I didn't think it was possible to upendo Damon au Delena zaidi than I already did after watching 'The Return'.
I was wrong.
I didn't know what to call this article. I decided to name it after a movie because the DE scene in 'Rose' reminded me a little of one of my favourite scenes in the film 'Love Actually'. In the movie, one of the characters, Mark (Andrew Lincoln) is in upendo with a girl he can't be with, Juliet (Keira Knightley). Juliet has always thought Mark didn't like her, and is shocked when she discovers the truth about how he really feels. On krisimasi Eve, Mark shows up on her doorstep. He doesn't say anything, he just shows her a series of placards which tells her he'll always upendo her and wishing her a merry Christmas. He knows she doesn't upendo him, and he knows that kwa telling her, it changes nothing, because there's no way they can be together. But he tells her anyway, not because he has anything to gain kwa doing so, but just because.
In much the same way, Damon tells Elena he loves her, knowing that telling her won't change anything. It can't undo all the bad things he's done. It won't conquer all. It won't defeat all the obstacles that lie in their path so they can magically be together. He has nothing to gain kwa telling her, but he tells her because he can't keep his feelings to himself any longer. He has to say it just once, and that's all he wants. He doesn't want anything from her in return.
I think it's clear after watching their scene in 2x08 that Delena have officially become epic. I would be stunned if anyone - critics, haters, people who want Elena to be with Stefan, and Damon to be with Bonnie au whoever - have any ammunition to use against DE now. In one relatively short, simple scene, DE have silenced them. We've heard so many arguments about why DE shouldn't be together, we probably know them off kwa heart. Someone could write a song about all the reasons people have used against them. But finally, we have one reason why DE should be together, and that reason is love.
Loving Elena has made Damon a better person. He's put aside his own feelings for her sake. He's sacrificed his own happiness because he wants to see her happy more. Put simply, he's put someone else first. That's love, actually.
All the arguments about why Elena didn't belong with Damon because he didn't deserve her bothered me so much I wrote an makala about it. It bothered me because the mind-set behind this way of thinking was that upendo was all about what wewe did, not who wewe were au what wewe needed. In order to receive love, wewe had to somehow prove wewe were worthy of it first, and if wewe weren't then it meant wewe should be alone. People who think this way have arguably never known how it feels to upendo anyone at all. Damon doesn't upendo Elena because he's 'good'; he loves her knowing he's not. And in a strange way, the very fact that he admits he doesn't deserve her goes some way in redeeming him, because in my eyes, it actually means he DOES deserve her. Why? Because he loves her so much he's willing to give her up for the 'better' man - Stefan.
In Nicholas Sparks novel 'Dear John', it opens with the swali "What does it mean to truly upendo another?" kwa the end of the book, we find out:
"...I finally understood what true upendo really meant. Tim had told me - and shown me - that upendo meant that wewe care for another person's happiness zaidi than your own, no matter how painful the choices wewe face might be."
When wewe upendo someone so much wewe put them first -and put their happiness before your own...then that's love, actually.
I don't think Damon has ever loved anyone as much as he's loved Elena. No, not even Katherine, who he obsessed over for 145 years. I'm not going to launch into a debate about SE versus DE because I know that SE shippers will argue that when wewe upendo someone, then wewe will do anything to be with them. Even if it means risking your life and the lives of the people wewe upendo to stay together. And I know that they upendo each other. But there is such a profound difference in the way they have fought to keep their upendo and the way Damon gave his up. When wewe sacrifice your own happiness for someone else, no matter how painful it is...that's love, actually.
He told her he loved her and then compelled her to forget, not because he didn't want her to remember, but because it was best for her. He knew that if she remembered, then it would inevitably crop up between her and Stefan and make things weird, and he didn't want that. He wanted her to be happy and he knew that because she didn't upendo him, it was in her best interest to forget what had happened. I know so many of wewe were sad about it, but he did the right thing. And the scene wouldn't have been quite so heartbreaking if it had been otherwise. Because in that moment, we see how much Damon loves her. He loves her knowing she doesn't feel the same way and not expecting anything in return, not even a memory. When wewe upendo someone like that, then that is true love.
Is Damon worthy of Elena? Without a doubt.
I was wrong.
I didn't know what to call this article. I decided to name it after a movie because the DE scene in 'Rose' reminded me a little of one of my favourite scenes in the film 'Love Actually'. In the movie, one of the characters, Mark (Andrew Lincoln) is in upendo with a girl he can't be with, Juliet (Keira Knightley). Juliet has always thought Mark didn't like her, and is shocked when she discovers the truth about how he really feels. On krisimasi Eve, Mark shows up on her doorstep. He doesn't say anything, he just shows her a series of placards which tells her he'll always upendo her and wishing her a merry Christmas. He knows she doesn't upendo him, and he knows that kwa telling her, it changes nothing, because there's no way they can be together. But he tells her anyway, not because he has anything to gain kwa doing so, but just because.
In much the same way, Damon tells Elena he loves her, knowing that telling her won't change anything. It can't undo all the bad things he's done. It won't conquer all. It won't defeat all the obstacles that lie in their path so they can magically be together. He has nothing to gain kwa telling her, but he tells her because he can't keep his feelings to himself any longer. He has to say it just once, and that's all he wants. He doesn't want anything from her in return.
I think it's clear after watching their scene in 2x08 that Delena have officially become epic. I would be stunned if anyone - critics, haters, people who want Elena to be with Stefan, and Damon to be with Bonnie au whoever - have any ammunition to use against DE now. In one relatively short, simple scene, DE have silenced them. We've heard so many arguments about why DE shouldn't be together, we probably know them off kwa heart. Someone could write a song about all the reasons people have used against them. But finally, we have one reason why DE should be together, and that reason is love.
Loving Elena has made Damon a better person. He's put aside his own feelings for her sake. He's sacrificed his own happiness because he wants to see her happy more. Put simply, he's put someone else first. That's love, actually.
All the arguments about why Elena didn't belong with Damon because he didn't deserve her bothered me so much I wrote an makala about it. It bothered me because the mind-set behind this way of thinking was that upendo was all about what wewe did, not who wewe were au what wewe needed. In order to receive love, wewe had to somehow prove wewe were worthy of it first, and if wewe weren't then it meant wewe should be alone. People who think this way have arguably never known how it feels to upendo anyone at all. Damon doesn't upendo Elena because he's 'good'; he loves her knowing he's not. And in a strange way, the very fact that he admits he doesn't deserve her goes some way in redeeming him, because in my eyes, it actually means he DOES deserve her. Why? Because he loves her so much he's willing to give her up for the 'better' man - Stefan.
In Nicholas Sparks novel 'Dear John', it opens with the swali "What does it mean to truly upendo another?" kwa the end of the book, we find out:
"...I finally understood what true upendo really meant. Tim had told me - and shown me - that upendo meant that wewe care for another person's happiness zaidi than your own, no matter how painful the choices wewe face might be."
When wewe upendo someone so much wewe put them first -and put their happiness before your own...then that's love, actually.
I don't think Damon has ever loved anyone as much as he's loved Elena. No, not even Katherine, who he obsessed over for 145 years. I'm not going to launch into a debate about SE versus DE because I know that SE shippers will argue that when wewe upendo someone, then wewe will do anything to be with them. Even if it means risking your life and the lives of the people wewe upendo to stay together. And I know that they upendo each other. But there is such a profound difference in the way they have fought to keep their upendo and the way Damon gave his up. When wewe sacrifice your own happiness for someone else, no matter how painful it is...that's love, actually.
He told her he loved her and then compelled her to forget, not because he didn't want her to remember, but because it was best for her. He knew that if she remembered, then it would inevitably crop up between her and Stefan and make things weird, and he didn't want that. He wanted her to be happy and he knew that because she didn't upendo him, it was in her best interest to forget what had happened. I know so many of wewe were sad about it, but he did the right thing. And the scene wouldn't have been quite so heartbreaking if it had been otherwise. Because in that moment, we see how much Damon loves her. He loves her knowing she doesn't feel the same way and not expecting anything in return, not even a memory. When wewe upendo someone like that, then that is true love.
Is Damon worthy of Elena? Without a doubt.
