Sex and Sexuality

jibu swali hili

Sex and Sexuality Swali

Do wewe think wewe should have sex starting out as boyfriend and girlfriend au only in marriage?

 JennaStone22 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
next question »

Sex and Sexuality Majibu

Sinna_Hime_chan said:
I believe in marriage. This topic is so contraversial that I really did not want to answer it. I believe in marriage and I have been married and now I am not. I believe in the sancity of marriage and it just did not matter or work that way for me. Off and on I have been in different places in my life in how I felt and in what I did. It's very strange looking back and wondering why I did things or even thought as I did.

I think sex before marriage, whether with a bf/gf or not or waiting til engaged or night of the wedding is an individual choice and one you must live with the rest of your life. So when we make choices we should try to make them very educated ones and with our heart and gut and beliefs. If we do some diservice to ourselves we will regret it. If we make a choice and are niave we will regret it. Life is full of regrets, so I say to make as few as possible because we do not always have the opportunity to make up for it.

Love can also be VERY idealistic ... "Oh that won't happen to me... " Well~ It's a good idea to be very realistic, understand different possibilities that could happen outside your control and also know that there are completely unforeseeable things. We set marriage and sex on such lofty or dreamy pedestals sometimes when we reach for values or hopes and commit ourselves to what we truly believe is best for us, only real life is not often anywhere like that as it may turn out sometimes. Be careful. EITHER way be careful. Each path has traps and lessons, neither path is "safe." People have different reasons for doing things... and it is a very personal & individual thing.
 select as best answer
I believe in marriage. This topic is so contraversial that I really did not want to answer it. I believe in marriage and I have been married and now I am not. I believe in the sancity of marriage and it just did not matter or work that way for me. Off and on I have been in different places in my life in how I felt and in what I did. It's very strange looking back and wondering why I did things or even thought as I did. I think sex before marriage, whether with a bf/gf or not or waiting til engaged or night of the wedding is an individual choice and one you must live with the rest of your life. So when we make choices we should try to make them very educated ones and with our heart and gut and beliefs. If we do some diservice to ourselves we will regret it. If we make a choice and are niave we will regret it. Life is full of regrets, so I say to make as few as possible because we do not always have the opportunity to make up for it. Love can also be VERY idealistic ... "Oh that won't happen to me... " Well~ It's a good idea to be very realistic, understand different possibilities that could happen outside your control and also know that there are completely unforeseeable things. We set marriage and sex on such lofty or dreamy pedestals sometimes when we reach for values or hopes and commit ourselves to what we truly believe is best for us, only real life is not often anywhere like that as it may turn out sometimes. Be careful. EITHER way be careful. Each path has traps and lessons, neither path is "safe." People have different reasons for doing things... and it is a very personal & individual thing.
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
*
I think people should be realistic. A lot of these, "I am gonna wait till married and in upendo sound like Fairy-tale land from a very young person's Idealistic perspective. Over 50% of marriages WON'T last... higher in many countries, and out of those 50% that do how many are satisfied au STAY "in-love" & how many cheat on their spouse? wewe want to go into all this inexperienced & naive, fine, doing it for upendo is a great reason, but know what wewe are up against. It isn't a fairy story! Crap happens. Don't be surprised if wewe save yourself for the biggest loser, cheater, who brings nyumbani Hep C as a present for ya & a crumbled marriage. Good Luck. Hope it works out for you. That did not happen to me, but reality DID. Famous last words are, “That won’t happen to me.” I say – just be aware.
Sinna_Hime_chan posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
*
Sinna, this is such a heart-felt answer, and very realistic. It's easy to ndoto about getting married--it's the staying committed in a relationship that's the hard part.
jester616 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
boytoy_84 said:
wewe can have sex anytime with your partner depends on what religion wewe are. Some people wait until they're married and some others start when they are ready to. 18 years is the best age to have sex for the first time. any younger is too young in my opinion. Plus, wewe must always use protection against STD, infections, herpes and to prevent pregnancy.

 select as best answer
wewe can have sex anytime with your partner depends on what religion wewe are. Some people wait until they're married and some others start when they are ready to. 18 years is the best age to have sex for the first time. any younger is too young in my opinion. [i]Plus, wewe must always use protection against STD, infections, herpes and to prevent pregnancy[/i].
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
*
Well alisema boytoy. I alisema something similar.
Persephone713 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
*
:)
boytoy_84 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
legend_of_roxas said:
For me, I want to have sex only in marriage because of my religion, but I feel that anyone can have sex when they are ready and when they are above the legal age to consent.
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
Otaku_Girl4890 said:
If I'm really in upendo with my boyfriend, and I feel he really loves me and we've been serious for a while, I think that would be a good time for me. I've made up my mind that when I feel I'm ready and I'm in a serious relationship (weather he's my boyfriend, fiancee, au husband) is a good time.
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
True-Finn-Fan said:
i going with marriage...
select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
FLUFFYMUFFIN said:
only wife and husband
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
*
Good to know a 12 mwaka olds perspective. Thanks for sharing.
Sinna_Hime_chan posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
Dragon4322 said:
sex should be after you're married. because it is a feeling that should be expressed when wewe are with the person wewe truly love
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
Makeupdiva said:
Well, to me, when your ready. If wewe prefer to wait till your married than fine that's your choice but if you'd rather do it before marriage that is also fine. Some people say they'd prefer to wait till their married because of their religion. But whatever, again it's your choice. The main thing is, if your ready and wewe are sure, that your in upendo and that they upendo wewe in return than go ahead. I'm not trying to start an argument, wewe asked for my opinion, I gave it.
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
swampfox31 said:
I think it mostly matters on what the two partners believe. If they both upendo each other and are committed to each other before they are married, then I see no problem with them wanting to have sex. They should be able to handle the forthcoming events that may come from their actions, however.
 select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
Persephone713 said:
This is a very tricky and private conversation that a person needs to have when they feel ready. Once wewe give yourself to another person and lose your Virginity its gone. ( I personally dont believe in that " Born Again Virgin" crap- sounds like " oops! I changed my mind I want it back"). If wewe are in a strong relationship- and wewe feel ready, then talk about it. I personally would feel awkward having to tell my husband I gave my Virginity to someone other than him. I want to give myself to him on our wedding night. And Im not all that religious. I just think the following conversation:
"Honey, I upendo wewe but before we consummate our love, I have to let wewe know that I am not a Virgin, I gave it away to blah blah blah". AWKWARD!

But its all personal, and wewe hope wewe choose someone who has the same ideals.
select as best answer
posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
next question »
Cookies help us bring you Fanpop. By using Fanpop, you agree to our use of cookies. Learn More Got It!