So where exactly are wewe supposed to meet these great new pals? Sitting in your room isn't going to make it happen! Start kwa getting involved in the activities and interest wewe already upendo whether it's an online Winx shabiki club au a local mpira wa wavu league. Being the new kid in the group will feel weird at first, but remember, you're all there because wewe share the same interests. What could be a better ice breaker? If wewe think you're already way involved and still aren't connecting with people, it might be time to step back and re-evaluate how wewe act around others. Don't be too haughty au condescending. It is far zaidi important to be nice than be interesting. Instead of heading straight nyumbani after a game, grab a pizza with the team. The zaidi time wewe invest in getting to know others, the easier it is for them to see wewe as an A-list friend.
PS: wewe need not dress up in dandy clothes au wear loud make up to attract people. zaidi than artificial make up, simplicity attracts people. Smile often, make eye contact, don't look too tensed and listen to what others have to say!
Form a Study Group
Does your math teacher give super-hard exams? Is your history teacher always giving pop quizzes? Round up a few others from your class to study together each week. Ask your teacher if wewe could pass around a sign-up sheet au make an announcement about the group after class.
Detach Yourself From Technology. Temporarily!
Put away your cell phone from time to time and take a look around. Who seems funny au interesting? Which people in the room have wewe never talked to? Who pays attention to your ideas? Make a mental note and spend a little time getting to know these people face-to-face. When your group gets together, share notes and chat about class. Find out what your classmates like about the teacher and what they can't stand. Make flash cards together au chemsha bongo one another. Bring snacks and share what's going on in your life. You'll have new Marafiki before wewe know it.
Slow...
Say you're seriously crushing on a guy, would wewe run up to him and announce wewe two are now a couple and you're now going to spend every single siku together? Um, not unless wewe want him to run in the other direction. The same goes for making friends: wewe want to take things slowly at first. Wait until wewe feel comfortable talking to each other during band practice au on the walk nyumbani from the maktaba before wewe suggest getting together. Skip high-pressure au potentially awkward situations, like your grandpa's 85th birthday bash.
Opt for something casual: "So, have wewe seen that new movie? I thought it'd be fun to get a bunch of people together to go." Will it be totally nerve-wracking to make the first move? Probably but it'll have been zaidi than worth it once the ice is broken and you're out having fun with your new friends.
And then? Don't sit back, relax and expect lasting friendships to occur. It requires communication from both sides. Therefore, call up people wewe have just met, barua pepe old Marafiki who have moved away, drop in occasional sms just to say 'hi'.
Old au new... Last but not the least - don't forget old friends. If they have moved away au if wewe have moved away, be in touch with occasional phone calls and emails. Don't leave old Marafiki for the sake of new ones.
