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Ok...I need to get some outside opinions on this:

Ok...Been dating this guy for a few months...we've offically been using the "boyfriend and girfriend" titles... so here's the story...30 sekunde to midnight on New Years eve...his cell phone rings..he picks it up thinking its family...well it isnt...its some girl calling to tell him "Happy New Year"...he gets all nervous and flustered and breaks out into this huge sweat...I mean wewe can clearly see he's nervous about this call...well it seriously ruined our first New Years together...I wasnt upset about the call...just his reaction to it...he says they're just Marafiki and that she's engaged to another guy...so now we come to last night....I'm at nyumbani and I text him and he doesnt response until like 45 mins later (which is very unlike him) and it turns out that they went to chajio, chakula cha jioni together. He says that they're "just friends" but today I found out that her fiancee dumped her. I am very hurt and upset kwa this whole thing. Half my Marafiki say to dump him ...the other half says that I should onyesha him trust and stay with him. Any thoughts?

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jacob4ever57 said:

For right now i would say to stay with him. Your other Marafiki are right. wewe have to trust the other person in your relationship. But if wewe think he shows signs of cheating definitely confront him about it, and make it clear that it's unacceptable and if he does it one zaidi time he's outta there. But make sure if wewe do accuse him, wewe know for sure that he did, au you'll look like a fool who doesn't trust him.
So yeah for now just stay with him unless something doesn't seem right. ;) Good luck!

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wewe rock...thanks

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summer448 said:

i say ask him straight up
cause he is oviousy hidding something from you

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Lunzzy1 said:

I would ask him and whatever he tells wewe and after that what ever wewe feel is right wewe have to do it and make sure its the right thing to do. Follow your moyo :) :( ;) Lunzzy1!!!!!

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Thanks! ^-^

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scogburn said:

The above majibu are good, and I would also let him know that this bothers wewe and hurts your feelings. If he does not want to hurt you, he should respect your wishes not to see this girl again. Also, any time he talks to her, he should tell wewe about it. wewe tell him wewe want to know when they talk and who called who. Hang in there, if he really cares about you, it will work out.

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Thanks...I guess I just need to step back and breathe.....

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icewolf10 said:

dump him

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R33n33sm3 said:

well,this is a very difficult situation,you've been put in.
Isn't it hard to want to trust someone though there are this emotions wewe feel wewe can't trust him?

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There are alot of possibilities...
[i] *Possibly she was he's ex.before he met you,he might want to clear out everything between them,explaining her,that he met wewe now and it's better to remain friends.

*He might really be her friend,and nothing more!

*And ofcourse it's also likely to pretend they're Marafiki and eventually be his double girlfriend.

*Possibly,know feels something for the girl.
For now everything should be good,
I agree wewe should trust him,...
though don't fall inside the lie.
If this continues and he starts going frequently out with 'his friend' be sure to ask him if wewe could go also with him.
Study they're faces,
what does it tell?
is it anything behind the friendly smiles they're sharing?
Is it zaidi than just pure friendship?

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djtt said:

ok i cant pretend to be an expert but id just put myself out of my misary and dump him.

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richard_angel2 said:

stay with him. because the other girl just need someone to talk to, especially in hard time (her fiance dumped her)

maybe she doesn't have Marafiki and your boyfriend is the only person she can talk to. . .

so i suggest wewe stay with him =)

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Isabella_tran said:

Forget that boy. He is not worthy. If wewe still upendo him, talk directly to him au his "friend"

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