well, upendo is a feeling we can't help having. its like this big bright hole that wewe suddenly find urself falling into.the light is blinding your eyes and wewe can't see anything. wewe feel like everything has changed. and then your eyes adapt and so do you. wewe open your eyes and suddenly this whole new place pops out. everythings the same but different. suddenly the parking lot in front ur school looks like heaven. the stpid lamp post wewe used to kick so often looks like an angel, the gods messenger. love, the slight touch of it changes everything.. wewe find urself smiling alone, daydreaming a lot even fantasizing.. it makes wewe a better person.. although i'm not saying that upendo is a necessary boon for us. all i can say is wewe need to drop into the hole to find the light...