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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Yeah... Not too fun when someone migrates over to your Marafiki instead, eh?
I have that sort of problem, except this guy isn't annoying and he wasn't bothering me; it's my friend's ex, and he won't get away from her. Just being around him makes her feel bad, au maybe I should say "worse" since she has some depression.
All in all, I understand how you're feeling and I go through things like that too.
I can understand that wewe want him to leave your best Marafiki be, but I think that's zaidi of their decision. I say that because of two things: first off, if they don't mind him being around them, then that's fine. Second, when wewe put down "making my Marafiki mad at me", it makes me think that they actually enjoy their company. If this is the case, then I don't believe wewe should interfere. If this isn't, I still think that wewe should talk to your Marafiki about this little "problem" and see what wewe come up with. This doesn't mean "devise some plan" to ruin his life, embarrass him, etc. I mean actually sit down and talk about it, and then communicate with him and tell him how wewe all feel.
Let's say that your Marafiki want to be around this guy. Seeing as wewe don't like him so much, I think that wewe should talk to your Marafiki and work something out. For an example, maybe they could hang out with him at a time where you're not around, so that wewe don't feel so annoyed. If this still doesn't work out for you, think to yourself that he's at least not bothering you. And that he's not doing anything mean to your friends.
We'll go for another scenario here for the heck of it: let's say that your Marafiki got together and talked about it. wewe all go and talk to this guy, but he still doesn't leave wewe alone. What do wewe do? I would suggest doing the same as wewe did: just ignoring him. I wouldn't suggest anything like "getting even" with him; no one needs to stoop down to any levels. Deal with situations maturely and calmly, and remember to be patient. Let not a single person yell, complain, whine, etc. It sounds like something a parent would say, but it really does make things worse if wewe do so.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other maswali that wewe may have.
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