1) The Hard man act - guys will put on an act of being hard for 2 reasons: a) They are with mates and having some banter. If ther is banter, there is Hard man acting. b) They fancy you. Some guys will try to give the impression that they are strong, athletic etc. But this is only one way of a guy trying to impress you. If a guy does not do this, it doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you. (see 2)
2) Guys will be sensitive. A guy will be mature and caring around wewe if he fancies you. He wants to onyesha he's not just thinking about sex, and is after a meaningful relationship. He wants to present himself as someone wewe can trust and depend on.
3) For a gender that spends a lot of its time boasting about penis sizes, when it comes to asking wewe out, it is rare that we have the balls. We like to have as much confirmation as we can that wewe like us back so we don't make fools of ourselves, au destroy a friendship. A mutual friend who gives advice to both sides is very effective in speeding the process of building up the courage. If a very close friend of yours has aliyopewa him reason to believe wewe like him, he is a lot zaidi likely to ask wewe out.
4) conversation tiptoes. A guy will become zaidi confident and act zaidi freely the mor he discovers about you. For instance, if he discovers wewe have a dirty mind, only then will he crack open the massive stores innuendos, dirty jokes and double entendres that have been accumulated over the years. If we discover that wewe like football, then that may become a common feature of conversation.
5) Guys will think about everything especially if what wewe say could be interpreted in zaidi than one way. This is because girls torment guys everyday kwa making it so difficult to work out what you're really thinking and if you're interested. To an extent it's fun - there's no describing that feelnig when wewe think that a girl might like wewe but you're not entirely sure. Instant adrenalin high.
6) We avoid packs. Girls are terrifying enough without having to deal with a large group. If a guy has not had any major conversations with wewe for a while, it might not be that he isn't interested, he will just feel zaidi comfortable if he's not surrounded kwa girls and "on his own" then a guy's confidence will evaporate in seconds. We're way zaidi comfortable if we can have a conversation with wewe alone. We don't have to deal with every one of your Marafiki watching us and making judgements on us and worknig out we're into wewe and telling you. We will play it salama if possible.
7) Look at what effort do we make to chat to you? Who's first to start a Facebook au text chat? Will he approach wewe when with your friends? Will he leave his group of Marafiki if he sees wewe walking kwa and talk to you? This shows he ranks your company above banter with friends, and means wewe are important to him.
8) Like girls do this, it is also a common tactic amongst guys. A guy who often texts wewe first may not start a conversation kwa text for a while, to see if wewe will. This gives him an idea of how well wewe value his conversation, au he may think wewe need some space au will be asleep. He won't want to seem too keen. If a guy wewe fancy doesn't text wewe for a while, text him.
9) Guys upendo compliments. Doesn't matter if its part of an insult e.g. "Nah if i was in charge, I suppose i would kep wewe around. I need SOMEONE who can make me laugh". This shows wewe value a guy and makes him feel he's doing a good job.
10) The Chase. If a guy loves you, he will chase wewe around the world. But wewe tread a fine line. Nobody's going to wait around forever. Remember to drop some hints, give him some things to think about while he's gonig after you, uif you're playing hard to get, au he may think you're not interested and let wewe walk away.
11) a guy will often look at wewe across a room au from a distance if he likes you. If wewe look at him, then don't take too much stock in if he turns away, maintains his stare, au tries to look as if he's daydreaming. Each guy is different. And while some will be confident enough to maintain the loook, some will try to disguise it.
12) Sometimes a guy will go out of his way to help wewe out. He wants to onyesha he's kind. Look at if he does this to anybody else? If he does this to someone close to wewe that he knows reasonably well, he may be trying to get some inside info on you. If he does this only to you, then he's inaonyesha an interest.
13) Manpoints - not exclusive to guys. If wewe play COD, au like football, au horror films, then this will give wewe a lot of respect from the guy. We know that girls like this aren't common and although it isn't the be all and end all, it certainly helps.
14) Help us out. Sometimes we want wewe to make the first move. We might be too scared, au unsure if wewe like us, au just plain confused. Sometimes, (but not always) a guy erally wants wewe to clear things up, and help him to understand the situation. Doesn't have to be a massive spoiler, just give him a less subtle indicator every now and then.
15) Just like girls travel in groups and tell each other everything, guys often will give their close Marafiki regular updates, au even include their close friend (especially if that friend is taken) in your conversations as backup, another person they trust who can advise them, notice different things. Even if wewe start going out, if a guy is wise, he won't stop the updates. He will know that the chase isn't over, that wewe are still keeping him on his toes.
16) If a guy doesn't pick up on signals, au doesn't ask wewe out even if wewe think you've made your feelings obvious. Sometimes we're hopelessly oblivious, au just need things spelled out for us so that we can build up the courage to ask wewe out.
17) Confidant - A common idea among guys is that if wewe become a girl's confidant, wewe are as good as in there. A common method of attempting to reach this position is telling wewe the really deep stuff in their lives - their biggest secrets, things they dont talk about often. Do they mantion problems at home? The theory is that if they open up and onyesha they trust you, then wewe are likely to do the same.
18) advice on other girls. If this ever comes your way, then be alert. this will tell wewe for sure if the guy is into wewe au not. If he asks advice on getting with an anonymous girl, wewe might be that girl. If he asks advice on how to let down gently a girl he doesn't fancy, but is single then think. Why is he letting wewe know this? He trusts you. Is he keeping himself single for somebody? Is he making himself look desirable? Then there's a flipside. If he mentions a specific name, and wants advice on getting together with her, then he's not into you.
19) Hypothetical maswali are sometimes used because its not subtle but the guy feels easier if he uses it because it's not saying "I upendo wewe do wewe fancy me?" It's a way of telling wewe he likes wewe but it makes it easier to do so. Also, then it gives the impresion that if wewe say no, then things may not be so awkward.
20) We think about the girl we fancy roughly 22 hours a day. However it is not just "she looks hot, i want her in my bed". He will be thinking of hints you've aliyopewa him, imagining wewe two together, ways to ask wewe out, au just thinking about how much he likes wewe and reflecting on good times spent with you.
21) A guy may slip things you've told him into a conversation regularly. This demonstrates he's a good listener and thinks about what wewe say.
2) Guys will be sensitive. A guy will be mature and caring around wewe if he fancies you. He wants to onyesha he's not just thinking about sex, and is after a meaningful relationship. He wants to present himself as someone wewe can trust and depend on.
3) For a gender that spends a lot of its time boasting about penis sizes, when it comes to asking wewe out, it is rare that we have the balls. We like to have as much confirmation as we can that wewe like us back so we don't make fools of ourselves, au destroy a friendship. A mutual friend who gives advice to both sides is very effective in speeding the process of building up the courage. If a very close friend of yours has aliyopewa him reason to believe wewe like him, he is a lot zaidi likely to ask wewe out.
4) conversation tiptoes. A guy will become zaidi confident and act zaidi freely the mor he discovers about you. For instance, if he discovers wewe have a dirty mind, only then will he crack open the massive stores innuendos, dirty jokes and double entendres that have been accumulated over the years. If we discover that wewe like football, then that may become a common feature of conversation.
5) Guys will think about everything especially if what wewe say could be interpreted in zaidi than one way. This is because girls torment guys everyday kwa making it so difficult to work out what you're really thinking and if you're interested. To an extent it's fun - there's no describing that feelnig when wewe think that a girl might like wewe but you're not entirely sure. Instant adrenalin high.
6) We avoid packs. Girls are terrifying enough without having to deal with a large group. If a guy has not had any major conversations with wewe for a while, it might not be that he isn't interested, he will just feel zaidi comfortable if he's not surrounded kwa girls and "on his own" then a guy's confidence will evaporate in seconds. We're way zaidi comfortable if we can have a conversation with wewe alone. We don't have to deal with every one of your Marafiki watching us and making judgements on us and worknig out we're into wewe and telling you. We will play it salama if possible.
7) Look at what effort do we make to chat to you? Who's first to start a Facebook au text chat? Will he approach wewe when with your friends? Will he leave his group of Marafiki if he sees wewe walking kwa and talk to you? This shows he ranks your company above banter with friends, and means wewe are important to him.
8) Like girls do this, it is also a common tactic amongst guys. A guy who often texts wewe first may not start a conversation kwa text for a while, to see if wewe will. This gives him an idea of how well wewe value his conversation, au he may think wewe need some space au will be asleep. He won't want to seem too keen. If a guy wewe fancy doesn't text wewe for a while, text him.
9) Guys upendo compliments. Doesn't matter if its part of an insult e.g. "Nah if i was in charge, I suppose i would kep wewe around. I need SOMEONE who can make me laugh". This shows wewe value a guy and makes him feel he's doing a good job.
10) The Chase. If a guy loves you, he will chase wewe around the world. But wewe tread a fine line. Nobody's going to wait around forever. Remember to drop some hints, give him some things to think about while he's gonig after you, uif you're playing hard to get, au he may think you're not interested and let wewe walk away.
11) a guy will often look at wewe across a room au from a distance if he likes you. If wewe look at him, then don't take too much stock in if he turns away, maintains his stare, au tries to look as if he's daydreaming. Each guy is different. And while some will be confident enough to maintain the loook, some will try to disguise it.
12) Sometimes a guy will go out of his way to help wewe out. He wants to onyesha he's kind. Look at if he does this to anybody else? If he does this to someone close to wewe that he knows reasonably well, he may be trying to get some inside info on you. If he does this only to you, then he's inaonyesha an interest.
13) Manpoints - not exclusive to guys. If wewe play COD, au like football, au horror films, then this will give wewe a lot of respect from the guy. We know that girls like this aren't common and although it isn't the be all and end all, it certainly helps.
14) Help us out. Sometimes we want wewe to make the first move. We might be too scared, au unsure if wewe like us, au just plain confused. Sometimes, (but not always) a guy erally wants wewe to clear things up, and help him to understand the situation. Doesn't have to be a massive spoiler, just give him a less subtle indicator every now and then.
15) Just like girls travel in groups and tell each other everything, guys often will give their close Marafiki regular updates, au even include their close friend (especially if that friend is taken) in your conversations as backup, another person they trust who can advise them, notice different things. Even if wewe start going out, if a guy is wise, he won't stop the updates. He will know that the chase isn't over, that wewe are still keeping him on his toes.
16) If a guy doesn't pick up on signals, au doesn't ask wewe out even if wewe think you've made your feelings obvious. Sometimes we're hopelessly oblivious, au just need things spelled out for us so that we can build up the courage to ask wewe out.
17) Confidant - A common idea among guys is that if wewe become a girl's confidant, wewe are as good as in there. A common method of attempting to reach this position is telling wewe the really deep stuff in their lives - their biggest secrets, things they dont talk about often. Do they mantion problems at home? The theory is that if they open up and onyesha they trust you, then wewe are likely to do the same.
18) advice on other girls. If this ever comes your way, then be alert. this will tell wewe for sure if the guy is into wewe au not. If he asks advice on getting with an anonymous girl, wewe might be that girl. If he asks advice on how to let down gently a girl he doesn't fancy, but is single then think. Why is he letting wewe know this? He trusts you. Is he keeping himself single for somebody? Is he making himself look desirable? Then there's a flipside. If he mentions a specific name, and wants advice on getting together with her, then he's not into you.
19) Hypothetical maswali are sometimes used because its not subtle but the guy feels easier if he uses it because it's not saying "I upendo wewe do wewe fancy me?" It's a way of telling wewe he likes wewe but it makes it easier to do so. Also, then it gives the impresion that if wewe say no, then things may not be so awkward.
20) We think about the girl we fancy roughly 22 hours a day. However it is not just "she looks hot, i want her in my bed". He will be thinking of hints you've aliyopewa him, imagining wewe two together, ways to ask wewe out, au just thinking about how much he likes wewe and reflecting on good times spent with you.
21) A guy may slip things you've told him into a conversation regularly. This demonstrates he's a good listener and thinks about what wewe say.
