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mom has a new boyfriend, but all i feel is resentment? help? (long)

so I would post this on a relationship foramu but all of them are dead. So some background info, there are 5 of us kids and my mom is still married but we all knew her relationship with our father was dead due to the fact that he was gone due to military purposes and they got into arguments every damn siku of the year. it all started back in August, where mom brought around her "friend"as she put it. She never really told us that he was her boyfriend, even after she started displaying public displays of affection. I am forced to watch the kids, which i don't really mind for work purposes because of how little family we have but she goes out almost every weekend with her new boyfriend and I have to turn down invitations to go to a Marafiki house au even my own girlfriends house because I am always watching kids that aren't even mine. I feel zaidi like the unpaid babysitter then a real sister au daughter with a normal social life. but anyways my mom brought in this new guy who is nice, but all I feel is hatred and resentment toward him, which makes me unhappy and my mom unhappy. Me and mom always get into arguments because of my sour, wamekula mood.Half of me wants to be happy for her but half of me hates it with a burning passion. See our father was only here for really two months out of the mwaka and when he was all he does was buy us kids things so we can shut up and didn't complain, then he would leave again. I don't know what it feels like to have a real father and I absolutely hate this new change of some guy being around. Why should I take the time to get to know his guy if he will just leave. I really want to be happy for my mom but I feel so angry all the time. she already works all the time because our dad never gives her money for us kids, she barley has any times for us kids, and now a boyfriend on juu of all that? I feel like her time is limited and that she never wants to hang out with any of us. We haven't had a family game night in 3 years. I'm so torn up inside and I

Another thing to be quite frank it's also wrong for wewe to be happy for her. wewe need to consider how would wewe feel if wewe were in your dad's place. Cheating is just an asshole thing to do.

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BlindBandit92 said:

For starters she's cheating and that's an asshole songesha as it is. If any guy did that so many girls would want to crucify him. >.>

Honestly I wouldn't be happy either because of how unethical and morally messed up it is. Your father is serving
and because your mom is lonely she gets a boyfriend? Maybe she shouldn't have married your father in the first place.

I am sorry. I automatically don't approve of her for doing that. Its deceitful. I've alisema before I wouldn't commit completely to a woman but I'd tell all of them beforehand and if they didn't like it. I'd just leave them for someone else ideally.

TL;DR I wouldn't be happy with it at all because of how scummy it is. I'd like to say logically I'd ignore it and what happens happens but due to personal life experiences and my reactions can't say it so concretely. I can't really help you.