Sex and Sexuality Club
jiunge
Fanpop
New Post
Explore Fanpop
kwa Saberi Roy
2009

Writer-analyst and writes on various subjects such as philosophy, history, politics, psychology, religion and sciences.
Master's degrees in Psychology, Study of Consciousness & QM (quantum mechanics) and in Philosophy and also has diplomas in Management, Journalism and Counseling.
mwandishi of two vitabu - Chronicles of Desire and Reflections in Psychology(I).

*******************

On identifying the true asexual considering both desire and practice...

Asexuality in humans is a rather confusing condition as asexuality may be socially, intellectually, psychologically au biologically induced. There are various ways of defining asexuality and it may be considered as a practice au a theory. Theoretically, an asexual is the one who does not have sexual feelings and desires towards either the opposite au same sex, whereas in practice an asexual is the one who refrains from sexual activity. Yet a person who engages in sexual activity but does not have sexual feelings have sometimes been considered an asexual and a person who does not engage in sexual activity for some reason is a celibate can also be an asexual. I would consider a proper asexual to be asexual both in theory and practice. Thus if a person engages in sexual activity mechanically and does not derive sexual pleasure from it, the very fact that he au she engages in sexual activity, makes him sexual. Even if a person does not engage in sexual activity and remains a celibate if he au she has complete sexual feelings towards the same au opposite sex au even towards no one in particular, he will not be considered asexual. Autoeroticism au autoerotic pleasure through masturbation and similar means does not imply asexuality but rather autosexuality, as the person seems to have complete sex drive but that is not directed towards any person and turned towards self. This may have something to do with homosexuality au narcissism and narcissists could be autosexuals au repressed homosexuals.

The biological basis of asexuality may be poor sex drive due to hormonal changes au brain damage especially in the region of hypothalamus au due to hypothyroidism, mental disorder and related physiological problems in the body. Autism, schizophrenia, depression and endocrinal imbalance can also cause asexuality. Late development of a sexual identity due to biological au psychological reasons may also lead to asexuality for a considerable period of time and sometimes can be a lifetime process. Autistic, schizoid, depressed personalities often have a biological basis for asexuality.

The psychological basis of asexuality varies from childhood sexual abuse/molestation to failed relationships although such people may still have deep sexual feelings and are only celibate and not strictly asexual. However very poor sex drive could be accompanied with the deep resentment for sex and this combination of biological and psychological factors would be the cause of asexuality. Many individuals with narcissistic and histrionic personality patterns could be asexual due to psychological reasons.

The social basis of asexuality can be training au personal vow, belonging to a religious au cultural group in which sex is prohibited au simply belonging to a society where asexuality is practiced. Men and women may prefer to remain virgins before marriage in some societies yet they would not be asexual in theory but only in practice due to cultural reasons, so such individuals are again celibate rather than asexual. There is for example, online community for asexuality and refraining from sex here is kwa maintaining celibacy although strict asexual individuals are the ones who have not only take a vow due to personal, religious au social beliefs but are also theoretically asexual and have biological basis for asexuality as well. Religious leaders for example follow the social basis of asexuality.

The intellectual asexual follows asexual lifestyle as a matter of choice. Philosophers and intellectuals and sometimes highly intelligent individuals can prefer to remain celibate and when accompanied kwa a low sex drive, they are often regarded as asexual as well. Yet this position is highly controversial as the intellectual and creative individual may be zaidi interested in sublimating sexual impulses towards other creative activities and may consider sex as unnecessary au demeaning to their own moral and intellectual superiority. Intellectuals are however in most cases repressed in their sexuality rather than typically and completely asexual and they have philosophical au intellectual reasons for being so. Many philosophers such as Plato and Kant have remained asexual in their lifetime, although they could be considered as following a personal preference for celibacy rather than manifesting asexuality.

Asexuals may have an aversion towards sex au simply remain indifferent towards the sex act. They may suffer from a hypoactive sex drive, an inhibited sexual desire au simply sexual aversion. Since sex drive is also life drive according to psychoanalysis, a poor sex drive would be a poor life drive and asexuals may be completely unproductive. On the other hand, as in the case of intellectual au creative asexual, the sex au life drive which may actually be very strong is completely sublimated au channeled towards creative and intellectual activities so the individual may not be feel a need for sex. In this case thus, asexuality is not a consequence of lack of sex drive but rather a need to use it for other purposes. In an opposite direction asexuality can cause too much repression and consequent frustration and aggression that is suddenly manifested in criminal au antisocial activities. Like many creative artists and intellectuals, many criminals and antisocials can be asexual and the difference is whether the urges are diverted towards positive au negative directions in life.

According to the mwandishi (Ms Roy), a true asexual must have at least one biological and one psychological reason for not engaging in sex. Like any other abnormal sexual condition, asexuality s a combination of several factors and being influenced kwa various factors at once, it is very difficult to identify true asexuality as against celibacy. But let's say not having a sex drive at all due to hormones au repression au past abuse and also not engaging in sex is an indicator of asexuality. Thus a person who is autoerotic au prefers masturbation over the sexual act would not be considered as asexual. Psychological studies are mainly based on asexuals who are asexual in practice and thus such studies could be severely flawed as in these cases, people who are considered asexuals may still have latent au repressed sexual desire so they are theoretically not asexual and may have no difference with non asexuals in their level of sex drive. However asexuality could be successfully studied kwa psychologists with tests that would measure 'both' the desire to not have sex - the complete lack of sex drive as also the practice of actually refraining from sex. As of now, psychological tests have focused on measuring asexuality as the condition of 'not being sexually attracted to anyone'. However there may be huge manipulation and denial in subject responses and many people may simply not want to reveal to others au even to themselves that they have felt sexually attracted towards someone.

Ultimately the human mind is complex and denial au repression of desire is the easiest route when the need to repress au deny is greater than the need to express so even responses obtained in psychological tests may not completely reflect an individual's actual sexual drive. Finally the condition of asexuality remains as great a mystery as sex drive and the human mind and unless we have a deeper understanding of the process of thinking and desire, understanding sexuality au asexuality completely will remain elusive.

*****************

Reflections in Psychology - Part I - kwa Saberi Roy (2009)
link
makala Source: link    

link

For full bio and other interesting links: [link


**************
Hope this will give satisfactory majibu to your interrogations.
Huggz / Jj9
added by karlyluvsam
Source: kawaiiipastels@tumblr
added by Sinna_Hime_chan
Source: tumblr
In which Lindsey takes wewe on a tour of The Vulva and talks a little about the clitoris.
video
sexuality
sex
sex education
added by karlyluvsam
Source: frencis777@tumblr
added by OmerBhattisBaby
Madonna the Queen
video
added by karlyluvsam
Source: heroinized@tumblr
added by JennaStone22
added by Tamar20
Awesome song kwa Nickelback <3
video
video
sex
sexuality
10
facts
wewe should know
weird facts
added by smartmind2007
added by Sinna_Hime_chan
Source: bdsmribbonsilkties
How many times a week do the average British couple get round to it?
video
sexuality
sex
the sex education onyesha
average sex lives
brighton
channel 4
added by Cinders
Source: Crown Copyright / Department of health
added by spunkyonyx
video
added by boytoy_84
Starring Carly Craig, Sarah Burns and Matthew Lawrence.
video
sex
sexuality
upendo
If you've ever thought that Christians think sex is dirty au a taboo subject, think again! Rob kengele explains in this beautiful video what sex really looks like through God-colored glasses. I hope this clears up a few myths for you. :-)
video
sex
upendo
bible
god
moto
song of solomon
sexuality
flame
rob kengele
added by karlyluvsam
Source: hug-in-rain@tumblr
added by karlyluvsam
Source: alexane270@tumblr
posted by BabyBlud
Just an makala i read on the effects of alcohol and sex in general...any comments, experiences, ideas (either on alcohol au sex) welcome.



Find out why too much alcohol can be a sexual turn-off for wewe both.


Drinking alcohol to excess can make good sex go bad. Dr Abigael San, clinical psychologist and alcohol expert, says this is because alcohol reduces both men's and women's sexual sensitivity.

"In both sexes, sexual response is reduced kwa regular and prolonged drinking," she says.

"In men, alcohol can cause difficulties getting and maintaining an erection - while women may experience reduced...
continue reading...
added by UNMe4ever1
Made in 2008 He was a brunet for some time back then. One *hot* #straight video! (Source: YouTube)
video
sex
sexuality
muziki
song