What's the difference between loving someone, and being In upendo with someone?

In my opinion to be in upendo with someone is also to upendo someone but blindly, not seeing the other one's flaws.
Loving someone means wewe do know everything about them and wewe do know flaws person has but wewe still upendo him/her with all your heart.
Also, being in upendo is usually just in the beginning (of a relationship) while loving someone can last forever.
The other thing is, when you're in upendo wewe have a constant need to touch and kiss (...) the other person. It also (usually) makes your moyo beat faster and that someone is everything wewe can think of.
To actually upendo someone means wewe don't have such a need of constant touching, you're fine with knowing that he/she loves wewe back and that he/she will always be there for wewe - with knowing wewe HAVE the other one, in some way (not like owing the person, but to have feeling like wewe belong to someone, and he/she belongs to you).

Loving some one is like having sex with them , and being in upendo with someone is when wewe really like the person and wewe would care for them and treat them good,because wewe really upendo them ,your moyo is pounding towards them , your in upendo with that person and wewe just want to be with them . That's my opinion

Being in upendo with someone is when wewe upendo someone and the other loves wewe back. It is sort of like infatuation but to a deeper level. Being in upendo perhaps is being in a romantic relationship.

Loving someone is caring for that person deeply without them loving wewe back romantically. wewe can upendo your family, but it does not mean they upendo wewe romantically. wewe care a great deal about the other person.

Loving someone is the things wewe do. Being in upendo with someone is the great times and bad times wewe share together.

Being in upendo is based on dependability, compassion, respect and compromise. If wewe don't share those important qualities with each other then its just infatuation and not LOVE

When my boyfriend first alisema he loved another girl, but he was "in love" with me, I didn't understand. But then I thought about it. Being in upendo with someone means your connected to them in a way no one else is. wewe feel for them in a way only they understand. wewe are completely embedded in this person. Something about them makes wewe tick, makes wewe see things differently.You see them in a different light that only they can see too. While Loving someone is the feeling of protection and deep caring for that person. Sometimes Humans will get jealous because they don't understand the difference. But it's okay to feel jealous.

Just loving someone means that the feeling is sort of mutal.Like,the way wewe upendo your parents au teachers.But Being IN upendo with someone is when wewe actual do things to onyesha that person that wewe care,certain things& actions.Sorry,if thats confusing:)

Loving someone means.. hm... Have feelings for someone, I guess, and To be in upendo is to have those feelings and get it from somebody wewe upendo back...

To upendo someone is like the upendo wewe have for Marafiki and family, etc. To be 'in love' with someone is zaidi for a guy au girl wewe are in a relationship with, and someone wewe are seriously involved with.
That's why some couples do fall 'out of love' with each other, but still have a 'love' for each other, if that makes any sense.

i think wewe use the term "loving someone" when you're talking about family au close Marafiki and being IN upendo with someone is zaidi serious like relationships and marriage.

no idea..never dated before!!!

This swali is often difficult to answer, and there is a very fine line between the two.

Loving someone usually refers to platonic upendo [non-romantic], such as with parents, other relatives, friends, etc. When wewe upendo someone, wewe care about them deeply and would do anything for them, but wewe have no romantic feelings.

When you're IN upendo with someone, it almost always refers to romantic upendo [girlfriend/boyfriend, fiance, spouse]. Like I said, it includes romantic feelings, where wewe want to be with the person forever and feel like wewe can't live without them.

It's hard to define because wewe can never really DEFINE what upendo is, just thats the gist of it. Love=platonic, IN love=romantic.

Hope I could help ;)

when wewe upendo someone wewe have very strong feeling toward them and wewe would do anything for them and would never want to hurt them, but when wewe are in upendo with someone wewe want to spend every saa of every siku with that person and wewe can truly feel that that is the one and only person wewe ever wanted. well basically wewe will just know when wewe meet this person, your body will tell wewe this.

In my opinion, and this is the way that i see it, is that in true upendo there is no dishonsty, wewe upendo only for the sake of loving and and wewe give zaidi than wewe take. that is how i would define true love. it's when wewe are prepared to do anything for that other prson without expecting anything in return. that is unconditional love, which is true upendo in my opinion.

Loving someone is like your family. being in upendo with someone means a guy au girl. i got this from my mom.

when wewe upendo someone that means wewe care for them their feelings , their well being , wewe just really would be upset if something would happen to them good au bad , Being In upendo means all the above And a WANTING to spend every dakika every sekunde with that person who is always on your mind no matter what wewe do THEIR there on your mind , a need for this person . I am in upendo with this wonderful man and we met at work , it all started with a stare , the LOOK of upendo he says , after a week of wanting the need to stare at his eyes and him staring at mine we exchanged numbers we talked every siku we both wanting to be at work so we could stare at each other no matter who was looking that stare never left people walking kwa at work looking at us staring would be like damn get a room . we talked zaidi and zaidi after communicating well with each other we finally had a first tarehe after a mwezi we wanted to take things slow , at the end of the tarehe we kissed a little kiss come to find out he wanted to passionately kiss me and i wanted the same , our sekunde tarehe we went to a restaurant and when he dropped me off OH YEAH that Kiss from being a little kiss went to a kiss i will absolutely NEVER forget a kiss so wonderful it actually got us both light headed he says a passionate kiss that we couldnt stop kissing we kept on and on and then when we got that feeling of OH OH we better stop kissing au else ! we stopped and its been 6 months and we still stare and kiss passionately nonestop our first sexual encounter was like we both were in heaven both feeling of wanting zaidi and zaidi each siku he says we crave each other and constantely on each others mind he left that job and found another but we both are now craving each other zaidi now that he is not there we text and call telling each other our TRUE feelings of what we are going throughout the siku YES WE ARE BOTH IN upendo TRULY MADLY DEEPLY

the difference is that loving someone is what people say they feel about someone but being in upendo With someone is when wewe always want to be around that person that person makes wewe happy and wewe feel a spark and that person is the one wewe want to be with for the rest of your life, your soulmate. :) :( ;) Lunzzy1!!!!!

lovin someone is like ur mom
in lovin is when wewe want to tarehe then au marry them thats they i see it

I think loving someone can't only mean to like a guy it could also mean ur family.& being in upendo with some one is having a strong feeling for some one like really think is ur true upendo au something like that (LOL)

how think of it as i upendo all my Marafiki yet being in upendo is with your boy-friend if that makes sence. cause wewe can upendo your family but wewe arnt in upendo with them

well if hes mean 2 u then he is a stupid jerk

I believe that loving someone is being interested in things they do, although they dont interest wewe and wanting to be with them etc.. but i believe that being in upendo with someone, is when they touch wewe get electric shivers and your moyo races and when yous kiss theres no one else in the world just yous, and your knees go week and your feels like its gonna jump out your mouth wewe cant get over how magical it is to be with this person, thats upendo to me anyway, its like fireworks on a stary night looking into their eyes. well thats how i feel when im with my boyfriend:)(L)

being in upendo with someone is like 'dreaming to go to the Eiffel tower every siku and night'.and loving someone is like being on Eiffel tower actually!

its different because when u are in upendo with someone u dont tell anyone and lovin some one people will know

The difference between loving someone and
being in upendo with someone is that when wewe love
someone it means wewe have caring feelings for
them. When you're in upendo with someone, it means
wewe still have caring feelings, but wewe also have
feelings as if you're warm inside and wewe feel
fluttery.

Well there is two different kind of loves.
One is...
-Romantic Love: It is emotional, sexual, and spiritual recognition. It is irrational and like an emotional storm.
Another is...
-Loving someone: It is tender, quiet. It is like a light that allows people to see things that are not seen kwa others.
Hope that helped! :)

Being in upendo with someone usually requires both participants to feel that way about each other. Hence, "being in". Loving someone can be one-sided au two.

Loving someone is passion. Being in upendo with someone is loving u 4 who u r. upendo also is the respect 4 one another, and that's something we always 4get. We always mistake upendo 4 passion and that's sad cuz it always ends up with a bleeding heart. Being in upendo with someone is somebody who will upendo and respect u! Or...maybe it's the other way around, not sure.

In my opinion wewe say wewe "love someone" wewe thinks about one of your friens/family, but if wewe say"I'm in upendo with..." it's zaidi than a simple fiendship.

when wewe upendo someone you're together and being in upendo with someone means that wewe upendo something about that person

Loving sum one is just wen u like him/her but in upendo is wen u both deeply upendo echother

loving someone means that u upendo someone abt whom u knw everything it means u fell in luv with him after knowing him better and being in luv with someone means u upendo someone abt whom u knw nothing it means u fell in upendo with him without knwing anthing abt him

Loving someone is u care and will always be there for there for them. When u r in upendo with someone u try to be with them and try to tell them.

u can say that u upendo anybody but when u say your in upendo with somebody that means that u upendo that person for who he is. i think . i dont know dont ask me

bein in upendo means u cant live another siku without them u wuld tak ur last breathe to spend time with the person ur in luv with loving somone iz wen u tak ur tim n pleas ur lovers body makin them feel lik they wuld go all out ther ways 2 feel that pleasure again

I'm not all an expert but I'll try and explain best I can. I think loving someone is like loving your parents and friends, wewe care about them and are protective of them. But being inlove is knowing that, that special person means the world too you. wewe care about thme in a special way seeing them in a different light. Loving them completely to the fault. I mean wewe upendo your parents and yeah they get on your nerves so some people think wewe don't care that much and it's true some people care less but being truely inlove with someone is knowing that even though wewe fight au argue that afterwards he au she will still be there for wewe and wewe wouldn't care less about him and her over some stupid arguement.

Hope that helped

wewe have asked a very hard swali to answer. However thinking about it from my own point of view. I have someone I upendo but it began as a crush which got out of hand I know it will not last for ever and for lots of reasons can go no further than it has already so I am not in upendo but I do upendo him. I know this because I can go days without seeing au hearing from him and although its hard I don't miss him where as if I was in upendo I would want and need to see him every day.

The difference between upendo and being in love.

wewe can upendo anything, such as a person au maybe a pet. wewe care for it, it has a meaning to you. It's just a tender affection for somebody, a feeling of kindness au strong liking.

But when wewe are truly in upendo every single part of your body thrives for that one person. Every moyo beat, every movement, thought, feeling, is revolved around one person that wewe are so passionate for that wewe look past the present and into the future. You're so blinded with upendo that wewe cant see a single flaw, this person becomes a superhero in your eyes. When you're in upendo wewe can't be without that person without desiring their warmth and touch. And wewe would truly do anything for them, because wewe are so in upendo with this person they have zaidi meaning to wewe then wewe do to yourself. It's so intense and passionate wewe almost seem in a different world with them as if nothing else has au ever will have any meaning to you. Its finding the balance between desire and needs. wewe cant focus without beginning to think of  them. It's when your soul is truly yearning this other, as if they were part of you. You're so infatuated with this person, that your life revolves around them. Its the needing for their soul to be intertwined with yours. You're completely head over heels, and a complete idiot

'LOVE' CAN BE BROAD-INCLUDING MANY.

wewe can upendo YOURSELF (& wewe are hopefully not IN-LOVE with yourself), wewe can upendo someone as a human-being, as a person, au as the particular person they are: like your bestfriend, au anyone, even an enemy au bila mpangilio person, your dog, a cat, au a "thing":{i.e. I upendo my car!}. There is different depths AND "types" of love. wewe can upendo a place, upendo reading, upendo a god au God, and wewe can even have upendo in a marriage, etc. without being "inlove" (love your mom au dad au fam member but wewe are not "inlove" with them, au I hope) :0

THERE IS ONLY ONE 'IN-LOVE'.
It is NOT broad & it is not just whenever we say au feel like it, either.

IN-love is MUTUAL romantic "real"-love (NOT infatuation au puppy upendo au just THINKING wewe are in-love, EITHER!). wewe definately upendo the someone wewe are "in-love" with & vice-versa, but wewe can upendo someone and NOT be in-love au if they do not "romantically" upendo wewe back & return that love, then it isn't really "In-Love" it is Infatuation au a Crush. In-Love is the romantic sense must take two people in a mutual agreement of that. It envelopes your being in an indescribable way, that I think is actually confused a lot & really only happens with a soulmate au someone VERY close to that as a true love/life mate.

loving some one is caring about them, like with family and friends. being upendo with someone is not being able to get them out of your head, wanting to do anything to make them happy, and knowing they have flaws but that that is what makes them so amazing. oh yea and wewe probally won't be able to say anything bad about them, au find anything wrong with them.

To upendo someone is closer to nothing than something. Come to think of it as i do. One can upendo anything realy ( upendo your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, your cat, your dog, some kind of flower, wewe favourite chakula ect. ) but to be in upendo with someone ( to do anything for the person even to die for that person ) my personal opinion

In my openian upendo is blind. so when someone being with upendo that person only seen his lovers filling and always trying to give happiness and much zaidi upendo to his lover.when u being with upendo u not understand what is tje value of your partner and wewe moyo him many times.
wewe dont understand what is lonelyness.
what fill when u alone.what fill about waiting for some one.
And other hand when the person loving someone.
when wewe loving someone wewe always try to share your filling with the person wewe love.and when this person comes to wewe for something your mouth are sealed and wewe become silence.
and wewe always reply with short.ex. yes/no.
and always try too told him your felling anf your upendo but the self confidence geting low evety time.
wewe always know what is the value of your loving person in your life.
and what is loneliness.
and what is feel in your heart.
the true upendo is in loving someone kwa oneside.and told him.
the loving someone is most dangerous and most hearting.
upendo and Loving its look like same but
its most different part of upendo life.
in upendo wewe will get confromice.
but in loving wewe get only depressions.
so lovers dont get your moyo and alone.
and loving person dont Give Up wewe become successful.
Iam Also Loving Someone.

There is a definite difference between loving someone and being "in love" with someone. I upendo my sister, I upendo my mom, I loved my dad (when he was alive) and I upendo Marafiki and I upendo wanyama and my pets. To be in upendo with someone is a feeling that runs deeper than that of a normal caring about a person. I upendo my sister deeply, for example, but I'm not "in love" with her. I upendo my ex-husband (I was young when I got married for reasons too much to write here) and as sad as it sounds, I was never in upendo with him. I am in upendo with my fiancé, however.
I never pictured the future with my ex-husband and I was married to him for 9 years! There are a lot of people in relationships that are not in upendo with the other. They care about them and they upendo them and value them highly, but they aren't in upendo with them. That's why these relationships will not last. They get used to another person and stick around even though they know there is zaidi left to be desired. This isn't the fault of anyone, it's an unexplainable feeling, but that's why divorce is so rampant and broken families abound. I never pictured having children with my ex, but I did upendo and care about him a lot.
I picture my whole life with my fiancé. I want children with him and to be with him wherever that may be. I see my whole life in his eyes and I feel complete with him. I don't feel like I should be anywhere else except with him and I don't feel anxious like I should be doing something else in my life. It's a feeling that as long as I am with him, anything is fine.
My ex and I had (for me at least and I'm pretty sure for him as well) a platonic relationship and we never should have been married. My fiancé and I have beyond what is a caring au platonic upendo for each other and distance and many trials have proven that this feeling does not go away. We desire each other and to be with each other and are on a different level than anyone we've ever known in our lives. It's not all that common to find someone we are totally in upendo with and most will marry and have children with someone they upendo deeply, although not in love.
It's hard to explain, but it's just a feeling that no matter where life takes you, no matter what your career, no matter what happens, as long as the other person is inayofuata to you, wewe feel complete and suffer a type of separation anxiety if they were to be away from you.

Being in upendo is an obsession, a need for them to fill our desires.

Loving someone is passion, a want to make all their dreams reality

"Being" in upendo comes from your moyo - unconditioned, from pure being and joy .. without thinking and interpreting.

Loving some "one" comes from your mind, conditioned about something what that person is, what character au quality it has, wewe upendo the person, not the being. So when the person change, wewe may complain and stop loving that person.

So please be always love. It's your true being <3

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Well for me, loving someone is when wewe express au onyesha your affection to someone wewe upendo without any response in return. upendo is unconditional. So if wewe upendo someone, wewe don't care if they don't upendo wewe back. wewe just upendo them for who they are.

Being in upendo with someone, oh, haha, i guess this is where wewe get to be crushing on someone wewe really, really like. It's different from loving someone because you're in upendo with that person yet wewe wanted the person to upendo wewe back. It's like wewe want to feel his passion for wewe too.

well i live with someone for 14 years, wich i am still in love! this week he told me that that he upendo me, but not in upendo with me any more... I have to say that we were abset, so we were having a meeting....
I fellt like if is the end of the word, i cry cry forever, i just totaly Lost the control, that really really hurt me dip, very dip. I think is the worst think someone ever alisema to me, i canot tell you, how much i being soffering after that, i just canot get over it! still on my head, I am not in upendo with wewe any more..... than he also said, I upendo wewe and care for wewe couse we live together for so long.... I felt such a big pain in my hart, like i could not breath....
that siku we agree to separate, it was horrible.
I still have feelings for this man, i still fancy him, after all this years, he works a way, and everytime he comes home, i still fancy him like mad.
But for a long time that thinkgs not being the same, like when he is back from work he his allways tierd and sekunde day, he still not interested in have sexo, this being like this for a long time.
I thougt that is becase he now allways travel a lot, but sekunde day, and third.... for god sake!!
I abset him, because i talk about things that we could do, wich is stupid he fell this way....
he is a quite guy.... works hard have lots of male friends, he is good looking, well a big balley, but charming!!
so any way, for me the way i see it, upendo is like upendo your sister, friends, mother, father, etc
but in upendo is from a woman and man, that fancy each other, want to kiss and hug that person, feel that he have to say, I upendo wewe after make love, is that feeling that wewe can see and look at other people but in the end of the day, wewe would not fancy them au betray.
For me it feell like is the end of the world. I Lost the balance of live.... i am so said, and lost.
5 days after this, he told me that don't know what upendo is any more.... I had to find out if i can live like this.
I know dip down the write think is just live this man that hurt my hart so dip. I wish one day, he learns how much it hurt on me...
I had found out one think that being living like this make me reallize that i miss have someone that really fancy me, kiss and miss me and all that thinks that mean so much, i did not have that from him for a long time. So Lost I am.

"In love" means romantic interest. And when we upendo someone, it could be anyone. Like, I upendo my friend very much. But that doesnt mean I am in upendo with her. But I upendo her soooo very much!

How I started to upendo a girl was i meet her as she signed me up for gym, she leand in towards me and smiled, From what ive read thats flirting. For the past 2 weeks we would make eye contact and sometimes gaze at each other for zaidi than 5seconds and she would come in to where i was working out and fix up the equipment wink wink. Sorry for my bad english and grammar. Then i stopped going to gym after about 6months i came back, "there was a reason i didnt go family related not important" she was still trying to flirt with me. But i didnt catch her as often doing it and yesterday the first words i actually alisema to her in that amount of time was bye on my way out. That night i had a dream about her, me and my dad and sister going go gym working out and my dad setup this little game as i climb the stairs i would be aliyopewa piece kwa piece of paper with letters and number, it turned out to be her name where we was going to tarehe and her number. Very odd then i wokeup, i had this wierd feeling in my stomach and my moyo felt full I just started to fall inlove with her kwa only saying bye that night. Idk how to explain it i just know im falling inlove because when i just loved her i would do anything for her, but now its like my moyo wants to speak for it self and no one is zaidi important then she will ever be to me. Thats the difference in loving someone and inlove with someone now i just wake up thinking of her without even actually knowing her other then her name. Soon i will lose control and my moyo will just talking to her it self, for now i think im best to just let it play out. For those who know of soulmate i knew she was mine from the first siku i knew her just because i felt like i had seen her before even though i really hadnt and a lot may be like thats no proof, well it happens differently for everybody and thats how it happened for me im just too afraid to ask her and idk why i dont fear rejection i just want to talk to her 1v1 in private. Soon i wont be able to control my self anymore and my moyo will take over prehaps thats a good thing other then i dont think when i talk i just say how i feel. Well theres zaidi to the story and its a lot zaidi romantic then just this but id rather keep it to my self. <3

When wewe upendo someone, it is when wewe have known them for a long enough time that wewe can trust them and know that they will be there for you. For example, wewe upendo your mom, wewe upendo your pets, wewe upendo your bffs. These are all things that wewe have close relationships with, and can trust. Another form of loving can be with an accessory such as a mkufu au a blouse, but that is simple and not very powerful.
Being in upendo is a whole different story. Being in upendo with someone means that wewe are attracted to this person, it means that while wewe are doing homework, sleeping au even showering, wewe cant stop thinking of this person. Being in upendo means that wewe feel those butterflies when wewe are around him/her, it means that wewe are longing for them all the time. Being in upendo isn't something wewe can control because it is a powerful force that brings the two of wewe together. When you're in upendo wewe can feel them in the wind on a cool night, wewe can see them when wewe close your eyes, and wewe think of them when wewe listen to your inayopendelewa song. If you're in love, you'll go to the moon and back and overcome any obstacles that come your way to be with them. You'll wait longer than forever if it means that wewe can be with them. And when wewe touch, you'll feel as if wewe can fly.
To anyone kusoma this, if wewe are lucky enough to experience any of these feelings wewe are very lucky. Don't let the person who these feeling are towards go. Cherish them, help them, pick the up when they're upset, onyesha them that wewe will go the moon and back to be with them, and tell them that you'll wait longer than forever for them and most of all enjoy this feeling of being IN LOVE! If wewe let it go it will be something wewe regret for a long time.

When wewe au I au whoever say *I upendo you* they upendo wewe for wewe and everything about wewe and that the way wewe make them feel like nobody else. Now when your in upendo its a closed mduara, duara btwn wewe and the another person. wewe both make each other feel loved and upendo each. Both are on the same level of loving each other . So to be in upendo is to be in a closed mduara, duara with someone who feels same way bout wewe to upendo someone else is to upendo them for them and how they make wewe feel toward them