Hello there! :) As I alisema in the title, this is moslty directed towards boys. I've just witnessed a lot of wewe being intolerable jerks, (not all of you, just most of the guys where I live) and I'd like to share my knowledge. SO JUST STOP RIGHT THERE and let Hazel give wewe some advice. :)
1. When wewe introduce her to your friends, introduce her AS YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
Don't just say- "Oh, this is Penelope. Anyway..." Nonono, rather- "Hey guys, this is my girlfriend, Penelope. I upendo her, so be nice." When wewe introduce her to your friends, it shows her that she will probably be around for a while, which makes her feel special.
2. (If at school) communicate with her silently from across the room.
Whether it's just a smile, wink, au anything of those sorts, it will brighten her day. Seeing the boy she oves smiling warmly at her will make her tummy tingle.
3. BE HER BEST FRIEND.
This is extremely important, hence the capital letters. When wewe are in a relationship, being lovers seems amazing, right? The warm feeling wewe always get when wewe two kiss, hug, share intimate moments, ect. But after a while, if all wewe two are is lovers, it begins to get old, au boring. There ARE times in relationships when wewe randomly don't upendo your partner as much as wewe normally do. During those times, if wewe have a friendship with your partner, wewe will have something left. Ever seen couples who are married at a very old age when they are all wrinkly and saggy and a bit gross? They had that best friendship. If wewe are JUST lovers, wewe won't want to be lovers when you're all saggy.
Does this make sense? Laugh with her. Share inside jokes with her. Play games with her. Go out for coffee and just talk about your day. A best friendship for me is looking at someone from across the room and being able to have silent conversations with just facial expressions. She will upendo being your best friend.
4. Have "a song" au "a food" au "a show".
This also goes with being best friends. There is this boy that I used to like- Our Song was "If wewe Wanted A Song Written About You, All wewe Had To Do Was Ask" kwa Mayday Parade. (We weren't dating, but wewe get the point.) If wewe two had a onyesha and it was... "The Office" for example, every time a new episode came on, wewe two will make some popcorn, scurry to the TV, and snuggle up & watch, happy as can be. All the while, wewe are eating... String cheese, which is "your food". Are wewe getting the point?
5. Make her feel safe, but let her make her own choices.
Girls upendo the feeling of being salama in their boy's arms, being kissed on the forehead, just being protected. But wewe can't be TOO protective, because she'll feel restrained and powerless. Example- if some guy is flirting with your girl, kick his ass! But don't make her stop talking to her guy friends. It is a bit frustrating when the boyfriend is overly protective.
6. Be sweet to her, but wewe must also be firm.
This reminds me of a South Park episode- Satan loved Saddam Hussein AND this guy named Chris. He loved how Chris was sweet to him, but he was just TOO sweet. Satan hated how Saddam was an asshole, but Saddam was was also firm and it was attractive to Satan.
(Translation) xD
Be very sweet and nice to your girlfriend. She should be a princess to you. But at the same time, if she lies to wewe au does something that upsets you, (flirts with another guy, cheats, stays out too late) wewe have to be firm and scold her. Set boundries. Every girl wants a sweet guy, but if wewe don't set boundries, she may feel free to continue to do some bad things. Don't be so firm that she is scared of you, just enough that she understands that wewe care and wewe are worried.
That's it for now. :) I'll make another one later! <3 See wewe all.
-Hazel
1. When wewe introduce her to your friends, introduce her AS YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
Don't just say- "Oh, this is Penelope. Anyway..." Nonono, rather- "Hey guys, this is my girlfriend, Penelope. I upendo her, so be nice." When wewe introduce her to your friends, it shows her that she will probably be around for a while, which makes her feel special.
2. (If at school) communicate with her silently from across the room.
Whether it's just a smile, wink, au anything of those sorts, it will brighten her day. Seeing the boy she oves smiling warmly at her will make her tummy tingle.
3. BE HER BEST FRIEND.
This is extremely important, hence the capital letters. When wewe are in a relationship, being lovers seems amazing, right? The warm feeling wewe always get when wewe two kiss, hug, share intimate moments, ect. But after a while, if all wewe two are is lovers, it begins to get old, au boring. There ARE times in relationships when wewe randomly don't upendo your partner as much as wewe normally do. During those times, if wewe have a friendship with your partner, wewe will have something left. Ever seen couples who are married at a very old age when they are all wrinkly and saggy and a bit gross? They had that best friendship. If wewe are JUST lovers, wewe won't want to be lovers when you're all saggy.
Does this make sense? Laugh with her. Share inside jokes with her. Play games with her. Go out for coffee and just talk about your day. A best friendship for me is looking at someone from across the room and being able to have silent conversations with just facial expressions. She will upendo being your best friend.
4. Have "a song" au "a food" au "a show".
This also goes with being best friends. There is this boy that I used to like- Our Song was "If wewe Wanted A Song Written About You, All wewe Had To Do Was Ask" kwa Mayday Parade. (We weren't dating, but wewe get the point.) If wewe two had a onyesha and it was... "The Office" for example, every time a new episode came on, wewe two will make some popcorn, scurry to the TV, and snuggle up & watch, happy as can be. All the while, wewe are eating... String cheese, which is "your food". Are wewe getting the point?
5. Make her feel safe, but let her make her own choices.
Girls upendo the feeling of being salama in their boy's arms, being kissed on the forehead, just being protected. But wewe can't be TOO protective, because she'll feel restrained and powerless. Example- if some guy is flirting with your girl, kick his ass! But don't make her stop talking to her guy friends. It is a bit frustrating when the boyfriend is overly protective.
6. Be sweet to her, but wewe must also be firm.
This reminds me of a South Park episode- Satan loved Saddam Hussein AND this guy named Chris. He loved how Chris was sweet to him, but he was just TOO sweet. Satan hated how Saddam was an asshole, but Saddam was was also firm and it was attractive to Satan.
(Translation) xD
Be very sweet and nice to your girlfriend. She should be a princess to you. But at the same time, if she lies to wewe au does something that upsets you, (flirts with another guy, cheats, stays out too late) wewe have to be firm and scold her. Set boundries. Every girl wants a sweet guy, but if wewe don't set boundries, she may feel free to continue to do some bad things. Don't be so firm that she is scared of you, just enough that she understands that wewe care and wewe are worried.
That's it for now. :) I'll make another one later! <3 See wewe all.
-Hazel
I'm a girl and I have a crush on this guy. I'm in school 5th grade. Here's how it works. Make sure wewe have post-its. When she au he is not looking grab the post it and pit your number on it. Don't put your name on it! Put it in his au her desk. Then when they see it make sure they don't know its you. Say that it is your friend. (Yes wewe have to lie.) Tell him au her not to call wewe just say to text. That is better off. If your name is in your voicemail change it. When he texts wewe say that is your friend. When you're ready ask him au her out. If they say no say how about some other time. Then continue from there. If they say yes then wewe should tell them who it really is. This happened to me and it worked he is dating someone else but I didn't ask him out yet. I'm have a plan. I hoped this helped!