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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
OH GAH!
I am so sorry. That is really terrible for wewe I am SURE, & hurts, especially IF she marries the S.O.B. you'd be stuck around him the rest of your life au length of the marriage! You'd HAVE to get over it au it could drive an awful wedge between wewe & your sister au make the relationship "awkward."
wewe really NEED to talk to "her" about this. If appealing to her feelings does not work, at least she'll know & be aware. I know wewe are going to have to accept it, but it is really not easy...easier alisema than done. TEN YEARS is a long time & wewe already feel like the guy is a "jerk" because wewe have "known" him & "jerk" marrying into fam-not good-making babies combined with your fam blood-no jerk babies! lol (Try not to take it out on any poss future nieces au nephews & just upendo & be good anyway-try, (I am sure wewe would), because was comes around goes around & it won't be babies fault, BUT it has NOT come to that yet & if the guy truly IS a jerk maybe she'll come to see that of her own.)
I have never had to face that problem. My sister is over 12 years older than me -and even at 18 au so when her boyfriends loved on me, hugged & kissed me and alisema they thought I would grow up to be pretty au a "knock out" (when I was just a small chubby LITTLE pre-K-er child, even that made my sister jealous, (she later told me). 0.0
I am zaidi considerate of my GIRLFRIENDS & we are not even people who HAVE to be together in our lives, but I would think as family she should care how wewe feel au at least be able to talk.
I understand if she feels differently, and what is hard is that wewe may have to practice some hardcore understanding too which could make things VERY hard on you. that said, wewe need to seek your own support and supportive Marafiki who can upendo wewe through this. It's rough. I think it is even rougher- not the guy, but the facts of the matter when wewe are not okay with it & how it might hurt the relationship between wewe & your sister & that she is willing to do that putting the guy before YOU.
I don't know you, but I would not think anyone deserves that...just to let wewe know. I think sometimes it is just zaidi a case of people being very selfish & only seeing from their own point of view-wanting what they want. I can see not wanting to throw away love, but she did not start out in-love & she may be jeopardizing a sibling over a lover that may not stay "in-love" au even last. I can't say as it sounds like a good decision. I know it happens, & maybe it can & has worked out for others (You), so there is always hope. If wewe pray, I would pray about it. Who knows, maybe there is a lesson in there for each to learn, au a reason.
I am just sorry that wewe are going through this & I WOULD seek to hear from those who have had this exact thing happen to them & see how they handled the process of dealing with it.
I know wewe are hurt, try not to add to your pain.
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