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The guy I have a major crush on has a girlfriend now. What should I do?

I have liked him since last summer. He is sweet and smart and cute and popular. He treats girls very well. But, just when I started to think he liked me, and just when I figured that I would have a chance, he gets a girlfriend. I cried to my friend when I found out. Plus, he is in a different grade, so in the school mwaka we never have classes together. I never got a chance to tell him how much I care...IDK what I should do! Help!
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I have a similar case and IDK what to do 2...
Aglaia posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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me too. to Aglaia
summerlynn1978 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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I would just tell him and see what he says au I probally would just wait till they break up I do not even know even though I have to deal with 2 boyfriends but my 1st one had a girlfriend till the siku he was new till the 3weeks till school was out then he asked me and I alisema yes so we are still dating but I do not really trust him because it is the summer but yeah I am so sorry if this does not help wewe but that is all I had to say cause I do not want to talk about my sekunde boyfriend so good luck and like I alisema I am sorry if this do not help wewe
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IsabellaAzuria said:
Well try to tell him what wewe feel about him, don't try to force anything though. Just do it kwa a letter, through the internet au cellphone message. If he really likes you, he will tell wewe and leave his current gf for wewe BUT wewe may not insist if he tells wewe that he is happy with his girlfriend. In that case anything wewe would try to do to wreck his relationship with the girl would make him dislike you. In a case in which he would betray his girlfriend with wewe and tell wewe he'll leave her soon, don't fall for that. Either he loves wewe and leaves her au he just doesn't. I wish wewe the best of luck for that. Even if he doesn't like wewe this way, I'm sure wewe will find someone who will upendo you.
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that is a great ansewer and I agree with wewe
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xBellaxEwardx21 said:
Ok, My bestfriend has almost the same problem alittle diffrent thoguh. He has a girlfriend there is not to much wewe can do about that. wewe dont want to break them up even if wewe like him alot. The first thing wewe want to do is talk to this guy. Tell him that wewe do have feelinfgs for him, tell him your willing to wait it out and see how he feels. wewe never want to pressur someone cause then they totaly wont like wewe back. After wewe guys talk i would lay low and give him some space to think. If he comes back and says he has feeling for wewe to, then wait it out and see where things go with him and his gf. If he says that he dosnt like you, well let it go. But i know how hard it is to let it go, always keep a foot in. Becuase wewe never know, he might be hiding his feelings cause he is scared. Most guys can not express thiuer feelings beacuse even though its hard to belive. Guys have feelings too! lol so jsut see how things go! ZTell him wewe ned 2 talk to hima bout it cause apprently wewe both like eachother as freiends au as zaidi then friends. wewe two need to work things out. Cause mabye he dose like wewe but he thinks wewe dont like him and thats why he choose to go out with someone else. But i know how hard it can be to talk to a guy. Im a girl too! wewe need to talk to him in person ,that is always the best way. It is the hardest but best way. wewe ahve to startoff kwa telling him how wewe feel. Then ask him if he ever did have feeling for you. He might lie to ur face, being it is face to face conctat and guys can get pretty....ummmm how do wewe say embarssed with that. But wewe jsut have to come straight out and tell him how wewe feel. He might not resepnd the way wewe want him to but he will think your brave and amaazing for talking to him in person and not over text au barua pepe ;) even on the phone will work after wewe have worked things out. Add me and tell me how things go :)
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GOOD JOB
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Lunatic said:
Wait until his current relationship finishes, then tell him how wewe feel.

DO NOT flirt while he is still with someone. Would wewe like it if some girl started flirting with your boyfriend? (A: No. wewe wouldn't.)

Obviously, since he is going out with her, he likes her. Even if it makes wewe miserable, wewe should respect that she makes him happy. (Isn't it just hell?)
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that is right
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LabraLege said:
maarufu guys will never admire some girl crying for him :) don't bother.
But if wewe want to have him wewe need to be diffirent from his girlfriend. To get his attention. I don't know, maybe wewe should just change your hair color to pink (it helped my sister) au do something that he would never dare to do...
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she shouldn't have to change herself for a guy. And she shouldn't have to be better then hia grilfriend. She should just beherself! He is Marafiki with her cause she is herself and apprently he likes her too!
xBellaxEwardx21 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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It's not about changing for HIM!
LabraLege posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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yeah I agree with LabraLege it is not about changing yourself for a guy so just tell him how wewe feel and don't do what anyone else tells wewe just say what wewe believe in and WHO wewe believe in
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Eclipse said:
I would ask him if he knows that u like him au if he likes u and hes just tryfing to make u jelous cause u no how ego centeric guys can be but anyway, i would ask him and go from that.
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That is very true 2, guys liek to make girls jelous! ALOT! haha
xBellaxEwardx21 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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that is SOOOOOO true because my cousin told my boyfriend that I a dating NOW that I liked him and he alisema I know so we have been going out for about a mwezi now I think I am not sure it was 3weeks before school was out but I upendo him with all my moyo but on the other hand one of my brothers Marafiki asked me out so now I have to deal with both of them BUT I upendo my first baby first I don't rally like the other one but sorry I agree with wewe Eclipse
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peterslover said:
How long zamani did he get his new girlfriend? That can make a difference. If it's been months, then do wewe really want to be the one who breaks up a relationship? If it hasn't been that long, then do wewe now have the courage to stop him between classes and mention that wewe care alot for him? Stay true to yourself-NEVER be something that your not just for a guy, au anyone!! I hope I am of some help. ♥
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 How long zamani did he get his new girlfriend? That can make a difference. If it's been months, then do wewe really want to be the one who breaks up a relationship? If it hasn't been that long, then do wewe now have the courage to stop him between classes and mention that wewe care alot for him? Stay true to yourself-NEVER be something that your not just for a guy, au anyone!! I hope I am of some help. ♥
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About 2/3 weeks ago...
DolphinLover97 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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well wewe could still go for it don't be scared if she gets mad it is ok because. I know someone who is going to go to 7th grade with me inayofuata mwaka and she wants to fight me because I am dating my boyfriend and she use to like him so it is ok
22478 posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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GO FOR IT
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cheery_blossom said:
Wait it out, flirting nonstop (subtly) and catch him on the rebound.
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Why would wewe want to just be the rebound chick while he is still getting over his ex?
Lunatic posted zaidi ya mwaka mmoja uliopita
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no bad idea
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sweet_n_silly said:
That happens to me alot. I'm not sure if this is the best thing to do, but I just wait it out. I flirt a little bit, when his gf isn't around of course, and hope they breakup happily. Beware of the gf though!!!! If she even starts to get suspicious, pull back. other than that, don't try to be the one to throw a wrench in their relationship and be patient. When things go sour, which they most likely will, be ready to catch him. That's when the hook drives the deepest.
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hujambo me too want to be my shabiki
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Black_cat_ said:
there are a few ways to deal with this, 1 is 2 tell him how u feel and dont expect anything from him, wait till he breaks up with her and tell him (is risky i did it and it turned out she liked me b4 she got a bf), au hide ur feelings till they go away. all of the choices r hard and most of them dont lead to anything. ur best bet 2 me is 2 just tel him right now how u feel and just see what happenes hun, otherwise ul just be waiting and either hopeing au not knowing
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ok????
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Twili12 said:
Hey, it's okay if this happens to you. You're not alone on this one. Well, what I would do is, just wait until he breaks up with his girlfriend. It depends what age wewe are at. Like, if wewe are not in high school yet, them breaking up is HIGHLY likely. But, if wewe do think this boy may have had au does have feelings for you, he might realize that you're the one he truly likes. I'm sorry if this doesn't help you, but feel free to send me a message.For now, just try and talk to him nicely when ever wewe see him. Act lady like, polite, smart, and ask him some questions, don't let yourself do all the talking lol! But I'm sure wewe will be okay. Ask him how his relationship is doing. If he points out some of his girlfriends' flaws, (ex. so and so shops too much. So and so talks about herself too much. Etc.) then try to onyesha him that you're not like that. Well, that's a summery about how I would try to go at this situation, but if wewe still have some questions, feel free to message me. I'm sorry if this doesn't help. Good luck!
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