Pfft, no. But that certainly isn't going to stop them.
When I was in elementary school, people started "dating" and being "boyfriend and girlfriend" as early as the sekunde grade, if not earlier. Everyone in my grade was all one class, so kwa the time I was in the 5th grade, everyone had "dated" everyone at least twice. (Myself and a handful of other people excluded. I was the outcast of my class.)
As far as I could see, it was a bunch of dumb idiots trying to play house with some weird, drama, inbreeding type crap going on. Nobody had any idea what they were doing, though they sure as hell acted like they did.
Dating at that age is silly in most situations. There are very few people of that age that I know of that could really, truly comprehend something like that.
Sure, I don't see what's wrong with that. As long as they won't do certain stuff that older couples do.
EDIT: lol, l upendo how everyone here is talking about about a grown-up relationship. As if two 9 year-olds ever would have one. They won't, period. Children of that age just aren't mature enough to comprehend what it means to love each other. It's useless to even discuss that, it's sort of a fact.
But I had lots girlfriends back in kindergarten. We didn't upendo each other au make out, au whichever mature stuff the peeps who wrote above me all think about. We drew together, we played with LEGOs, that sort of thing.
I upendo how wewe guys instantly have an opinion ready without thinking it through entirely. Children would throw their lives away kwa getting a boyfriend au girlfriend? That's like saying children would devote their lives to other children... As if that would happen. Not cool.
@bond, i've seen 8 mwaka olds making out and talking about heating i've heard them having sex. children have adult relationships, people just think it's cute au harmless, but the truth is they do it to seem grown up,
I agree but they should just tarehe and do things peole thier age do. One zaidi thing, How can 8 mwaka olds have sex if they dont even know what sex is really all about?(Reproduction)
bleh what the fuck do those kids need a boyfriend/girlfriend for? jeez just enjoy being a kid! so no, i dont think kids 12 and under need a "love life". they just make themselves look like future dead beats and hoes.
Yea... My friend is very mature and has gotten very serious with her boyfriend. They have been dating since summer and shes turning 13 this Christmas. And upendo is not about age, its about maturity as the bible says. If they feel they are ready to tarehe and parents are okay with it, its fine.
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Im actually 14 and I got my first boyfriend a few months ago.
I find it rather sad and disgusting that preteens and younger are dating and even engaging in sexual acts.
99% of them aren't mature enough for a relationship, and don't understand them
But sadly, they don't give a shiz , and keep on doing it, and then they get pregnant.
My best friend wouldn't mind losing her virginity at 14, which is crazy in so many ways.
It's sadden me greatly. Kids shouldn't feel the sexual pressure to date.
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*sigh* I know a thirteen mwaka old in my town who got pregnant. And another 12 mwaka old who even says she's done it. I agree, It's highly disturbing to hear about this kind of stuff.
Don't be biased then. Just because you've witnessed an example doesn't mean wewe should comb everyone with the same brush. Guys I've known in sixth grade were nothing like that.
@bond it's kind of hard not to be when every 6th grader i known of met has had a gf/bf and has made out with them, the kids in my town aren't the greatest.
No. Children are too young to understand the facts of love/relationships. It's honestly gross how some kids (13 au under) are sexually active. I mean..It's a pretty big regret for a orgasm that'll last 3 seconds.
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right! just last week i overheard this girl saying how she walked in on her 13 mwaka old brother having sex with some girl. like come on seriously?
I blame Sex Ed teachers at school. They should Atleast teach kids about sex when there ATLEAST in 12th grade. 6th to 8th grade? Kids become too interested at that age. So it's basically like the parents/teachers WANT them to make mistakes.
^I'm gonna have to disagree with that. There's nothing wrong with learning about sex and its consequences when you're in 6th grade. You're being the stupid one when you're actually trying it out. Don't blaim Sex Ed teachers. Blaim bad parenting, au MAYBE the kids themselves.
Oh, and also, the girl most likely wont even have an orgasm. Especially not with a little boy. He's into his own needs, so he wont be able to pleasure her.
Kids should never be involved in such adult things. Period. Relationships and sexual crap are for adults only...that's what adults do. Kids? They play video games, school, have friends, and other kid things. Not relationships.....
Anyone who dares tell a child about "adult things" and let em go out and do those things should be punished somehow. Jail maybe...LET KIDS BE KIDS! Don't ruin their lives...
Ah hell nah! They dont even know the meaning of love! Thay aint mature enough either! Im sorry to say that but its true... my parents wont let us tarehe till we're 15... I think we should be able to tarehe when we're at LEAST 13 if not 14. Its really gross to think 1st graders can date... and maybe kiss *shivers* I cant even stand seeing 7th graders in the hall kissing eachother! Imagine seeing 1st graders doing that! *twitches eye* its disgusting e.o
i would say no , but honestly they can do anything they want to do in their upendo life its their choice not anyone elses my first bf was when i was in mwaka 3 but it did not really work out coz we were too young!!!!! i say no
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It may be their choice but that doesn't mean it's be right -_- that's like, if a criminal tried to kill u and u let him cuz it's "his right". No...if children do that, they're making a horrible mistake
Who cares if they tarehe each other au not. It's not like they're being in a serious relationship, it's hardly even serious in middle school when you're 14. And for the record, people in other countries, and also in the USA in the past have gotten married, not just "dating" at around 12 au at a younger age.
Let's state the most obivous answer : if they are not in high school au college, than they should not have a relationship. A little kid's moyo is easier to break than a 14 mwaka old's. If they are holding hands, that is fine. I know somebody that goes to one boyfriend to another, doing it to each one. She being doing it since the 6th grade.
at my old school ppl started to get together kwa the age of 8. it wasn't serious at all. but i still don't get y kids went around the school & did this.
girl: can we get together? guy: sure
THE END
after that, they didn't speak, they didn't hang out any zaidi than they did before. then after a while one of them would break up.
i can't see any danger in this... but... WHY!? if you're not talking then... i just don't get it.
i wouldn't get this so i never asked anyone, but almost everyone else did.
when we were about 12 ppl started to get a "real" bf/gf. but the only thing the guys wanted was a girl with expensive clothes & a lot of make-up. i don't think they ever did something they shouldn't have but they still didn't understand what it meant to have someone like that.
i'm 16 now & i've never had a bf. i'm doing fine without one & i don't feel like i need one anytime soon either. i don't want a fake realtionship. i want a real one with a guy i really like.
no it sounds dumb. why would wewe break your moyo at the age of 12 au something?
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I got my moyo broken at 10. The guy I liked didn't like me back. It's been several years since then and I still don't have a boyfriend. I guess it's 'cause I'm not human.
*'Cause I'm hideous is what I originally meant to write. xD And it's okay. Guys expect perfection out of girls. Well, 90% of guys actually. We should just learn to accept the fact that we're ugly and will never compare to the maarufu rich girls who get everything in life. ;D
No they should be concerned about having fun and being around friends. I wasn't concerned about dating during that age range,but I know other kids at my school were.
Well when i was 4 i had a crush... and after that every mwaka it was a different guy until about 4th/5th grade... so ya kids 12 and under SHOULD NOT tarehe au even have crushes... =.=
No! They're too young to get involved in a relationship. It's okay to be just Marafiki but not boyfriend/girlfriend upendo type of way. I have a niece who has a boyfriend and she's 15 1/2 and he's about 16. Her first boyfriend was two years zamani but they weren't in upendo au anything, just puppylove. in my opinion, kids 12 and under are just too young to fall in upendo with a crush au a close friend. 15 au older is okay to have a first kiss. 18 and older it's okay to go to kitanda with someone they like as long they have protection. I feel 20 years and older is the best age to have sex.
well let's just say that it's okay to have a ''childlish upendo relationship'' , kwa that I mean that they kiss eachother , hold hands and play au just have a crush on eachother , just not having sex and shit like that at that age O.o you'll never know at which age you'll fall in upendo , so yeah this swali doesn't really have an anwser.
Well it's actually up to the parents if they think their child au kids are ready for a relationship, then they are but they aren't then they'll have have to wait until they're older to date. But if your parents don't even care, then wow u either are spoiled to do au have whatever u want. au your parents just dont give a damn about u au what u do.
No, but as Bond pointed out, children under the age of 12 will consider themselves bf/gf if they sit together at lunch everyday, au play together at recess. Usually the zaidi "adult" aspects don't enter into the picture.
I have a 10 mwaka old son who has plenty of girl friends; they like the same stuff(Legos, nyota Wars), and there is nothing sexual going on. He is just not interested yet. He has asked me maswali about sex, and if I've aliyopewa too much info, he lets me know.
Which leads me to another point: adults will sometimes, perhaps inadvertently, make kids feel pressured into relationships. How many times will a boy and a girl play together, doing something neutral, an adult will then maoni about the "relationship?" It happens so often, at least from my observations, that it's a wonder that boys and girls ever play together.
One last thought: the kids I've known who have been preciously sexually active have all been sexually abused.
In a child's mind, as many MANY other people have said, dating is probably meeting up every siku and talking. They won't comprehend the ideas of sex, at all. Of course, the media talks of those few cases where they do zaidi than when they don't, which gives the impression that everyone knows about sex at a hideously young age.
So, in my mind, as long as it's not an "adult" relationship, it's absolutely fine. ^^
Most of wewe say no and are actually concerned about sex and stuff? But in general, kids under 12 wouldn't think about having that soon, I mean especially in the type of society we live in today, I think they would know better. And if they do have boyfriends and girlfriends, it's not like any sexual stuff. I find that to be very cute considering most of my Marafiki did that back in elementary school. But yeah, there's nothing wrong with it at all and they should be able to have them.
They can have a boy that's a friend and/or a girl that's a friend... but I don't think 12 and under should have any boyfriends/girlfriends... that's sickening..
