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Marafiki how much do wewe talk about?

Do wewe talk about everything and anything with your best friend au do wewe have subjects wewe stay clear of for reasons such as embarrasement au sensitivity au some other reason. I ask because my friend has suddenly decided there are certain things she does not want me talking about but when I ask for certain subjects to be off limits she takes offence. I don't want to fall out with her as she is probably moving to Spain but the rate its going I think it may happen.
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just make sure u know eachothers boundaries. tell if if theres something she doesnt want u talking about to just tell u nicely. wewe guys are best Marafiki be open communicate tell her u feel alittle bad au whatever she will listen.
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BabyBlud said:
It depends on the idividual Marafiki for me. There are two Marafiki i have told everything and anything, knowing they will not judge me au dispise me and will be able to offer hope and support when i feel low when the memories hit me. Other friends, certain things for me are off limits and i respect their decision if they do not feel like telling me anything.
However - if your friend believes she should know everything about you, but does not respect wewe enough to tell wewe everything about her, then i can't see the relationship going anywhere.
wewe should tell your friend that wewe respect her decision not to tell wewe things, but she in turn should respect the same of you. If wewe do not want to tell her things, she shouldn't push at wewe au become huffy about it, as that is not what a friend is supposed to be.
It could be she justs wants to help, but all the same, she can easily sympathise and encourage and hold wewe up kwa the sidelines not knowing anything, then knowing every little detail.
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thank wewe
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