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I need help! Should I stay au leave?

I wouldn't ask for anyones help au opinion I wouldn't waist your time. But I need some opinions please

Long story short so I met a guy online. He lives in texas and i upendo in denver. We've exchanged pictures, talked on the phone, played online with him, We Skyped. I grew fond of him and we've developed a really strong friendship. I planed to fly down after I tured 18 in July. He has everything all set up for me to fly down au take a bus. But here the problem.... my parents refuse to let me take this trip. They have called me every name and the book and that I'm selfie and brain washed. I've planed to come back I'm not leaving forever. Only a week in July to see if we click. My parents have told me if I leave they will disown me I will not be accepted kwa then back if for some reason him and I don't "click".

Should I go against there wishes and go anyway because it's what I want.

Do I obey what they alisema because if I take this risk and it doesn't work I will have no family left.

Please leave your full opinion. Be blunt Lol I need a new perspective thank wewe so much.
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Why are they hating this? Have a rational conversation with them. What are their reasons?
Zippy100 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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I have 100% tried having a rashional conversation they haven't met him there for its not okay.
DanDan211985 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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There afraid of losing the person that cooks and cleans for them it's not just worried about my safety
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greyswan618 said:
Why can't he come to you?Tell him the situation with your parents and see what he says.If he agrees to come down to wewe then ask if maybe your parents can meet him to see what he's like in person to see if wewe are compatible and maybe au maybe not they will let wewe visit him after wewe turn 18.
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That is a good point.
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I hope I am not too late to put in my opinion - I have to say that even though wewe don't believe that your parents are concerned about your safety, there is still a very strong concern about a young female going to meet a man for the first time. It is best that he comes to meet you, your parents and others that upendo you. Let them check him out etc. There have been so many cases where women have been placed in danger kwa meeting a man the way he is proposing. If he does not agree - then wewe know there is something amiss and wewe would be salama not meeting him ever.
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Rihanna312 said:
Well, I`d say a lot depends on how old wewe both are. Maybe wewe are too young to travel like this alone and wewe parents are just worried. But if wewe are old enough and maybe have traveled somewhere alone before, I think wewe should talk to them and explain everything again.
They probably just are worried that the guy is not what he tells to be. With all those stories about catfishing online. wewe could also let them have a short convo with him over skype, so they see that he isn`t some creepy 50+yo weirdo.
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I'm 18 lol. No I haven't traveled anywhere before but I have worked in fast chakula at a truck stop. They have there mind set but I will discuss with them again and again until I chose to leave au figure out a plan em your absolutely right but they have other kids they have met people online and they were who they alisema they were. I'm the last of there kids so they have alot of expectations. Thank wewe so much I will definitely consider the Skype =]
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TheLefteris24 said:
How long have wewe been knowing this person? Are wewe that confident about the trust both of wewe have built in the meanwhile? If wewe feel that everything concerning this trip is safe, then feel free to do it. Concerning your parents, did wewe talked it out with them? Sitting down and having a conversation about the Friendship wewe share with the person wewe want to visit can go a long way. If wewe have done that and they still refuse to let wewe go, how about taking them with wewe au introduce your Friend to them through Skype? They just seem to be pretty worried for wewe and it is only natural since quite a few cases of meeting through the Web didn't end well. wewe alisema that wewe have turned 18 but that means wewe only just now legally reached adulthood. To a Parent, their Kids will always been seen as such. Those threats are only an indication of their fear. I wouldn't place much thought on them. I would suggest to take some time and try to work out things with them as best as wewe can. If things are just as genuine as they seem, they will realize it. Your Friend might wait a bit but I am sure he will respect that. wewe have all the time in the World to meet him. Especially since wewe two have developed a strong bond as wewe alisema !!!!
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Not everyone is bluffing with the disowning man. Some people are serious. wewe probably shouldn't tell people they might not mean it because quite often people do and people generally don't throw out disowning as a threat.
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^ I told her not to worry sick about it. Not disregard it completely. The fact that they used such a threat over a matter like this is an indication of how much they worry about her. That is how it comes across to me. Personally, I have seen disowning being a pretty common form of Persuasiveness. The possibility of being a bluff still exists. Regardless, things need to be worked out with her parents. A point like that can be pretty easily avoided kwa following one of the possible solutions that has been proposed in here au finding something other way of her own !!!!
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I'm glad if I could help in any way possible. You're welcome !!!!
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BlindBandit92 said:
Aside from potentially being disowned. wewe might want to also reaffirm that he's an okay guy because there's been instances where guys and girls met people online and it did not go the way they planned at all.

Otherwise if wewe do take the trip maybe ask your siblings to allow wewe to take if they disown you? I am sorry I don't really have advise for wewe as I have not been in this situation.
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I've been talking to them asking and asking and explaining. And I do know that about guys and girls meeting online sometimes people just don't get along. I will definitely consult my siblings before I leave there just gunna talk me out of it tho lol. hujambo advice is advice I very much appreciate it alot
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^NO it's not just not getting alone some people kidnap people online. wewe need to be careful who wewe meet.
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^Alright np
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