like brother and sister.

We talk on the phone all the time and we tell each other everything. he confesses in me and i confess in him and we have like little theraphy sessions! lol. We are so alike it's not even funny.

we both sing. upendo the same muziki and play instruments and have crazy hispanic families.

also like, everyone says that whenever i look away he looks at me (but not just looks...but like...LOOKS) and smiles his perfect little crooked smile. :). and then when i sing (cause we're in drama together) aparently he smiles and looks as if he so proud of me.

he's always telling me he loves me, but i take it as a joke. like he'll randomly breathe in really deeply and say "i upendo you". and i laugh and be like "i upendo wewe too." and as in like a joke...i guess (though i really wanna say it for real).

The other siku we had "a fake fight" where he called me ugly (i knew he was joking) and i got "mad". we'll he climbed over this meza, jedwali and wrapped his arms around me from the back. i alisema "i don't accept hugs from wewe anymore." so then he held me tighter and put his chin on my shoulder and KISSED MY SHOULDER!

wewe might be thinking "oh yea he likes you." but we've been Marafiki for so long and i know him so well but the only thing i'm never sure of is that i just can never ever tell if he likes somebody! i mean last mwaka he likes two of my best friends. one rejected him the other went out with him for two months and then he broke up with her. and then at the end of that school mwaka he started liking my enemy (hahaha).

he says he doesnt like her anymore (and i wanna trust him but...) i just dont know anymore. and i dont wanna say anything to him about me liking hm alot because last mwaka someone told him and it was awkward for a while...

help? please!




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Eline_K said:
Wow, that's a difficult situation you've got yourself into.. Sound like wewe really are in upendo with him, right?

Personally I thinks it always good to first be friends, and then fall in love, because then wewe can really be yourself around him. Some people act differently when they're in upendo and they want the other person to like them.

In your situation wewe have a friendship wewe really don't want to lose. Telling him how wewe feel without any warning might upset him and ruin your friendship. You'll have to decide whether au not wewe are prepared to put that on the line.

Maybe it's an idea to call in help from someone else. Is there someone wewe know well (and trust) who also knows him? Maybe he/she could try to find out how he feels, in a way he won't know wewe send him/her. Like saying something like: 'Well, wewe two are so close.. anything zaidi going on between you..?' Who knows he might open up. This might help wewe find out how he feels about you. If he insinuates he likes wewe too, the risk of losing him as a friend is lower, and your chances of upendo are higher. If he says he really sees wewe as 'just a friend', chances are things can get awkward again if wewe speak up.

wewe are in an extremely difficult situation. Be careful, wewe have a lot to lose! But if wewe believe there's a chance of true love: go for it!

Hope this helped, and let me know what happens!

Eline
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wow thanks! the only thin is...he lies and says he doesn't like somebody when he does! and he's done it to me, his BEST GUY FRIEND and almost everyone.
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Alexina123 said:
Well, to me this seems extremely cute! Haha. I like how wewe too are really close and wewe have feelings for him, it's sweet. :) I just recently broke up with my boyfriend because it wasn't really working out, I think we needed to get to know each other first. Looks like wewe have skipped a stage, though. :P
Anyway, I think wewe should really go right out and tell him the truth. He seems like a nice enough guy that if he didn't like wewe back in that way then he would still be your friend, right?
But the thing is, it's really hard to keep your feelings bottled up inside you. :/ Saying them even if he doesn't feel the same is much better than always wondering...what if...
It seems like wewe would feel comfortable enough to tell him how wewe really feel because how close wewe two seem. :] and it's even great wewe two share the same intersts and are alike.
wewe say he lies about who he likes so maybe he's lying about if he likes wewe au not...he most probably does but is feeling like wewe and doesn't want to let his feelings out.
Personally, I think wewe should invite him round your house au call him, which ever is easier for you...Then say to him how wewe feel but make sure wewe mention that it's okay if he doesn't like wewe like that, and that wewe will always be his friend no matter what.
I'm sorry if I didn't help at all! Good luck, though. :] Hope it does work out and wewe do get with him, looks like it could last long.
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moonlightgirls1 said:
i understand what wewe are going through try to tell him how wewe feel evan if its hard and if is a real friend he will stand kwa wewe and wewe never know he might have feeligns for wewe to!x
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
Normally I might not say this~ in fact I have yet to say this to ANYONE in over a mwaka on fp.

Throw him down and just kiss him!

He'll be shocked and might not respond like wewe like au want but give him a siku au two to let it sink in. lol
.......see what happens.

-Your other choice~ Ask him if he has ever thought of wewe as zaidi than just Marafiki au in a way outside the friendzone/sisterly way...

[PS. I have been with my bro/best guy friend for almost a mwaka as his gf and I did not think of him as anything zaidi - we were Marafiki almost a mwaka and now things are STEAM'N HOT XD... Good Luck]
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Normally I might not say this~ in fact I have yet to say this to ANYONE in over a mwaka on fp. [b]Throw him down and just kiss him![/b] He'll be shocked and might not respond like wewe like au want but give him a siku au two to let it sink in. lol .......see what happens. -[b]Your other choice~ Ask him if he has ever thought of wewe as zaidi than just Marafiki au in a way outside the friendzone/sisterly way...[/b] [PS. I have been with my bro/best guy friend for almost a mwaka as his gf and I did not think of him as anything zaidi - we were Marafiki almost a mwaka and now things are STEAM'N HOT XD... Good Luck]
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