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Do wewe intelligent FanPoppers think this is fair?

Here's the deal:
My mother thinks I'm ungrateful. Well, I've been having a lot of bad days lately, been kinda moody wewe could say. Usually I'm really loud and weird and I guess-me lol. But no. So, whenever my mom comes nyumbani from work, I try to put on a happy face. But then I think of the unfairness that my mother has placed like:
I can't ride my bike to school until I'm 15 (I live 5 blocks away)
I'm not allowed to wear flip-flops to school, au boots.
I can't go shopping with my friends
And other stuff I choose not to tell you.

Then I remember those stuff and I get all moody again. She has no idea what I go through at school. I'm a little bigger than most of the girls at my school, so I suck in my stomach all the time. Most boys don't like me and I feel so- icky... I hate myself. Low self-esteem. Very low. I just wanna scream my head off and sit in the bathroom stall at school and cry. And when I come out I hope my crush will come and make me feel better. But like I said. Boys don't like me. ;(
And when I come nyumbani that's all swirling around in my head. My older bro is moody all the time and she doesn't scream at him.
Can wewe see my stress?!? There so much zaidi I want to tell y'all but I can't. Right now, anyway.
Could wewe help me maybe? Advice? Do wewe see how it's kind of unfair, au is it confusing? Thanks guys. :/
 FashionBug12 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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ReneeKetchum said:
Wow. I kinda feel the same way. Nobody knows how much I wanna disregard all of the rules, drop out, and start rapping. Anyways, I would pull her aside for a dakika and try to talk to her about it. Letting it out is (usually) the best way to get it off your chest. Plus, it may also help wewe bond a littlemore. Hope it helps. :)
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posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita 
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Thx, but I can't talk to her about anything involving my feelings.
FashionBug12 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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Try to get the courage. If wewe still can't, I suggest listening to the muziki of this guy. His name is Jonsi and he always lifts my spirits, even when I don't need it. And about the Marafiki issue, do the girls make fun of you? If its not as much as the boys, then try to find a girl with your interests.
ReneeKetchum posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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No I can't because I tried to tell her I was having mood swings, and she alisema only crazy people have mood swings. Then she yelled at me and walked away.
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mflorida said:
i guess i kinda know how it feels.i don't really have any Marafiki at my new school,everyone thinks im mentally unstable cuz i don't talk much and i hate them all.my family treats me like dirt
but i do think its kinda unfair that ur mom is telling wewe what not to wear.i'd understand stuff like cut-off shorts,shirts that onyesha ur stomach,piercings,etc. but i dont think wewe should be restrained from wearing boots au flip flops.
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Jeffersonian said:
Self esteem can be very low in the teen years,try talking to the school counselor au keeping a journal about that if wewe don't want to talk with it to your mom ...anyway I know it's easier alisema than done but if wewe want to have privileges try behaving in ways that will make your mom think you're mature enough to handle these things and then maybe wewe can earn them.
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CMxJ2xKA_L0Ve said:
Okay, I want to say I can identify but I don't. Sorry. I'm one of those girls that can't go out without perfect hair, makeup, and clothes. I have sky high self esteem. But even with that, my parents are quite strict too. My pants have to fit a certain way, my neckline has to be up to a certain point, can't wear too much eyeshadow blah blah blah. I know my problems are SO not as big as yours and I'm not going to say "Have a moyo to moyo Hallmark moment talk with your mom! Tell her how wewe feel!" ... Trust me, that doesn't work! The best thing is to accept it. If she can't take it, put a brave face on. Like it doesn't really faze wewe that she's yelling at wewe for no reason. Eventually she'll get bored of trying to change you.

& btw, being bigger than most of the girls at school doesn't matter. I'm definitely not a stick and kwa being myself I get people to like me! So don't worry. Even if guys don't come right out and TELL wewe they like you, it doesn't matter. Guys never do that. Some guys don't even let wewe catch them looking. Have wewe talked to your crush at all?



PS. THIS IS MY OPINION. Haterz gonna hate, but the haterz make me famous :P
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Thank u so much! Luv ur answer! Yes I have talked to my crush, he's in almost all of my classes at school. He has a gf, but he called my feet sexy and gave me a hug for no reason. But the sexy feet thing was probably a joke. The story is: I hate wearing shoes. :P So in english the other day, I didn't wear shoes. This one guy alisema it's nasty, but my crush is like no it's sexy!
FashionBug12 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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Weirdest thing evr... Lol
FashionBug12 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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Well, then um, DUH he likes you. if not as a girlfriend yet, at least as a friend, sweetie. :) and all the best couples start when the people are actually friends. couples based on nothing but superficial attractions end quickly. so, if wewe become good Marafiki with him i can see it growing into something big :) believe me!
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