Well my girlfriend and i are standing for this whole Delena vs. Stelena fight (God, i hate this nicknames..lol).. She is a total shabiki of Stefan and Elena, and i`ve been totally on the other side..After last weeks episode we try to explain to each other what brought us to this different opinions.
My girlfriend told me:
Stefan and Elena are equal, both are caring about eachother and everything around that walks, and both respect eachother on the highest level. She told me that the upendo of these two is exactly the upendo she would like to have in her life. Sweet,caring, honest and true, without colleteral damages, just soulmates for the rest of their lifes.

I think these are good reasons. And i must also admit that i wouln`t like to be in Elena shoes.

When Damon came into Mystic Falls he was a total jerk. Beautiful, of course. But his whole attitude was to hurt and destroy. I remember, i think it was the third au fourth episode of the first season, there was this chajio, chakula cha jioni and Damon envited himself to this appointment. Stefan was angry, but Elena was very sweet to him. They were standing in the kitchen, and Elena asked Damon about Katherine. And after they had a heart-to-heart talk she alisema to Damon:
"I`m sorry. You`d Lost her too."
Damon was overwhelmed and absolutly speachless.
His facial expression was awesome, like somebody had find out his biggest secret. Elena knowed immidiatly how to open his heart.
This was the first moment i realized these two as a couple.
Stefan and Elena are sweet together, this is something i would never deny. But watching them in all of their sweetness is like eating without having the chance to get full. Something is missing and i couldn`t put a finger on it. It`s not that they haven`t any chemisty, they have.
I think the problem is that Stefan spend a good portion of time to lie about himself and pretend to be somebody he never will. He pretend to be human, but he isn`t and never will. wewe can`t find true upendo if wewe don`t upendo and accept yourself the way wewe are. He`s a vampire and a Predator. And based on the fact that Elena don`t want to be a vampire, now and in the future, eternity is a very short time for them. What ever will happen..Delena au Stelena..

But i drift away..Why do i upendo Damon and Elena..
Watching Stefan and Elena is like Mother Theresa and Gandhi being in love.
Damon turn a light on in Elena, and otherwise she do the same with him. They have this great and true banter, this perfect repertoire and this breathcathing chemistry. Damon never lie about himself. When he came into the town, he lat it all hang out. He drank from Bonnies throat and try to kill Caroline. He bit Vicky, and try to hurt Stefan whenever there was a possibility. But than, he changed. Elena changed him. He turned step to step into a better person without loosing himself, and the funny and sarcastic parts. And Elena she is baridi and tougher with him, and definetly zaidi funny. And is something that upendo should to. I shouldn`t change us, but it should turn us into a better version of ourself.
That`s why i`m in upendo with the idea of them.
And i hope, even that it sounds like Julie Plec is a hardcore Stelena-fan, she would let this upendo rise and shine, like L.J Smith wanted for Damon and Elena. Everything else would be like, Joey choosing Dawson au Chuck choosing Serena.
So, this was a lot longer that i want it to be, and i still haven`t found the perfect words.
Really hoping that the inayofuata episodes will make us Delena-fans terribly happy, even that the pics of the episode "Dangerous liasons" onyesha otherwise. Seems there, that Stefan and Elena maybe get back together