Homesickness help!

Hm... looks like u left ur moyo at home. Look, ur studies r important and stuff but it looks like u seriously need to go home. Maybe u can visit nyumbani again and take something from nyumbani that u can bring and keep with u. u will probably feel better then and perhaps be able to concentrate on ur studies. And im sure u will make new friends, it might just take time. I had a pal songesha schools and it took her a while to find a pal too. But its worth it cos them two are now best friends! so im sure itll all work out. It had to :)

I have gone through a very similar experience. I grew up overseas, and came back to the United States for college. To make matters worse, I was going to school in Seattle, Washington, and my parents were all the way on the east coast in Washington DC.

Not only did I have to deal with the culture shock of living in America for the first time, but I had to go to a school where I knew nobody and nobody knew me. I didn't get along with either of my two roommates, and found myself calling nyumbani and my Marafiki scattered across the country sometimes twice a day. I shed tears of being lonely, and I was very frustrated with the fact that I couldn't make friends, because everyone already had established their social groups and weren't interested in making new friends.

It wasn't what I expected. And I'm terrible at socializing, so it was very hard for me to expend the effort.

Three years later, I'm content with where I am. I have made a few good friends, and I understand how people here work now. I still see my parents regularly, even though my mom just moved to Tunisia. I'm going out there to see her at Christmas.

My advice to wewe would be to have a regular time when wewe call nyumbani every night. It will give wewe something to look mbele to during the day. Also, look for an activity to participate in around your new area. Volunteering helps wewe meet friendly people. If you're religious, start going to the local worship places. These will help wewe find Marafiki outside of school.

Also, keep trying in your classes. Be friendly and polite with your classmates, and they might return the favor. wewe might not be best Marafiki with all of them, but wewe might be good Marafiki with a couple of them. That's what happened to me.

Hope that helps.