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A swali kind of inspired off a Black Mirror episode....

If wewe had the ability to click a button and find out how long a relationship would last, may that relationship be friendship, romatic, au familial, would wewe click the button?

SCENARIO A: If wewe click the button, wewe will have to click the button every time after that for every relationship.

SCENARIO B: wewe do not have to click the button again if wewe click it once and it will always be open to clicking.

State what wewe would do under both scenarios
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Mauserfan1910 said:
I wouldn't in either scinario. The future isn't real, there's no such thing as fate. Even if something theoretically tell me the future, that won't change the fact that I still have to give my marriage my all, au else the future might still be wrong.
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^My theory alligns with yours. Also, even if it was capability to be 100% correct, I wouldnt anyways since knowing such a deadline would do nothing zaidi than make the left over days horrid.
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wantadog said:
As of like two years ago, I would have alisema neither cuz I don't believe in fate au destiny, but since then my maoni on it have changed. For friendships and familial relationships, I'm kinda meh on it so I'd probably do Scenario B for those cuz I don't care about my family very much and I only have one true friend.

On romantic relationships tho...I have noticed I've become rather cynical towards the concept of upendo in the last two years, taking on a "it'll screw wewe over if wewe let it" attitude so I would emphatically choose Scenario A cuz wewe can't get hurt au betrayed if wewe don't put any trust in anything.

I realize that's a shitty way of looking at it. I kinda feel bad cuz I used to be upbeat and optimistic about that kind of stuff but eh.
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My answer didn't really answer what I'd DO in both scenarios so much as which relationships I'd choose for each scenario
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Rihanna312 said:
In scenario A I wouldn`t press it. It would be too boring to live life that way. I imagine that would mean that I can`t change future no matter how hard I tried and everything would play out exactly as the button has said.

In scenario B I guess I might use that button if it`d work for, let`s say, old frieds with whom I`ve drifted apart. I would like to know if it`s worth trying to renew the friendship au if they have changed so much that we couldn`t really ever be good Marafiki again.
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8theGreat said:
I'm having a hard time thinking of anything that could actually be gained kwa knowing that information.

Presumably it's so wewe can gauge how much time/effort/trust/expectation to put into alisema relationship, so wewe aren't horribly disappointing when it ends, but the length of time wewe know that person would be a really crappy way to try and calculate that.

The time alone wouldn't indicate the quality of the relationship in question. wewe can have short-lived relationships that were really good and wewe were glad to have still, au wewe can be in a horrible relationship for years and years that wewe hate being in.

Like, I would much rather be close Marafiki with someone that I only knew for like 3 months that still left a lasting, positive impression on me than be stuck married to someone I hate for 10+ years because I'm scared to death of being alone.

And if wewe just knew how long each of those relationships lasted, and based its entire merit on how long it was, you'd assume the friendship was shit but the marriage was awesome when really it was the opposite.

Consequently, wewe may put less stock in a relationship wewe know is only going to last a short while that wewe actually had a lot to gain from. wewe may put zaidi stock into someone that's going to drive wewe absolutely insane in the long run and in the end not be worth it.

And if wewe weren't going to use it as a way to decide which relationships weren't and were going to be worthwhile, what would wewe even do with that information? wewe could say that wewe can't be hurt if wewe know the relationship will end in 10 months, but is it really the length of time au the relationship ending that hurts? It's usually something else, something zaidi nuanced, that makes it hurt.
Not to mention that every time wewe see that person, you're going to have how long your relationship will last in the back of your head no matter what. That would suck, not to mention that it would kind of take away from the organic factor of building relationships.

The only time it would really be beneficial at all in any way would be if it told wewe that wewe were going to be in a relationship that wewe were really happy, but there comes a point in any relationship whether it be a friendship au a romance au a familial thing where wewe can kind of tell on your own.
And that's assuming things don't go sour, wamekula and wewe just stay together because its convenient au something which does happen.


There's really no point in that sort of thing when wewe really sit down and think about it. Relationships are nuanced.
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