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Cinders said:
If you're a woman, you've probably heard that when wewe have sex for the first time, it will hurt. This is not necessarily true. Nor is it true that wewe will bleed, au he will break your hymen.
First of all, the hymen is often broken in a woman's girlhood, especially if she is active, especially in gymnastics and horseback riding. Your hymen may also be broken kwa your gynecologist if you've ever had a pelvic exam before you're sexually active. But even if it is still intact, wewe probably won't feel it break.
I remember when I was a preteen, I was terrified of having sex for the first time, even though I really wanted to. I had also heard that it would hurt, and my own self-explorations with phallic objects quickly convinced me that it would. But that was because, when I tried to "stretch myself out" using such an object, I tried to go right in, without warming up au using any lubrication. Because I wasn't masturbating (I was experimenting see if sex would hurt) so I wasn't concerned with turning myself on. But that was a big mistake.
Not surprisingly, my first time with a man was nothing like anything I had tried on my own. For one thing, he really knew what he was doing. We had perhaps two hours of foreplay and teasing before there was any penetration. He respected my boundaries, and in fact hadn't even intended on penetrating until I was so worked up I was literally begging for it.
As a result, I had an excellent first experience. And it did not hurt nearly as much as I expected.
The reason we have this perception that it will hurt a lot is because we kind of view it as reverse child birth. Something bigger than anything that's ever been down there is going in and that's kind of terrifying. But it's misguided to view it that way. Instead, think of it like this: Your vagina was made to stretch and accommodate a whole number of things from a penis to a dildo to, yes, a whole baby human. And so long as it's aliyopewa proper warning (foreplay), your vagina will adapt to accommodate your partner.
Did wewe know that during foreplay (kissing, touching, sucking), your brain sends a message down to your vagina telling it to get ready to take in a penis. Your vagina will naturally widen and elongate in order to prepare for the penetration. It will also "get wet," an expression I'm sure wewe heard, which adds lubrication to make things slide easier and prevent tearing and eliminate any friction. So kwa the time wewe and your partner are finally ready to do the deed, your vagina will be expecting it and things will go fairly smoothly. wewe might even enjoy the experience. I know I did.
Keep in mind that some slight discomfort and, yes, pain might be experienced, even if wewe ARE sufficiently prepared. That is completely normal. But if you've done it right, wewe can minimize the pain very easily and the pleasure may even overpower it.
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