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Advice Do wewe know what to say to Marafiki in Crisis?
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Sometimes depends on the Situation
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Yes, i always have a supportive word au two.
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No, but i listen and try my best
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Yes: Nothing. Your job is to just listen.
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No, i freeze up and don't know what to say
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People never come to me tbh *weeps*
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my Marafiki alllwas now there can cry on my shoulders!
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i have my own problems
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Pretend to listen and nod ur head occasionally, that way they think ur listening
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Let them get over it themselves.
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For example, I used to have a teacher who was desperate for everyone to have problems so that she could help them. If you said, "Latin is my least favourite subject" she'd be down on you in a second going, "What is it about Latin? Is your teacher nasty to you? Does he pick on you? Do you get too much homework? Should I get Mr So-and-so to talk with you?" Basically, it backfired because no one ever confided in her about anything because she made such mountains out of molehills, she interrogated people and she did a cooing voice and touched your shoulder when she talked to you, stuff like that.
where is unless they directly ask for it and you give someone advice they don't want to hear in that state their more likely not to listen
and i am brutally honest i think telling someone what they want to hear when you don't think that can be more destructive than helpful
another reason why i prefer talking to strangers
And that is just as true among us actual Shrinks as it is among laymen.
This is a dangerous road to go down right here. Potential legal problems are very foreseeable here.
i kind of get what you mean but if people don't weant to share they don't have to none is making them or even asking them and i think if it can help one person, its worth while. i know im dead against half the stuff people say and don't really think about it but i apreshate that they are trying to help and that they want to.
It's true. There's a (popular) theory in (philosophy?) that the phrase "I know how you feel" is the falsest thing you can tell a person. Because even if they stubbed their toe, and you stubbed your toe on the same step two hours before, you still can't say "I know how you feel" because there are other factors at play... I don't know, we talked about this in my poetry class of all places, it made sense at the time.
It's true that you can never know what a person is experiencing, because we don't have the lingual capacity in order to communicate such complex things. The only way we could is if we were telepathic, like in some sci-fi novels where one person literally empathizes with the individual.
But what you can do is provide support, which I think is the point of this spot. If someone asks for help, answer their questions as best you can, but timidly, and it's OK to say "I don't know the answer." The important thing is that you're there for them when they need you. You don't have to spout off great philosophical quotes, you don't have to make everything better, or provide a miracle cure, or tell them exactly how they can solve their problems. You just have to be there. Like a pillow. Whether they need to punch a pillow, or cry in a pillow, or hug a pillow, you just... be the pillow.
It's hard giving advice when it takes so long!
Plus, they rarely ask for my support, they have other, closer friends.
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