As wewe know very well know that wewe are picking out specifically one person (me for example) is personal attacking. Then, without consulting the person wewe are personally attacking, make your statement anyway. This offends far zaidi people then wewe will expect. Like all people, they have Marafiki that might not be well informed on the matter and take it as a personal attack to the friend (me) even though the friend (me) doesn't find it offensive. This causes many, many problems to start with and prooves less useful to make then to have never made it. In turn, the friend makes a personal attack on either a friend of the person who attacks (me) au the person that personally targeted (me). Everyone gets unhappy and it all started with one little swali that one person though that even though it obviously was offensive, didn't think it would be.